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- Relationships & Marriage – Commitment Has Nothing to do With Unconditional Love - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2007 from Scott & Stephen PetulloRecently someone told us that he wants to marry and grow old with his girlfriend. But to his disappointment, she told him that true love is unconditional, without expectations, and that he should be happy just to be with her without any promises. He said that he thinks she really doesn’t love ...
Views: 1455 - Relationships And The Past - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2008 from David ButlerAre you one of those singles who just can't over past relationship hurts? Several years back, I went on a Christian singles retreat, where the topic at hand was making peace with your past. Christian single after Christian single shared their sad stories of how a bad past experience, a soured ...
Views: 1009 - Relationships and Your Love Life: The Truth About Soul Mates - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2013 from Scott & Stephen PetulloOne of the most popular topics in the New Age arena, and also in the mundane marketplace, is soul mates. It’s a very lucrative subject for New Age marketers, and they frequently promote the myth that everyone has the perfect match out there somewhere and all you have to do is take a few simple ...
Views: 1011 - Relationships Are a Lot Like Cars: Here Are the 4 Reasons Why - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2019 from Jeremy SutterIf you're driving and notice that a warning light appears on the dashboard, you'll likely feel a range of emotions. You may panic and wonder if the light indicates a major problem. Or, you may be thinking about how you can afford to fix your vehicle. You may also choose to push the warning out ...
Views: 1937 - Relationships Require Work - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2011 from cedric riceI have been around for a few years and one thing that I am learning is that relationships require work. If any relationship is to be positive at all both parties are going to have to put in a lot of extra work. We all have a slightly jaded conception of life in that we choose to believe that ...
Views: 1380 - Relationships That Crash And Burn - Part 2 - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2011 from Terry ClarkIf you find that all the relationships you have had tend to crash and burn, you may be wondering what you can do to increase your chances of finding true love that will last throughout a lifetime. The truth is that it isn't as hard as you may think it is, it doesn't start with that other ...
Views: 1908 - Relationships with Emotional Involvement and the Non-Emotional Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2011 from David GharatRelationships between the sexes can often be filled with mixed messages and general confusion as to the status of the affair. Add to this the differences between relationships with and without an aspect of emotional involvement, and there is no surprise that so many individuals end up feeling as ...
Views: 5034 - Relationships, Boundaries, and Facebook - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2011 from nancy traversSocial networks have injected an interesting new aspect into our lives and relationships. Today, we’re all living very publically. We’re our own paparazzi and gossip magazine, updating the web with every little thought, piece of drama, and embarrassing picture of friends. Our boundaries are very ...
Views: 3783 - Relationships: Are People Entitled To Get Revenge On Their Ex? - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperOne could be with someone and believe that they are the one, and in the next moment it could all be over. They could also be with someone who doesn’t have the same effect and then before long, this person is no longer part of their life. How close one feels to another person won’t ...
Views: 1635 - Relationships: Are Rebound Relationships A Bad Idea? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone goes from one relationship to another, they are often described as having a rebound relationship. And this can takes place within a very short time of one ending and the other beginning; so there is very little time in between each one. This could be a relationship that has ...
Views: 1940 - Relationships: Are Some Men Too Emotionally Underdeveloped To Have A Relationship With A Woman? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon for a woman to complain about how she keeps ending up with men who are emotionally unavailable, and it would be easy to say that a woman like this is incredibly unlucky. Time after time, she ends up experiencing the same outcome - it can then seem as though men need to get it ...
Views: 980 - Relationships: Are Some People Destined To Attract People Who Are Abusive? - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to take a step back and to think about the people they have been with throughout their life, they might think about the different moments that they have shared with them. This could then be a time when they will see that they have had more good than bad moments in this area of their ...
Views: 1331 - Relationships: Are Some People More Interested In What People Say Than What They Do? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that what people do is more important than what they say, and this going to come down to the fact that actions speak louder than words. As while it is easy for someone to say something, it is going to take a lot more effort for them to do something. In The Beginning ...
Views: 1290 - Relationships: Are We Attracted To Our Own Projections? - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one first meets another person and starts to feel attracted to them, they will have started to form certain associations around what they are like and what they are not like. This whole process is likely to take place out of one’s awareness and happen fairly rapidly. Once these are ...
Views: 1723 - Relationships: Are We Attracted To The People Who Will Allow Us To Replay Unresolved Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what causes one person to be attracted to another, it is can be easy to believe that it is simply due to effect that the other persons personality and/or appearance has had on them. These two factors will then have had the biggest effect on why someone is sexually attracted to ...
Views: 899 - Relationships: Are You In A Relationship With Someone Who Is On The Rebound? - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone starts a new relationship there is a strong chance that it will be their intention to be with someone who is available. In this case, one is in a position where they are ready to share their life with someone else. It could then be said that they have the right outlook, and it ...
Views: 1358 - Relationships: Can A Relationship Bring Up Emotions That Were Frozen? - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is not in a relationship, they may find that they are generally settled. What this can mean is that they are rarely emotionally flat and are rarely overwhelmed by their emotions. Being this way is naturally going to make it easier for them to function at their best and to enjoy ...
Views: 839 - Relationships: Can A Relationship Bring Up Someone’s Attachment Trauma? - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone gets into a relationship, they may believe that they have finally met their match. What they have been through in the past, when it comes to this area of their life, is then going to be well and truly over. At one point, it will have been as though they were on a stormy sea and ...
Views: 835 - Relationships: Can Being Needy Cause Someone To Be Attracted To The Wrong People? - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that it is not a good idea for one to be needy if they want to find someone to be with. In fact, it could be said that this is the kind of advice that one is most likely to hear from other people. Another Part Along with this, one might have heard about how important it ...
Views: 1308 - Relationships: Can Being Needy Cause Someone To Put Up With Bad Behaviour? - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone hasn’t eaten for a little while, they can end up eating things that are not good for them. Due to how hungry they are, it can stop them from being able to resist this type of food. They can find that their will power has deserted them and that they don’t even take the time to ...
Views: 1422 - Relationships: Can Breaking Up Make A Relationship Better? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one could be in a relationship that is going as they would like it to go, there is also the chance that this is not the case. As a result of this, they could be in a position where they believe it is time for them to move on. Unhealthy This could be a sign that they don’t feel ...
Views: 1347 - Relationships: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Trapped Around Others? - by Submitted on May 01, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are those that feel comfortable in their own company and in the company of others, and there are those that don’t. When it comes to the former, it is likely to show that someone has a strong sense of self. Due to how developed they are, they won’t feel empty when they are by themselves ...
Views: 886 - Relationships: Can Childhood Trauma Define How Someone Sees The Opposite Sex? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAs an adult, someone can see the opposite sex as being one way, or they can see them as being another way. A very black and white way of looking at this would be to say that they can see them in a positive light or they can see them in a negative light. However, regardless of what view they ...
Views: 1068 - Relationships: Can Childhood Trauma Make It Harder For Someone To Handle A Breakup? - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationship comes to an end, it can cause one to experience a lot of emotional pain. In fact, it can feel as though their whole life has come to an end, and one might then wonder how they are going to cope. Two Extremes How they feel at this point in their life can then be ...
Views: 1239 - Relationships: Can Embracing Our Pain Lead To Healthier Relationships? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhether someone is in a relationship with another person or not, they are still going to experience pain. This could relate to certain disagreements that one has with the person they are in a relationship with on one side and on the other, it could include different kinds of abuse for ...
Views: 1536 - Relationships: Can Environmental Factors Stop Someone From Moving On From A Breakup? - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationships ends, there is the chance that it will lead to one experiencing a lot of emotional pain. There is also the chance that one will be quiet happy with what has happened and although there may be a mild sense of loss for example, they will soon settle down and be on their ...
Views: 2241 - Relationships: Can Our Past Relationships Affect Our Present Relationship? - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperOne can enter a new relationship with the idea that it will be a completely new experience and unlike what they have gone through in the past. But while this might be their outlook in the beginning, this can soon come to an end as the relationship progresses. This could be because of what is ...
Views: 4103 - Relationships: Can Self-Development Condition People To Believe That They Need To Be Perfect To Have A Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one is used to having relationships that are not very fulfilling, they could begin to wonder what is going on. As a result of this, this area of their life is likely to cause them to experience a lot of pain. However, even though this is the case, the main thing is that they have taken ...
Views: 1315 - Relationships: Can Sex Create The Illusion Of Love? - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world the general approach towards sex has changed and instead of it being something that one engages in after a certain time, it can take place without too much time having passed. And like most things in life, there are pros and cons to this type of behaviour. For some people, ...
Views: 2359 - Relationships: Can Shame Stop Someone From Reaching Out To Others? - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can’t be denied is that no one is their own island; human beings need each other. This is why it has been said that although some people say that they are independent, this is nothing more than an illusion. Therefore, while it might be hard for them to accept it, it doesn’t change the ...
Views: 1051 - Relationships: Can Smartphone’s Destroy Relationships? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that it is easy for someone not embrace each day of the week due to being completely absorbed in what will happen at the weekend, it is also just as easy for them to ignore the people in their life due to being completely absorbed in their Smartphone. In each of these cases, the ...
Views: 1021 - Relationships: Can Someone Be Attracted To The Wrong People When They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that the ideal will be for one to take the time to get to know someone before they end up in a relationship with them. This will give them the chance to find out if they are right for each other. And when they are in this position, it will also be a good idea for them to ...
Views: 1233 - Relationships: Can Someone Be Emotionally Unavailable Even Though They’re In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt would be easy to believe that the people who are emotionally unavailable are single and the ones who aren’t are in a relationship. Or, if someone is emotionally available and single, it could just show that they are taking a break after going through a breakup, for instance. This is then ...
Views: 864 - Relationships: Can Someone End Up With Deeply Wounded People If They Are Out Of Touch With Their Wounds? - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf one sees themselves as someone who has got it altogether, or is just in a good place, it can be hard for them to understand why they would end up with someone who is not in a good way. This person is then not just going to have a different personality to them; they won’t be as well ...
Views: 798 - Relationships: Can Someone End Up With People They’re Not Attracted To If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough one can have the desire to be with someone who is right for them, it doesn’t mean that this will take place. One could find that they have the tendency to end up with people who they are not really compatible with. Alternatively, one could have been with a number of people who were ...
Views: 1367 - Relationships: Can Someone Have A Healthy Relationship With Another Person If They Have A History Of Abusive Relationships? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one meets someone they like, they might not look into what their past relationships were like. In this case, the only thing they could be concerned about is what the other person is like around them. Point of Focus This could also be a time when one will spend a lot of time thinking ...
Views: 1221 - Relationships: Can Someone Have Affairs When They Have A Fear Of Abandonment? - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a relationship that they no longer want to be in, it might not be long until it comes to an end. Perhaps they have been together for a number of months, or they may have been with each other for a number of years. Yet, regardless of the amount of time that they have been ...
Views: 1257 - Relationships: Can Someone Have Relationship Problems If They Lack Self-Awareness? - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that someone would need to be in the right place in order to drive a car, they would also need to be in the right place to have a relationship. When it comes to the former, if someone was unable to drive or was drunk, it wouldn’t be a good idea for them to drive. On the ...
Views: 875 - Relationships: Can Someone Look Towards Others To Fulfil Their Unmet Childhood Needs? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is an adult, it could be said that they won’t need the same things that they needed when they were a child. This comes down to the fact that they will have grown out of a number of these needs. As a result of this, what they look for from others is going to be different to what ...
Views: 820 - Relationships: Can Someone Project Their Parent/s Onto Other People? - by Submitted on May 05, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how someone perceives another person and the experiences that they have with them, it might not seem as though they are having much of an effect. One is then just aware of what this person is like and when they spend time with them, they won’t be playing a part, ...
Views: 819 - Relationships: Can Someone Put An End To Dysfunctional Relationships By Leaving Relationships That Are Dysfunctional? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhilst there are some people on this planet who have relationships that are life-affirming, there are others who have relationships that are the complete opposite. They are then living on the same planet, but the experience they have on this planet is going to be radically different. When ...
Views: 1671 - Relationships: Can Someone Put Up With Bad Behaviour When They Don't Value Themselves? - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that the ideal will be for one to stand their ground when they meet someone, and not to put up with anything that will have a negative effect on them. Through being this way, they won’t allow another person to bring them down. Give And Take Thus, when they do meet ...
Views: 1308 - Relationships: Can Someone’s Adult Relationships Reflect What Took Place During Their Early Years? - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has the inclination to end up in relationships that are not very fulfilling or are even abusive, it can be normal for them to experience pain. Also, as a result of what keeps taking place, they can come to see themselves as unlucky. This area of their life is then going to be ...
Views: 1048 - Relationships: Can Someone’s Inner Critic Cause Them To Put Up With Abusive Behaviour? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is used to spending time around people who are abusive, they can come to the conclusion that they are a victim. It is then not that one is playing a part in what is taking place; it is that this is just how their life is. So, while these people will have control over their own life, ...
Views: 736 - Relationships: Can Someone’s Unmet Childhood Needs Cause Them To Expect Too Much From Others? - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperBefore one gets into a relationship, they can have a rough idea about the kind of person who they want to be with. Along with this, there can be what they expect to receive when they are with them. If this is the case, there can be what they would like someone to look like and there can be ...
Views: 1021 - Relationships: Can The End Of A Relationship Trigger Someone's Childhood Pain? - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationship starts, there is the chance that one will experience a lot of pleasure, and then as time passes, this could change. This is not to say that this will go from being a something that has a positive effect on their life, to something that has a negative effect. What this ...
Views: 1710 - Relationships: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Cause Someone To Attract People Who Are Emotionally Dependent? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for two people to have a relationship together, they will both need to be able to behave like interdependent adults. The reason for this is that if only one of them acts like an interdependent adult, it will stop this from taking place. Instead, what will happen is that one of them ...
Views: 1057 - Relationships: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Cause Someone To Let Anyone Into Their Life? - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that it wouldn’t be a good idea for someone to put anything into their mouth; it also wouldn’t be a good idea for them to open themselves up to anyone. Therefore, the level of discernment that they show when it comes to the former will need to be shown when it comes to the ...
Views: 933 - Relationships: Can The Fear Of Rejection Cause Someone To Change When They Get Into A Relationship? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperEven though one can behave in a certain way when they start dating someone, they can end up behaving in a completely different way as time goes by. Therefore, although they are still the same person, it will be as if they have become someone else. Oblivious When something like this ...
Views: 1324 - Relationships: Can The Fear Of Rejection Cause Someone To Please Others? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one could be in a position where they are able to listen to their own needs, there is also the chance that they are unable to do so. If they are able to pay attention to what is taking place within them, it will show that this is what feels safe. True-Self One is going to be in ...
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