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- Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Develop A Needless False Self? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is an interdependent human being, they could typically act as though they are independent. They are then going to have a number of needs, but, in general, they will create the impression that they don’t. Apart from their basic needs then, such as their need to eat and ...
Views: 119 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Act Like An Extension Of Others If They Had A Narcissistic Mother? - by Submitted on May 05, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone can see, if they were to step back and reflect on how they behave, is that they typically act as though they are an extension of others. They are then going to be a separate human being who has their own needs, feelings and life to lead, but they won’t act like one. In general, ...
Views: 118 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Has Mother Enmeshed-Mans Conscience Been Outsourced To His Mother? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man can find is that when he does what his mother wants, he feels good about himself. Or, at the very least, he notices that he feels settled and is able to focus on what he is doing. However, when he doesn’t do what his mother wants, he can find that he doesn’t feel good about ...
Views: 118 - Early Deprivation: Can A Goal Be Another Way For Someone To Struggle For Love? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is feeling low and is even depressed, they might believe that they need a goal to work toward. Then again, they could talk to a trusted friend or family member about how they feel, and this is what they could be told. Assuming that the latter takes place, this can be seen as a way ...
Views: 117 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Act Like An External Regulator If They Had An Emotionally Unstable Parent? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is a separate human being who has their own needs, feelings and challenges, for instance, it doesn’t mean that they will typically act like one. Instead, it can be as though they are on this planet to care for and ensure that other people are not emotionally unsettled. So, ...
Views: 117 - Early Deprivation: What Can Someone Fear If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on how they experience life, what might enter their mind is that they have a number of fears. Due to this, it is likely to make it difficult for them to embrace life. In general, they could live in a way that causes them to be on the outside and unable ...
Views: 117 - Mother-Enmeshed Women: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Woman Sabotage Her Life? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, a woman may have seen a number of her female friends move forward in their careers and form loving and supportive relationships. However, she might not have moved forward in their career nor had a loving and supportive relationship, let alone be in one. Thanks to her inability ...
Views: 117 - Early Deprivation: Can A Man Be Emasculated If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man can find is that it is difficult for him not only to feel settled, but to also feel good about himself. If this is the case, what will be normal is for him to feel anxious and fearful, and worthless and ashamed. Now, if he were to think about why this is, what might enter his mind ...
Views: 116 - Early Deprivation: Can A Man Have The Need To Keep Women At A Distance If He Had An Emotionally Unstable Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to step back and reflect on his life, he may find that he has rarely, if ever, been able to develop a deeper connection with a woman. So, he might have had casual encounters and even dated a few women. However, he might not have been able to take things further with a woman and ...
Views: 116 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Be Overly Sensitive To Rejection If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they might find is that they have the inclination to overreact when they are given feedback or receive constructive criticism. So if they are in a relationship, they might see that if their partner says that they would prefer something ...
Views: 116 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone See Themselves As An Object If Their Parent Treated Them Like One? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone is a human being, and has needs, feelings and inherent worth, it doesn’t mean that they will act like one. Instead, they can typically act as though they are an object that exists to meet other people’s needs. The outcome of this is that they will typically ignore a number of ...
Views: 116 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Have A Withdrawn True Self If They Had A Narcissistic Parent? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is a separate human being who has their own needs, feelings and preferences, it doesn’t mean that they will typically come across in this way. In general, they can come across as though they are merely an extension of others. Assuming that this is the case, when they are ...
Views: 115 - Early Deprivation: Can Women Take On A Symbolic Meaning If A Man Had An Emotionally Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for a man to spend a lot of time having sex with different women, or he might spend a lot of time dating different women. Then again, he might go from one relationship to another. If this is the case, it will mean that he is seldom, if ever, going to be in a position ...
Views: 115 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If A Man Was Sacrificed By His Father To Appease His Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperDuring a man’s formative years, he needed to feel safe and secure and be loved. This would have allowed him to stay connected to himself and connect to his mother and father. Thanks to this, he would have been able to gradually go from a dependent to an interdependent human being. This stage ...
Views: 115 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Unconsciously Make Him Into The Parent She Never Had? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperFor a little while now, a man may have been able to see that he is overly focused on his mother. What can be clear is that, thanks to how focused he is on her needs, he doesn’t have much of a life himself. So, he might have a job that is or isn’t fulfilling, might or might not have a few ...
Views: 115 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Woman’s Brain Stop Her From Seeing Why She Ends Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there can be a number of areas that are going well for a woman, there can be one area that is not going well. So, she can have a job or a career that is going well, she can be doing well financially, have good friends, and have good health. However, when it comes to her love life, ...
Views: 114 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone to Lose Touch With Their Survival Instincts? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to make good decisions, they will need to have access to all parts of themselves. So, they will need to be connected to not only what is taking place for them at a mental level, but also what is taking place for them at an emotional and instinctual level. This will mean ...
Views: 113 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Woman React Negatively If She Is Told She Doesn’t Just End Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, a woman may have been with a number of men who were overly focused on their mother and were emotionally unavailable. Then again, the men she has been with might have just been emotionally unavailable. Either way, she is likely to be well and truly fed up with this area of her ...
Views: 113 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have An Idealised View Of His Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is entangled in his mother’s world and his life largely revolves around her needs, he might not see it. However, if he were to end up dating a woman, the woman could soon see that he is out of balance. Not only this, but she could see that his mother is not grateful for what he does ...
Views: 113 - Early Deprivation: Can A Woman Feel Vulnerable After Her Abusive Father Has Passed On? - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperRecently, a woman’s father may have passed, and this may have left her in a very bad way. However, thanks to what her relationship was like with her father, she might not just be grieving his loss. No, in addition to this, she can also feel exposed and as though she is no longer as safe a ...
Views: 111 - Early Deprivation: Can A Woman Look For A Father Figure If She Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman were to describe the type of man that she wants to be with, she could say that she wants a man who is emotionally strong and can lead, protect and take care of her. Over the years, she might have been with a number of men who were like this. In fact, the last man that she was with ...
Views: 111 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother See Him As Her Parent? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man, who is overly focused on his mother and spends a lot of time meeting her needs, were to reflect on how he behaves, what might enter his mind is how he is more like his mothers parent than her son. This is because he won’t just be there for her from time to time; his life will revolve ...
Views: 111 - Early Deprivation: Can A Man See Some Women As Sexual Objects If He Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to step back and reflect on his life, what he may see is that when he is attracted to a woman, it doesn’t occur to him that she is a human being. She is then not going to be someone who has her own needs, feelings, preferences, insecurities and fears, for instance. Instead, he ...
Views: 110 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Hide Themselves If They Had A Narcissistic Mother? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is a separate human being who has their own needs and feelings and life to lead, it doesn’t mean that they will typically come across in this way. In general, it can be as though they are an extension of others and are here to meet their needs. So, when they are around ...
Views: 110 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Feel Unworthy Of Being Seen And Heard If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they might see is that they have the tendency to be in the background in life. So, this can mean that they will spend a lot of time by themselves. Then again, they might not spend much time by themselves and could spend a lot of ...
Views: 109 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Have Two Selves If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone looks like one person on the outside, it doesn’t mean that they will be one person on the inside. The reason for this is that there can be the self that they are aware of, their conscious self and then, there can be the self that they are not aware of, their unconscious ...
Views: 109 - Early Deprivation: Can A Man Have A Fear Of Being Seen If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may see, if he steps back and reflects on his behaviour, is that he has the inclination to play a role when he is around others. So, he can see that when this happens, he comes across as though everything is fine. It then won’t matter if this is actually the case, as he won’t open ...
Views: 108 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Unconsciously Look For A Mother And Father? - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is an adult, it could be said that they will no longer need a mother or father. Now, this is not to say that their mother and father, that’s if they are still around, no longer have a purpose in their life. Of course, they will still be their parents, and they might enjoy being ...
Views: 108 - Early Deprivation: Is A Man Wasting His Time If He Is Trying To Be Seen And Heard By His Narcissistic Mother? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to step back and reflect on his life, what he may see is that, when he is around his mother, he becomes someone else. So, he can lose touch with his needs and how he feels and focus on her. As for his mother, she can typically talk about what she has been doing and what is ...
Views: 108 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man's Mother Not Realise Her Son Has A Self/Soul? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man, who is caught up in his mother’s world, were to reflect on how he lives his life, he could see that it’s as though he is nothing more than an extension of his mother. He could see that he spends a lot of time doing things for her and very little time, in comparison, doing things for ...
Views: 107 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Stop Someone From Developing A Felt Sense of Safety? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to feel on edge and as though something bad is going to happen to them. At other times, it could be even worse, as it could be as though their life is going to end. If so, they will either experience anxiety or they will experience anxiety, fear and terror. ...
Views: 106 - Early Deprivation: Why Would Someone Have Had A Cold Mother? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to think about what their mother was like during their early years, they might not think of someone who was emotionally attuned, affectionate and supportive. Instead, they could think of someone who was emotionally distant, was seldom affectionate and was unsupportive. Along ...
Views: 106 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Have A Well-Developed Superego If They Had A Controlling Parent? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that it is hard for them to freely express themselves. Therefore, instead of them behaving how they want to behave, it can be as if they are living in a prison and are only allowed to do certain things. So, ...
Views: 105 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Have An Outer-Directed False Self If They Had A Narcissistic Mother? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they might see is that they have the tendency to focus on others and do what they can to please them. This can be something that just takes place without them having to think about it. So, when they are around another person, they ...
Views: 105 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Give A Man The Desire To Be A Woman? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperRecently, a man may have thought about what it would be like for him to be a woman. Then again, this might have been something that he has been thinking about for many months, or even years. When he thinks about this, he can think about what he would wear, what he would do, and how other ...
Views: 104 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Crave Attention Over Intimacy If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on how they behave, is that they have a strong need for attention. Their need for intimacy, on the other hand, can be more or less nonexistent. As a result of this, they will like having other people’s eyes on them and on what they ...
Views: 104 - Early Deprivation: Does A Man Need A Developed Feminine Aspect To Have A Developed Masculine Aspect? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man finds it hard to be assertive, take action and be emotionally centred, for instance, it can seem as though he has an underdeveloped masculine aspect. This is because this part of him will seemingly give him the power that he needs to stand up for himself, get things done, and provide ...
Views: 104 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Make It Hard For Someone To Experience Self-Control? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they may see is that they find it hard to stick to things and often say things that they later regret. As a result of this, they can have endless goals that they haven’t achieved and have fallen out with a lot of people. Due ...
Views: 103 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If A Man Had A Devouring Mother? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to step back and reflect on his life, what he may see is that he finds it hard to stand on his own two feet, stand up for himself, and feel good. As a result of this, his life is unlikely to be very fulfilling. He might see that he has been this way for as long as he can ...
Views: 103 - Early Deprivation: Why Would Someone Not Be Supported When They Talk About Their Abusive Childhood? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has gradually become consciously aware of the fact that their childhood wasn’t very nurturing, they can have the need talk to some of the people in their life about it. Now, this can be a time when the friends and/or family members that they tell are very understanding and ...
Views: 103 - Early Deprivation: Can A Man Look For A Mother Figure If He Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to describe the type of woman that he is looking for, he could say that he is looking for a woman who is understanding, affectionate, caring and feminine. Over the years, he might have been with a number of women who were like this. Or, to be more precise, he might have been ...
Views: 102 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If A Man Had A Mother Who Dehumanised Him? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for a man to feel low and even depressed, and he might even have moments when he thinks about ending his life. As for what his life is like, it is likely to be anything but fulfilling. So, he can have a job that is soul-destroying, or he might have a job that is ...
Views: 101 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Has A Mother-Enmeshed Man Been Conditioned To Sacrifice Himself? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man acts as though he is an extension of his mother and spends a lot of time meeting her needs, what can be clear to an outsider is that he is out of balance. The reason for this is that he is a separate human being who has his own needs, feelings and life to lead. Therefore, by behaving ...
Views: 100 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Associate Being Seen With Being Trapped If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they may see is that, when they are around others, they tend to play a role. Therefore, instead of freely expressing themselves, they will go into a fixed way of behaving. So, their focus will be on pleasing others, and they can ...
Views: 99 - Suicide: Why Would A Man Rather Die Than Reach Out For Support? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not common to hear about a man who has taken his own life. At times, this can mean that he will leave behind family and friends, and at others, it can go further than this, with him leaving behind a girlfriend or wife and even a child or children. For those who are left ...
Views: 99 - Early Deprivation: Can A Man Reject His Masculinity If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man has a masculine element, it doesn’t mean he will be in touch with this part of himself. If this is the case, he is unlikely to be rooted in his body; instead, he is likely to live in his head. The outcome of this is that he can be very intellectual or even ‘spiritual’. ...
Views: 98 - Early Deprivation: Did An Abusive Parent Have A Form Of Psychosis? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to think about their early years, they could remember some of the moments when they were mistreated. This may have been a stage of their life when they were often ignored, rejected, put down, humiliated, and even physically harmed. Therefore, the person or people who were ...
Views: 98 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Be An Emotional Caretaker If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is a separate human being who has their own feelings, needs and life to lead, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. As a result, they can typically come across as though they are an extension of others and are here to meet their needs. So, when it comes to the ...
Views: 97 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Was A Mother-Enmeshed Man Brought Up To Be His Mother's Emotional Regulator? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man spends a lot of time doing things for his mother and often thinks about her when he is not with her, he is going to be directing a lot of his time and energy toward her. Thanks to this, he might not have much of a life. And, if he is dating or in a relationship with a woman, he might ...
Views: 97 - Repression: Can Repression Cause Someone To Be Aware But Unconscious? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has an area of their life that is not very fulfilling, they can look into what they can do to change it. During this time, they can learn about how, once they become aware of how they are behaving, they will be able to change the behaviours that are not serving them and thus, change ...
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