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- The Relationship between Self Harm and Stigma - by Submitted on May 23, 2012 from Jennifer McLeodSelf injury or self harm, generally speaking, is a wider range of different things individuals do to themselves which is either in a deliberate or hidden way. It includes burning, cutting, banging the body against hard objects, pulling the hairs, scalding, biting, poisoning, and inserting or ...
Views: 2052(1 vote) - Family Therapy In The Background Of Other Therapies - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2011 from Sawas DeeToday’s psychotherapeutic developments have outgrown the past situation of psychology and psychotherapy. Where in the past, only few people would go and try to solve their problems through therapy, nowadays such people are more in numbers. That doesn’t mean that more people are experiencing ...
Views: 2050(1 vote) - Essential Definitions for People Trying to Gain Assertiveness Skills - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2009 from Peggy FergusonAlthough most people have some pretty clear-cut notions about what assertiveness is and isn't, assertiveness is often confused with aggression. Assertiveness is not necessarily about having your will prevail over the will of others. That is actually more descriptive of aggression. Especially ...
Views: 2049(2 votes) - The Seven Steps to Healthy Parent/Child Relationships - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2014 from Julie Roberts, Ph.D.The world in which we live is violent in large part due to how we raise our children. We assume that children are small and undeveloped and without the need for freedom and personal choice. However, we traumatize them by making demands, creating unnecessary limits, not listening to them and not ...
Views: 2045(2 votes) - Only Funny in the Sunday's - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2012 from Janet PfeifferI love reading the Sunday funnies. One of my favorites is For Better or Worse by Lynn Johnston. In a recent comic, the young child, Mike, was having a bad day. Trying to construct a building out of Lego-type pieces, gravity was working against him as the entire structure collapsed. In a fit of ...
Views: 2037(1 vote) - Stay Afloat with Healthy Boundaries - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2012 from Grace KerinaWhen folks around you make waves with their alien communication styles, fervent demands, or weird displays of power, you need healthy boundary skills that pop to the surface like a life preserver. Your imagination can roar to the rescue and save the day. To keep a grip on the real you when ...
Views: 2036(1 vote) - 5 QUALITIES OF NON VIOLENT FIGHTING - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2017 from Janet PfeifferWhen individuals disagree on a subject matter, whether it's politics, religion, home projects, budgeting issues or such, very often the discussion escalates into a full-blown fight. Tensions rise as each side tries to convince the other that their beliefs or ways of doing something are more ...
Views: 2029 - Weak, Meek or Strong: a Biblical Perspective on Anger - by Submitted on May 28, 2014 from Janet PfeifferThe first verse of the Beatitudes in the Bible says, "Blessed are the meek for they shall inherit the Earth." Like many others, I always had difficulty with the term meek. To me, it was synonymous with being weak. And yet nothing could be farther from the truth. The word meek comes from the ...
Views: 2028(1 vote) - The Keys to Effective Family Divorce Mediation in Florida - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2011 from Matthew BrickmanMy Experience in Family Divorce Mediation My name is Matthew Brickman and at the time of this article I have conducted nearly 300 mediations over the past several years. As a professional family mediator I specialize in conflict surrounding family issues and 99% of the time the mediation ...
Views: 2025 - ***Seven Ways to Ruin Your Marriage - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2012 from Sharon RivkinUnless someone is completely vicious, no one enters a marriage with the intention of destroying it, yet the divorce rate gets higher every year and couples, even if they don’t divorce, are often unhappy and in loveless marriages. By being aware of what you may be doing in your marriage that ...
Views: 2016 - Dr. Romance (with Alex Franzen) "Do. Not. React" - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2012 from Tina TessinaDO. NOT. REACT. Tips for surviving & mastering confrontation, with grace —in business & in love. Pop quiz, people: How do you drop an atom bomb of sudden, unexpected (and quite possibly, undesirable) information on someone you care about — without behaving like a cruel, ...
Views: 2014(2 votes) - Controlling Anger - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2012 from Edward GoodenWhat Is Anger? All of us feel anger. Some of us get angry very often. Some are able to control the anger. Some of us express our anger freely, whereas some suppress it. Why do we get angry? Is there any way to control the anger? How to do that? Causes Of Anger We get angry when we are ...
Views: 2010 - ***Why are some people so mean? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2013 from Marc SadoffMotivational Reasons I don’t want or need to change my behavior. This is probably the most common reason for not changing how anger is expressed. No change is likely until the abuser ‘puts down the binoculars and picks up a mirror.’ Often shame is at the core of men and women who are ...
Views: 2008(2 votes) - DEAL WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE USING C~U~R~B~APPEAL - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2016 from Janet PfeifferWe all have challenging people in our lives yet unfortunately few of us have been properly trained in how to effectively deal with them. Well, that's going to change today. In no particular order, using the an acronym "C~U~R~B Appeal", you will learn tips that will better enable you to get ...
Views: 2002 - 20+ TIMES NOT TO SAY ANYTHING - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2017 from Janet PfeifferThere are so many times in our lives when we realize after the fact that it would have been in our best interest to have kept our thoughts to ourselves. Words are powerful and can make matters better or cause damage to others or get us into a whole lot of trouble. There is much wisdom in the old ...
Views: 1994 - So, how do you heal anger when you want to rip someone’s head off? - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2013 from Adele TheronWhat do you do when you are SO angry you want to rip someone’s head off? You actually think you COULD drown your kids or bash someone with your shopping trolley and you are not sure how to control it. In those moments, if another hippy tells you “you need to relax” or recommends that you try ...
Views: 1992 - The Ego as an Addictive "Energy Vampire", in Contrast to How Our Real Being Functions as a Limitlessly Abundant "Energy-Giver" - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2012 from Barry HammerAlthough the ego is often the loudest voice speaking within oneself, vociferously arguing for its own viewpoint, and vehemently demanding limitless, immediate, sometimes inappropriate, recklessly impulsive, potentially addictive, gratification of its insatiable desires and cravings, it is not ...
Views: 1991 - PUSHED TOO FAR: WHEN PEOPLE SNAP - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2017 from Janet PfeifferWe are all too familiar with headline stories about people who are pushed to their limits and snap. Whether on the job, within their own families, or even children in school - everyone has their breaking point. In 2010, Omar Thorton, a 34-year old employee at the Hartford Beer Distributors in ...
Views: 1979 - THE NAIL IN THE FENCE - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2013 from Janet Pfeiffer"The sharpest sword is a word spoken in wrath." (The Buddha). A little boy, prone to anger, was told by his father, "Every time you're angry, drive a nail in that wooden fence. When you've learned to control your anger, start removing them." Six months later, the boy had removed every nail ...
Views: 1974(2 votes) - Surround Yourself With Love - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2012 from Laurie GrayMost of us have grown up with some version of the Golden Rule that includes doing unto others as you would have them do to you and loving your neighbor as yourself. Most of us think of the rule as encouraging us to be kinder to others. Such thinking is completely backward. We already do love our ...
Views: 1969 - How to Stop People From Hurting You - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2014 from Janet PfeifferIf I posed the question, "Who in your life has hurt you?", you might respond with, "Must I limit it to only one?" We've all been on the receiving end of someone's thoughtless behavior - their anger, sarcasm, back stabbing or betrayals. We've been hurt by those we know and love and even some that ...
Views: 1964 - ABCE: ANGER, BOUNDARIES, COMPASSION, ENABLING - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2017 from Janet PfeifferNo matter who we are or where we go in life, we encounter people who are struggling with personal issues and are not easy to engage with. They can prove challenging to deal for a variety of reasons. Often times, we feel ill-equipped to effectively deal with them. Some, feeling overwhelmed or ...
Views: 1956 - COMING TO THE TABLE - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2009 from Sadie SheafeOften couples carry baggage from relationship-to-relationship. They do not realize that their new relationships fail as a result of the previous baggage. In any new relationship there is always one constant…themselves! Often, problems first arise with the couple's intimacy. These can have ...
Views: 1955(2 votes) - Winning Arguments Through Non-Resistance - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2016 from Janet PfeifferWhen disagreements arise there is always the possibility that they will escalate into an argument or fight. The very nature of dissension triggers feelings of uneasiness in the average person. Most of us struggle with some degree of insecurity. Contradictory ideas, needs, beliefs, ways of doing ...
Views: 1952 - One Part is the Whole - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2012 from Janet PfeifferI have been busy with the media discussing the recent killing of seventeen year old Trayvon Martin in Sanford, Florida. A volunteer with a local neighborhood watch committee observed Martin walking alone wearing a “hoodie” sweatshirt draped over his head. The volunteer, George Zimmerman, called ...
Views: 1950 - Winning Arguments Through Non-Resistance - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2016 from Janet PfeifferWhen disagreements arise there is always the possibility that they will escalate into an argument or fight. The very nature of dissension triggers feelings of uneasiness in the average person. Most of us struggle with some degree of insecurity. Contradictory ideas, needs, beliefs, ways of doing ...
Views: 1947 - 7 Communication Strategies to Reduce Anger and Conflict - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2014 from Janet PfeifferWhy is it so hard to talk to one another? Unless you're a recluse, it's something we all do every day. Perhaps because I'm a motivational speaker, author, and radio host I can talk ad infinitum. I actually find it enjoyable and relatively easy. Yet there is a significant difference between ...
Views: 1946 - How I Feel About Recycling My Life! - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2013 from Niki CleggMy life has had so many twists and turns some good and some bad but I am now at an age that I need to look at every aspect to see what is good for me and what I can change if it isn't helping me. I have found that my mind is very cluttered with things that are not really needed. I am a worrier ...
Views: 1942 - Dealing with Difficult People - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2010 from Willie HortonThe secret to dealing with difficult people is to take the necessary action before they become difficult. Like everything else in life, if you deal with something before it becomes a problem, you’ll never have any major problems to deal with. The problem is, of course, that in the ordinary ...
Views: 1939(4 votes) - How You Deal with Conflict - by Submitted on May 03, 2009 from Loren Fogelman"You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you." BrianTracy When you are part of any community you interact with others. Being part of community is being ...
Views: 1936 - ***Conflict and You - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Margaret MeloniDo you and the people you work with share the exact same beliefs, perspectives, priorities and goals? Probably not. Hmmm, I guess that means you are going to experience conflict. Conflict is a condition in which people’s concerns appear to be incompatible. In fact since you and your co-workers ...
Views: 1920(6 votes) - Conflict Is The Gift That Just Keeps On Giving! You’re Kidding, Right? - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2009 from Alberta FredricksenMost of us grow up conditioned to believe that conflict is bad. That is a myth! And it’s a pretty destructive myth because it places all of us in a position of being bad in some way because we are in conflict within ourselves or we experience conflict with others. Truthfully, being in ...
Views: 1908(1 vote) - Unresolved Conflict Is Organizational Bloodletting - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2008 from Rhoberta ShalerUNRESOLVED CONFLICT IS ORGANIZATIONAL BLOODLETTING © Rhoberta Shaler, PhD www.OptimizeInstitute.com www.WorkplacePeopleSkills.com www.TamingTenseTeams.com Unresolved conflict is like blood-letting: immediate pain, a big mess, then, a slow draining while no one does anything - or worse yet, ...
Views: 1905 - Choices - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2011 from Womens Recreation, Inc.Choices; we all make them everyday. Some of us learn from the poor choices that we’ve made in life. Some of us regret the choices that we’ve made. A lot of us understand the repercussions of the choices we have made. A lot of people don’t understand the repercussions at all. I feel that there ...
Views: 1900(3 votes) - How Do You Deal With Conflict? - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2009 from Roseanna LeatonIt is interesting to note different people's reactions when dealing with situations involving conflict. Some people act tenaciously like a Jack Russell, yapping and barking loudly and refusing to back down; going on the offensive seems to be inbred in their nature. Other's respond more like a ...
Views: 1898(1 vote) - Why Good Communication is the Foundation of Enduring True Friendship - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2014 from Barry HammerAgreement or disagreement is much less important than good communication as a way of enabling people to deeply understand each other, and, thereby, gradually develop the ability to feel inwardly close to each other, as caring good friends. Good communication, as the basis of true friendship, ...
Views: 1897 - Thanksgiving and Family: Love and Friction - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Daniela RoherThanksgiving is just around the corner. Families are planning to gather around the table to strengthen their connections to one another and maintain traditions. There is a good side to this holiday, and a not so good one. Let’s start with the happy side. This is the only holiday that ...
Views: 1894 - Guru for Two's Four Love Stages - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2011 from Rhonda AudiaYou find someone that you adore and your relationship is truly BLISS...for about 6 months. Sooner or later, you realize that this person that you thought would be the ANSWER, can sometimes be the PROBLEM! Even the best relationship can start out with BLISS, promise and expectation but ...
Views: 1893 - ***You are Doing Your Best - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Margaret MeloniIf you follow sports you have noticed that top athletes do not always perform consistently. A world class runner may break a world record in one competition and then not even place in the same event one week later. A champion weight lifter might break a record and then be unable to lift that ...
Views: 1889(5 votes) - 10 PROLIFIC COMMUNICATE TIPS - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2017 from Janet PfeifferIt's difficult for a lot of people to communicate with each other effectively. Unless you're a recluse, communication is something we all do every day. Perhaps because I'm a motivational speaker, author, and radio host, I can talk ad infinitum. I actually find it enjoyable and relatively easy. ...
Views: 1889 - College bullying: a temporary issue or severe illness of the young society? - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2020 from Amanda Sparks“It will get better.” This is the common statement to victims of bullying, often made by celebrities – celebrities who were once bullied themselves. And there is also this common belief that once a victim leaves high school and moves onto college, it’s over. It’s Not Over Not so fast. ...
Views: 1889(2 votes) - How to Say No to People You Care About - by Submitted on May 02, 2014 from Pat LaDouceur“I want to learn how to say No so it doesn’t turn into an argument,” David said. He’d been married about two years, and came to my office asking if I could help him learn to talk with his wife “without getting so upset when we disagree.” “I’m fine doing things her way most of the time,” he ...
Views: 1888(1 vote) - PTSD Closes Open Doors - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2019 from Risa RuseThink earnestly, even if our life’s PTSD experience has taught us to be mean. To continue to mistreat others this way, we only allow misery to glean. By persisting to act out old behavior, we deprive ourselves, too. Instead of moving forward, we endorse what has made us blue! We react to ...
Views: 1884 - H.B.I.T.S. Syndrome - The Silent Killer - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2010 from E. (anagarika eddie) Raymond RockH.B.I.T.S. is more widespread than originally thought, mainly because it goes unreported. The reason for this is that on the surface, it doesn't seem to be all that serious. But as a matter of record, H.B.I.T.S. could be called the silent killer. One of the major symptoms of H.B.I.T.S. is a ...
Views: 1882(5 votes) - Keep Your Parents and Children Out of Your Marriage - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2010 from Peggy FergusonKeep your parents and your children out of your marriage. Once they are in there, it's hard to get them out. When you are in conflict with your spouse, it is really tempting to use whoever is handy to vent to, regarding your marriage. And often the people available most available to us are ...
Views: 1877 - ***Can't We All Just Get Along - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2010 from Margaret MeloniNo, we cannot all get along all of the time. It is unrealistic to think that all team members will absolutely agree with you or with each other all of the time. If every time you are together, there is never any disagreement, look out - you have problems. Sure, maybe the first time you meet you ...
Views: 1870(4 votes) - ANGER: FIRE OR ICE? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2017 from Janet PfeifferIt doesn't take much to anger some people. Even the most innocent comments can cause some tempers to flare. Innocuous situations can be misinterpreted leading to screaming matches, cursing, or physical altercations. In an instant, violence can erupt where calm once existed and destruction of ...
Views: 1870 - 13 Quick Questions for Clarifying Anger - by Submitted on May 21, 2014 from Janet PfeifferDo you ever wonder why it's so hard to break a habit? Whether it's biting your fingernails, the way you speak, or your reaction to drivers who cut you off on the highway, old habits die hard. The reason being is that behaviors, when repeated frequently enough, become habitual. We no longer ...
Views: 1868 - Problem Solving: Don't Ignore the Nudges - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2009 from George TorokAll problems are not equal. Some will bite you. Some just nudge you. Those nudges are worthy of more attention. You will encounter two types of problems, acute and chronic. They have two distinct warnings signs and different methods of solving them. You need to be aware of both types of ...
Views: 1865(3 votes) - Toxic People or Situation? LEAVE IT IN THE 'MYSTERY' - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2011 from Chelle ThompsonAll of us will encounter toxic individuals and circumstances in our lives at one time or another. During those experiences we need to use whatever helpful tools we can find to stay balanced and clear about "who we are." One of the methods I use to maintain perspective is to create a "healthy ...
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