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- From Struggling to Solving - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2014 from Tina TessinaHealthy relationships are built on a foundation, or infrastructure, of clear thinking, problem solving, and mutual support. Any willing couple can learn to build a happy relationship, if they stop reacting and learn to respond thoughtfully. As an individual you have ideas and beliefs about how ...
Views: 1628 - Dear Dr. Romance: He said I was a false friend. - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I love reading your articles here and on Divine Caroline, and I always look forward to the new ones. I have a long time online friend. We have been friends for about three-four years, and I even felt I was in love with him for a while - and told him so. He said he ...
Views: 1574 - “Why Did He Ask To Delete My Number?” - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2014 from Lorraine JacksonDear Lorraine, I met a guy a year ago. We dated weekly for 2 months. Our dates were fun and passionate. Then after that he started asking me out on dates every couple weeks or so for the next 4 months. The dates were still very passionate and so much fun. One day he started to invite me ...
Views: 7214 - Discover the 5 Dating and Relationship Love Myths - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2014 from Amy SchoenFor many, love is a mystery. We grow up hearing fairytale beliefs about love from our family members and our friends. Many times these beliefs don’t serve us as we are searching for true love. I have discovered some myths that I feel don’t really hold true for my clients and ...
Views: 2683(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: he can't forgive me because I did it first. - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm in high school and going through a rough patch in my relationship I have been with my boyfriendFor 17 months, sort of on an off, but 5 months ago we broke up and I slept With another male an yesterday he told me he had sex with another female after I told him ...
Views: 1555 - Keys to a Happy Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2014 from Tina TessinaEveryone wants the best relationship they can have. The markers of a happy relationship are: Cooperation/partnership, mutuality, laughter and affection. Whether you’re in a relationship now or hoping to be, these keys will help you create a more loving and happier partnership. ...
Views: 1554 - Relationships: What Does It Mean When Someone Says They Are Too Busy? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone is available at one point in time, it doesn’t mean that they will continue to be available. There is the chance that they will continue to be around or everything could change, and they may be extremely hard to get hold of. However, without even going into how much ...
Views: 9225 - Dear Dr. Romance: It's tuff on me waiting for her to get it together. - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: How can I sign up for your Happiness Tips newsletter? I want to read "The One Who Got Away." Also which article would you recommend reading in my case? I met a wonderful lady who loves dancing like I do, and for almost 8 months she has been getting her house ...
Views: 1599 - Dear Dr. Romance: I discovered she is lesbian - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Nine months ago, I met a girl on Facebook. my words about many subject attract her , then she add me as her friends, and I discovered that she is lesbian. Before that, I didn'tknow there was lesbian world but when we chat I get to know her very ...
Views: 1591 - Are you a People-Pleaser? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2014 from Darlene LancerEveryone starts out in life wanting to be safe, loved, and accepted. It’s in our DNA. Some of us figure out that the best way to do this is to put aside what we want or feel and allow someone else’s needs and feelings take precedence. This works for a while. It feels natural, and there’s less ...
Views: 1595 - Relationships: What Causes Caretaking Behaviour? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile relationships can be a combination of both giving and receiving, they can also end up being out of balance. It is then no longer an adult to adult relationship; it is something that takes on the characteristics of a parent-child relationship. This might create the impression that they ...
Views: 1972 - Dear Dr. Romance: I think I have a tendency to lose myself in a relationship - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was wondering if I could ask you for some advice. I'm feeling so troubled. I got divorced a few years ago. Since then, I became involved with a man more than ten years older than me. I got a work assignment out of town, and he was adamant about keeping a ...
Views: 1708 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Abandoned When A Relationship Ends? - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people are able to handle break ups reasonably well, there are other people who find them to be extremely difficult. And although it could all depend on how long the relationship has lasted for or on the kind of connection that they had with the other person, these two factors are not ...
Views: 2009 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Repeat Unhealthy Relationship Patterns? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust because one is with someone who looks different to the person they were in a relationship with before, it doesn’t mean that their experience is going to be any different. And if ones last experience was generally healthy and functional, this is not going to be something that one is going to ...
Views: 2240 - The Freedom of Maturity - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2014 from Tina TessinaAnd then, not expecting it, you become middle-aged…You achieve a wonderful freedom. It is a positive thing. —Doris Lessing Maturity or middle age means different things to different people, but for most, reaching a mature age means developing a new set of ...
Views: 1403(2 votes) - 3 Most Fear-based and Void of Unconditional Love Questions About A New Lover - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2014 from Scott & Stephen PetulloWe believe the primary purpose of all love relationships is opportunity for spiritual growth, yet few seem to share our belief considering the three common questions about a new relationship partner that often lead to love life suffering. It’s understandable why people today approach love ...
Views: 1581 - Autonomy vs Dependency - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2014 from Tina TessinaSelf-determination and self-respect are the necessary keys to take full responsibility for and control over your own life. Without these keys, it’s easy to be caught up in the fantasy that there is someone else who will make it better, who can or should take total care of you, ...
Views: 1987 - ***7 Ways to Date Successfully as an Introvert - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2014 from Amy SchoenMy clients all have different personalities! Some clients have more outgoing, extroverted personalities where they do not have any problem meeting people and have more of a problem choosing a good partner for themselves. Then there are more introverted clients that I work with who are more ...
Views: 2750 - Obsessions and Love Addiction - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2014 from Darlene LancerWhen an obsession dominates us, it steals our will and saps all the pleasure out of life. We become numb to people and events, while our mind replays the same dialogue images, or words. In a conversation, we have little interest in what the other person is saying and soon talk about our ...
Views: 1799 - ***7 Ways that Dating for Marriage Differs from Just Regular Dating - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2014 from Amy SchoenOne of my clients, Mindy, has never been married and in her late 30‘s has been dating and been in several relationships off and on for most of her adult life. When she started coaching with me she was in relationship with a professional man in his early 40’s for about 2 years ...
Views: 2974 - Dr. Romance on Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2014 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: It was one of those magical encounters with a personal truth—you know how it feels. I was fifteen, in ninth-grade English. The teacher, Mr. Rizzutto, read us a poem, and it had such a profound effect on me that even five decades later, I’m still using it as a guide. The ...
Views: 1773 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Try To Get Back With Their Ex? - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationship comes to an end it can be an incredibly painful experience. And this doesn’t even need to be a relationship was fulfilling or healthy; as it can be painful no matter how ‘good’ or ‘bad’ it was. So this means that someone can have the desire to get back with their ex and ...
Views: 1613 - Detox Your Life - by Submitted on May 31, 2014 from Tina TessinaMany of my clients come in with complaints about personal habits that feel toxic in their lives. Just as you can detox your body when you’re feeling sluggish, it’s also possible to detox your emotional life. Here are some of the most common ways your life can back up on you, and how ...
Views: 1436 - Dating for Guys - by Submitted on May 29, 2014 from nancy traversLast week I wrote about dating from a women’s perspective. But what about men? It takes two to tango, and men find dating these days just as daunting as women do. Maybe more. Here are some tips: Be Self-Aware ‘Know thyself’ is always good advice, and especially when dating. If you are a ...
Views: 1298 - Dear Dr. Romance: He isn't shy about holding hands with a black girl - by Submitted on May 26, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I started dating a man 2 years younger than me, who is from another country. I thought he was very sweet and gentlemanly and of course I'm really attracted to him, and he eventually asked me on a date. We've had several dates, and he's very considerate, very ...
Views: 1781 - The One Invisible Quality That Ruins Your Love Life - by Submitted on May 26, 2014 from Scott & Stephen PetulloThe most overlooked quality that makes or breaks your love life is not bad luck, but personal timing. We’re not referring to trying to time the beginning of a relationship for success, such as planning a wedding on the day of a New Moon. Our findings tell us that other forces, such as an ...
Views: 1508 - 4 Myths That Are Making It Hard For You To Find "Mr. Right" - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2014 from Lorraine JacksonAre you totally baffled as to why you only seem to attract men who are far from ideal for you? Are you tired of ending up with men who aren’t ready for the same type of relationship you want? Before you give up on the possibility of ever meeting guys who truly measure up and want what you ...
Views: 1368 - Dr. Romance on The Perks of Dating a Divorced Person - by Submitted on May 24, 2014 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance asks: Should you date someone who is divorced? Does it mean the person can't commit or trashes relaitonships? It's possible that those things are true, but let's look on the positive side. What are the perks of people who have already been through ...
Views: 2115 - Dear Dr. Romance: I want to find myself - by Submitted on May 23, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was married at the age of 21, was married for 7 years, separated from my spouse a little over a year ago, and I'm in the process of divorce. I dated various people shortly after separation, but I was lost, broke some hearts, and simply didn't know ...
Views: 1798(2 votes) - Dating in the Digital Age - by Submitted on May 23, 2014 from nancy traversI have a friend who protested she didn’t like the “small talk” required in early dating, and wanted to go straight to a relationship. You can go online, research your prospective date and learn everything you need to know about him, right? Wrong. This is one process that you can’t cut short. ...
Views: 1345 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Try To Impress The Opposite Sex? - by Submitted on May 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon for someone to hear that they should just be themselves around the opposite sex or the same sex, depending on their sexual preference. And while this sounds accurate and exactly what one should be doing, it doesn’t mean that this is what always happens. There will be some ...
Views: 2708 - Turn on Your Charm - by Submitted on May 16, 2014 from Tina TessinaEver wondered how con artists can get away with all they do? They know how to charm people, and they have mastered the art of looking as if they belong. Because they have no feelings of guilt about misrepresenting themselves, they can pull it off. But you don’t have to be dishonest and ...
Views: 1795 - How To Write A Love Letter - by Submitted on May 15, 2014 from Tina TessinaWriting has a powerful effect on our emotional state. The following exercise is designed to help you fully express feelings that may have lain dormant for a long time, or may be too intense and jumbled for your to process effectively. You’ll find it helpful in expressing what you feel, ...
Views: 1586 - Romance is Not Necessarily Love - by Submitted on May 09, 2014 from Tina TessinaIn romantic depictions of love, cute little images of cherubs and cupids abound. But Cupid, in his real incarnation, is not so sweet and cuddly. His arrows can create deep and lasting wounds, and can strike you blind and irrational in a heartbeat. A few disaster-filled run-ins with Cupid’s ...
Views: 1490 - ***Is Your Partner Your Life Partner? - by Submitted on May 09, 2014 from Emma ViglucciHonor your Self. What does that mean? In my book, it means getting in touch with our Core, True, Authentic Self, our Soul, and operating from it in all we do. This means being in connection with our Self, knowing our Self. Most of the time we are in a fog and cacophony of daily minutiae, ...
Views: 2058 - Dear Dr. Romance: Though we slept together while his wife was away, I regretted it - by Submitted on May 08, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a woman in my mid-twenties from India and working in the middle east in a professional job. I had a brief arranged marriage and am now getting divorced. One of my business clients, who is an arab and over forty has been married for many years but claims his ...
Views: 1436 - Single Mom Dating Another Suitor - by Submitted on May 03, 2014 from Jessica RectorWith Suitor #1, he and I talked via text and on the phone a lot. Then when we met in person, there wasn't any chemistry. A friend told me next time to not talk with the guy so much. That way there wouldn't be expectations. So I decided to try this tactic, because at this point, I'm willing to ...
Views: 1440 - ***From Desperate Anger to Blooming Passion - by Submitted on May 02, 2014 from Emma ViglucciThe season of renewal is finally here and with it comes an invitation to awaken to life. Note the blue skies, the sun shining, birds chirping, flowers blooming. What an enchanting time to be alive. The possibilities are countless. As we are coming out of hibernation, it is time to look around ...
Views: 2134 - ***How to Move on After a Break up - by Submitted on May 02, 2014 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishPerhaps the end of your most recent relationship is a good thing regardless of who did the leaving. But now what’s the best next step for you? Every situation has different details, but here are the top things to consider that emerged from my research and work with thousands of ...
Views: 1827 - Are You Treated Like Royalty? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2014 from Emma ViglucciYou have to be happy with yourself first… You cannot be happy in your relationship if you are not first happy with your Self… If you are not your Authentic Self, your Soul Self, you are just a robot completing daily tasks and missing the whole point of life… This is not Living… What is the ...
Views: 1993 - Facing Codependence in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2014 from Emma ViglucciWhen we think of codependence we think of it in terms of its association with substance dependence. We think of a partner who is codependent with a substance dependent partner. But this is not the case. Codependence can be a condition and state of being and dealing with life all on its ...
Views: 1747 - Managing Anger in Your Relationship… - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2014 from Emma ViglucciAnger is a poison in our relationship when it is misunderstood and unleashed. It gets in the way of understanding, connectedness, intimacy, love, and satisfaction in our relationship. Anger in its explosive or simmering manifestation, is a sign that something is wrong when it is prevalent. This ...
Views: 1931 - Opposites Attract, But They May Not Last, Unless… - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2014 from Michael BroderMost couples can name several ways in which they’re opposites: neatness versus sloppiness; extroversion versus introversion; being high-strung versus laid-back preferring city versus country living, etc. And I'm sure you have something in mind that's specific to you. It’s true that quite often ...
Views: 1783 - Prevent Blows to Your Relationship! - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2014 from Emma ViglucciMost relationships have to endure a history of trauma experienced by one or both partners and a current trauma(s). Traumas include abandonment, neglect, abuse, rejection, control, accidents, assaults/attacks, catastrophes, infidelity, infertility, loss, relocation, birthing and becoming ...
Views: 1767 - The Protected Heart - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2014 from Womens Recreation, Inc.We all protect our heart in one way or another. Maybe we were teased at school, or hurt by someone we once loved. It doesn’t matter how far back the sense of pain goes, it might feel very real today. It is good to guard your heart against people or situations that might hurt you, but there is ...
Views: 1664 - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Ignore Their Intuition? - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that women are more intuitive than men, and this could be due to a number of reasons. One reason is because they are often more in touch with their feelings. Men on the other hand, are often more logical and out of touch with how they feel. This is simply a generalisation ...
Views: 2036 - Dear Dr. Romance: I got very drunk and kissed another man - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm nearly 30 and have been living with my boyfriend for several years. Last year we encountered a rough patch and I felt neglected and unloved and like all respect had gone from our relationship. Unfortunately during this time I got very drunk and kissed another man. I ...
Views: 3564 - 5 Tips for men who are dating women with kids - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2014 from Catherine KingWhen dating women with kids, there are a few things you have to realize. Not only does she have other priorities, you also have to realize you won't always be the first thing on her list. Soccer games, ballet, taking them to trips; these are just a few of the things a single mom has to do, when ...
Views: 1526 - Are You Changing Enough? - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2014 from Emma ViglucciIt’s very interesting to me to watch couples struggle and go around and around… I find that this happens with the ones where partners refuse to take ownership of their own contribution to their relationship’s status quo and are fixated with having their partner change… These are the partners ...
Views: 1825 - Dear Dr. Romance: Should a grad student in her 20s date a man who's 70? - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: We are co-workers and I've know him for about two years. He's very nice, funny and in very good shape. We've built a pretty solid friendship. We hang out a couple times a month (when I'm home from school). But, lately he's been pushing for a ...
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