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- Relationships: Is Grieving Our Unmet Childhood Needs An Important Part of Attracting People Who Are Available? - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one can have the desire to attract someone who is available, it doesn’t mean that this is what takes place. One could find it more or less impossible for attract someone who is available. When someone is available, it is going to mean that they are not only physically and ...
Views: 1528 - Relationships: Is Grieving Our Unmet Childhood Needs An Important Part Of Having Healthy Relationships? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one can have the need to experience relationships that are fulfilling and life affirming, it doesn’t mean that this is what takes place. Instead, one can end up in relationships that are not only unfulfilling, they could also be extremely abusive. And if this was an area of life that ...
Views: 1447 - Relationships: Is Grieving Unmet Childhood Needs An Important Part Of Letting Of The Fear Of Abandonment? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is said that it is not possible for someone to be abandoned as an adult, and how this would only apply if they were a baby or a child. However, just because one is an adult it doesn’t mean that they will no longer feel abandoned. The fear of being abandoned and the feeling itself could ...
Views: 1552 - Relationships: Is It A Form Of Indirect Revenge When Someone Leads Another Person On? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to go on a date with someone, they might come across as though they are looking for a relationship. Thus, if the other person wants the same thing, this is going to have a positive effect on them. Online Dating However, if these two people met through the internet, this is ...
Views: 1392 - Relationships: Is It A Good Sign If Someone Is Extremely Attracted To Another Person? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one could come across another person and not really experience anything, they could come across someone else and it could be as if their whole being has been hijacked. But, even though this is the case, it doesn’t mean that one will see this as a bad thing. One will then have lost ...
Views: 805 - Relationships: Is It A Surprise For People Who Are Attractive To Be Single? - by Submitted on May 14, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to find out that someone isn’t in a relationship, it might not surprise them, and this could come down to the fact that they are not physically attractive. On the other hand, if they were attractive, it might be hard for them to understand why this is the case. One Outlook It ...
Views: 1284 - Relationships: Is It A Waste Of Energy For Someone To Try And Find Out Why Their Relationship Came To An End? - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is in a relationship and it was to come to an end, they might be only too happy that they are able to move on with their life. For a number of weeks or even months, they may have been thinking about how much better their life would be if they were both to go their separate ...
Views: 1646 - Relationships: Is It Good Or Bad To See The Best In People? - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people in the world who always try to see the best in others, there are also people who always try to see the worst in others. In their eyes, the outlook they have could be seen as best one to have. Through having a different outlook, it is likely to mean that their ...
Views: 1418 - Relationships: Is It Harder For Someone To Settle Down If They Have Been With A Lot Of People? - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the past, it was the norm for people to wait until they were married before they had sex, and they would have most likely stayed with the same person until their time on this earth came to an end. Thanks, in part, due to the ‘sexual liberation’ of the 60s and 80s, this has all changed. ...
Views: 1103 - Relationships: Is It Normal For Someone To Have Low Self-Esteem After They Have Left An Abusive Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people are going to be used to having relationships that are fulfilling, there are going to be others who are not. In this case, someone could find that they have the tendency to end up with people who are not right for them. A Mismatch This is not to say that they will treat ...
Views: 1679 - Relationships: Is It The Future And Not The Present That Holds Some Relationships Together? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about why they are a relationship with someone, they could begin to list what they like about them. This is then going to be a time when they will go over what they bring to their life. Having them in their life is not simply going to give them someone to spend time with; ...
Views: 1180 - Relationships: Is Self-Awareness An Important Part Of Attracting The Right Partner? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough one can have the need to attract the right person into their life, it doesn’t mean that this will be that takes place. Instead, one can end up attracting people who are not right for them. Now, if one is under a certain age, they might see this as something that they will grow out ...
Views: 1511 - Relationships: Is Someone Unlucky If They Always Attract People Who Are Unavailable? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is at a stage in their life where they are taking a break from being with someone, they may find that some of the people in their life are in relationships. In fact, everyone they know could be with another person. And, if they were to spend time with these people, they may find that ...
Views: 1413 - Relationships: Is Someone Unlucky If They Always End Up In Abusive Relationships? - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that although someone can have the desire to attract a certain type of person, it doesn’t mean that this will take place. When it comes to the kind of person one has ended up with, they could be completely different. Now, this could mean that one has been with people who ...
Views: 1164 - Relationships: Is Someone's View Of The Opposite Sex Created At A Time When They Couldn't Think Clearly? - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that people have different outlooks when it comes to how they perceive different countries, they also have different outlooks when it comes to how they perceive the opposite sex. There will be some people who generally have good things to say about the opposite sex, whilst there ...
Views: 1100 - Relationships: Is The Fear Of Abandonment Causing You To Get Attached Too Soon? - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people who like to take their time when it comes to the beginning of a relationship, and then there are others who go in head first. And based on how they behave, it is safe to say that they are both having a different inner experience. However, just because one may have a pattern ...
Views: 1932 - Relationships: Is The Purpose Of A Relationship To Trigger Old Wounds? - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has just started to date another person, they can find that they feel really good. They are then still going to be on the same planet that they were on before they met this person, but it can be as if they have been taken somewhere else. This area of their life is going to be ...
Views: 924 - Relationships: Is There A Reason Why Some People Always End Up With People Who Cheat On Them? - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf one spends a fair amount of time watching TV, there is a strong chance that they have watched programs where people have cheated on their spouse or partner. This is often a common theme when it comes to dramas and soaps, for instance. At the same time, one may have also have friends or ...
Views: 1304 - Relationships: Is There A Reason Why Some People Attract People Who Can't Love Them? - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen some people think about what it is like to be in a relationship, they might get a sense of being around someone who is truly there for them. This means that the other person is not only physically available, they are also emotionally available. Now, this could be because they are ...
Views: 1578 - Relationships: Is Your Ex Giving You False Hope? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationship comes to an end, each person can go their own way, or something else might take place. As a result of this, it could only be matter of days or even weeks before they are back together. Round in Circles In fact, this could be something that will take place more than ...
Views: 6931 - Relationships: Is Your Inability To Listen Damaging Your Relationships? - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to go and watch a film, not only would they watch the screen, they would also pay attention to what is being said. On one hand, they will have paid to watch it, and on the other hand, it will be something they want to see. No Consequences However, if they were to take ...
Views: 2050 - Relationships: It Is Normal For Someone's Ex To No Longer Talk To Them? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationship comes to an end, it can mean that two people are happy to be able to move on with their life. It could then be said that this was something that had run its course, and that there was no reason for them to stay together. Now, this is not to say that one of them won’t feel ...
Views: 1367 - Relationships: Mysteries Of Attraction - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2007 from Margaret PaulWe are attracted to each other at our common level of woundedness and our common level of health. What does this mean? For example, Jackson, a very attractive man in his early 50s, had been married three times and had been in many relationships. He consulted with me because he was tired of ...
Views: 3598 - Relationships: Should Someone Ask Themselves Why They Want To Cheat? - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way as there are thoughts that one shouldn’t follow through on, there are also going to be urges that they will need to overlook. As if one tried to fulfil every need that was within them, it would end up causing them a lot of problems. A Big Difference For example, one could ...
Views: 1341 - Relationships: Should Someone Change When They Get Into A Relationship? - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one comes into contact with someone who they like, they can end up putting on an act. This could be something that will happen without them even releasing it, or they might be able to pick up on this. One way of looking at this would be to say that this is normal, and this is due to ...
Views: 1092 - Relationships: Should Someone Find Out About Another Person's History Before They Start A Relationship With Them? - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one has the desire to be in a relationship, they could end up going out and/or they could join an online dating site. They could be clear about the kind of person they are looking for, or this could be something that they are not too clear about. In this case, they could believe that ...
Views: 1234 - Relationships: Should Someone Get Back With Their Ex Back? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperFor whatever reason, one may have just broken up with their partner, which could mean that they are not in a good way. Perhaps one is experiencing a fair amount of sadness, along with feeling depressed from time to time. There could also be moments when one ends up getting angry and is even ...
Views: 928 - Relationships: Should Someone Look Into What Is Taking Place Within Them If They Attract People Who Are Unavailable? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one could be in a fulfilling relationship with someone, there is also the chance that this is not the case. This could come down to the fact that they don’t want to be in one, and this might be a sign that they have just broken up with someone. If this is the case, they might want to ...
Views: 1282 - Relationships: What Can Happen To Someone When Their Partner Denies That They Are Cheating? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in relationship, they will have the opportunity to grow and to heal any wounds that they may have. This can mean that there will be moments that are deeply fulfilling and moments that are extremely painful pain. What will play a big part here is how much pain one is carrying. ...
Views: 1269 - Relationships: What Can Sabotage Adult To Adult Relationships? - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperEven though two people are in a relationship together, it doesn’t mean that they are relating as adults. Physically they may look like adults, but that could be as far as it goes. And upon closer inspection, it could look as though it is between a parent and a child. This won’t be limited to ...
Views: 1751 - Relationships: What Can Someone Do If They Are Triggered In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one has only just started to spend time with someone, they can find that just about everything runs smoothly. So whenever they are with the other person, they can feel good and even relaxed. During this stage, they could believe that this is how it will always be and that they won’t ever ...
Views: 817 - Relationships: What Can Someone Do If They Keep Ending Up With The Wrong Person? - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone had just bought a car, there is a strong chance that they would have taken it for a test drive first. This would have given them the opportunity to find out what it is like and to see if it would be a good match for them. Along with this, they would have most likely asked a number ...
Views: 983 - Relationships: What Causes Caretaking Behaviour? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile relationships can be a combination of both giving and receiving, they can also end up being out of balance. It is then no longer an adult to adult relationship; it is something that takes on the characteristics of a parent-child relationship. This might create the impression that they ...
Views: 1973 - Relationships: What Do People's Friends Reveal About Them? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to getting to know someone who has the potential to be a friend or a lover, it is not always easy. During the early interactions, there is the tendency for people to show their best selves. To present themselves in a way that is different to how they normally are or to exaggerate ...
Views: 1812 - Relationships: What Does It Mean When Someone Says They Are Too Busy? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone is available at one point in time, it doesn’t mean that they will continue to be available. There is the chance that they will continue to be around or everything could change, and they may be extremely hard to get hold of. However, without even going into how much ...
Views: 9226 - Relationships: What Does Love Mean To You? - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s relationships love is often used to describe how someone feels about another person and as a description of what one is looking for. The world is made up all of kinds of relationships and although there are general meanings when it comes to love; there are also radically different ...
Views: 1988 - Relationships: What Is The Purpose Of A Relationship? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperI believe that one of the purposes of a relationship is to lead one back into wholeness. This includes the relationships we have had, the relationships we have and the relationships we will have in the future. They each contain the experiences and situations that are perfect for one to regain ...
Views: 2671 - Relationships: Where Does Someone’s Idea Of The Perfect Partner Come From? - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to attracting someone for a relationship or something that involves less commitment, there is the chance that someone can have a certain type that they go for. And then for others, this is not always the case; with them having no set idea of what another needs to be like. ...
Views: 1713 - Relationships: Who Do Some People Always Look For Someone Else Before They Leave A Relationship? - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a relationship that they no longer want to be in, they could decide to talk to their partner about what is taking place for them. This will stop them from having to cover up how they feel, and it will give them the chance to bring the relationship to an end. A Cover Up ...
Views: 1475 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Only Attracted To People They Can Overshadow? - by Submitted on May 24, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people end up with people who on a similar level, there are others who end up with people who are not. As a result of this, not everyone is going to be drawn to people who are as developed as they are. Equal When it comes to the former, it could be said that one’s relationships ...
Views: 1218 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Only Attracted To People Who Are Unavailable? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one could be in a relationship with someone who is available, they might also find that they are with someone who is unavailable. This is something that is going to have a big effect on how fulfilling their relationship is. One Experience If one can relate to the former, they are ...
Views: 1304 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Only Attracted To People Who Need To Be Rescued? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to come across a magazine or a newspaper, for instance, they may be told that if they are a man, they will be attracted to a certain type of women and vice versa. For example, when it comes to women, it is likely to say that their hip to waist ratio is important, and for men, it could ...
Views: 1561 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Unable To Move On From Their First Love? - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough one can have the desire to be with someone, they may find that they unable to take the next step. What this is likely to show, is that they are experiencing inner conflict. And until the part of them that wants to start a relationship is stronger than the part of them that doesn’t, ...
Views: 1555 - Relationships: Why Are Some Women Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt’s not uncommon to hear that women want to settle down and that men want to ‘play the field’. And based on this, women want to be in a relationship and men are not bothered about being in one. This is how men and women are generally portrayed and in some cases, this is going to be true. ...
Views: 4100 - Relationships: Why Are Some Women Needy? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperTo have needs is part of being human and this means that it is not something to be ashamed of. Yet, just because this is the case, it doesn’t mean that one feels comfortable with their needs, and this can cause them to come across as being needless. They then act as if they don’t have needs ...
Views: 2464 - Relationships: Why Do Some Breakups Hurt Men More Than Women? - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent studies, men have been shown to suffer more than women when a relationship comes to an end. And while some people would not have been surprised to hear this, for others, it was unexpected and even dismissed. Even though men have emotions just like women, this doesn’t always appear ...
Views: 4016 - Relationships: Why Do Some Intellectually Developed People End Up With People Who Are Emotionally Undeveloped? - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn a relationship, it is not uncommon for one person to be logical and the other to be emotional. It can then seem as though one person provides what the other is lacking, thereby balancing each other out. By themselves they are out of balance, but together, they end up becoming the ultimate ...
Views: 851 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Fear Intimacy? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile men and women are both human, they are often portrayed as being radically different. It is clear that they are different on the outside, but what is not as clear is that there are differences when it comes to their brain structure. One outlook is that these differences are due to ...
Views: 1809 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Only Attract Women Who Are Dependent On Them? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the kind of women that men are attracted to, it could be said that there is not one type. There is what is spoken about in the media, for instance, and then there is what takes place in reality. If one was to read an article about what kind of woman a man is attracted to, ...
Views: 1331 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Act Aggressively When A Relationship Comes To An End? - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperHow someone behaves at the beginning of a relationship can be different to how they behave as time goes by, and while a certain amount of change is normal, it doesn’t mean it is normal for someone to completely change. This could mean that as time passes they end up becoming someone else, or it ...
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