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- Child Abuse: Can Someone Be Unable To Freely Express Themselves If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they generally act as though they are an extension of others. Due to this, they will typically be focused on other people’s needs and do what they can to meet them. It is then going to be normal for them to ...
Views: 135 - Loss: Can Someone Lose The Desire To Be Alive After They Have Experienced A Loss? - by Submitted on May 05, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has recently experienced a loss, they could be in a very bad way. They can have moments when they feel very sad and can’t stop crying, and moments when they shut down and are unable to feel anything. Along with this, they can find it hard to get out of bed in the morning and ...
Views: 135 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man See Women As A Threat If His Mother Was Abusive? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough certain areas of a man’s life might be going well, there might be one area that isn’t and it might have been this way for a while. So, his career could be going in the right direction and he might have a number of close friends, for instance. However, when it comes to his love life, ...
Views: 135 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man See Women As His Enemies If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperNot too long ago, a man may have experienced a breakup. He may have been with a woman who didn’t treat him very well and be relieved that their time together has come to an end. If so, this would have been a relationship that was anything but harmonious and there wouldn’t have been a great ...
Views: 135 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Try To Be Accepted By Women If His Mother Was Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to step back and reflect on his life, what he may see is that he spends a lot of time trying to please women. So, over the years he might have been in a number of relationships where he lost himself. Therefore, thanks to how focused he was on trying to make the women happy, he ...
Views: 134 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Stop Someone From Being Able To Individuate? - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is a separate individual, who has their own needs, feelings and life to lead, it doesn’t mean that they will act like one. Instead, they can act as though they are an extension of others and are thus, are here to meet their needs. Due to this, they can then typically meet ...
Views: 133 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Associate Abuse With Survival If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperRight now, someone may be in a relationship that is anything but loving. So, they could be with someone who undermines them in a variety of different ways. For example, they could rarely be seen or heard, receive affection, often be put down and humiliated and even be physically harmed. They ...
Views: 133 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Associate Receiving Attention With Being Humiliated If They Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on May 20, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone will have the need to be seen and heard, this need might rarely, if ever, be met. The reason for this is that they could do what they can to stay in the background. So, when they are at work, with friends and even with family, they could prefer to let other people talk and ...
Views: 133 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Be Emotionally Withdrawn Around A Woman If His Mother Was Abusive? - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperAt this point in time, a man may be in a relationship that is not going well. The main reason for this is that he might find that it is not possible for him to be connected to how he feels when he is with his girlfriend. If so, when he is with her, he will lose touch with how he feels. He ...
Views: 132 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Struggle To Be Loved By A Woman If His Mother Was Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to step back and reflect on his life, he might see that he has spent a lot of time trying to make women like him. Along with this, he might see that he has been with a number of women who were unable to love him. As a result, he can believe that there is something wrong with ...
Views: 132 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Believe That There Is Not Enough If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on May 20, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they might find is that it’s as though they live in a desert. The reason for this is that they could seldom, if ever, receive what they need. So, they might generally be able to meet the needs that allow them to survive, but that ...
Views: 131 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Have The Need To Adapt To Others If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperAt this point in time, someone could be in a relationship with someone who is not right for them. But, although this is the case, they can have a strong need to stay with them. What they can also find is that when they are with their partner, they have the inclination to lose themselves. They ...
Views: 130 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Have The Tendency To Feel Lonely If They Had A Narcissistic Mother? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on how they often feel, is that they often feel lonely. This is then going to be a time when they experience pain, as they are unable to meet their need to connect to another or others. Now, this could show that they spend a lot of ...
Views: 130 - Therapy: Can Therapy Be Another Way For Someone To Struggle For Love? - by Submitted on May 20, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone feels the call to have therapy, it can be due to a variety of different reasons. So, they could suffer from anxiety and/or depression, struggle to feel good about themselves, and/or they could have relational challenges. Either way, after they have found a therapist who is right ...
Views: 130 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Have The Tendency To Erase Themselves If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to think about what they were like when they last spent time around others, what might enter their mind is that they didn’t show up. What they can find is that it was as though they were wearing a mask and acted as though they were not a separate human being. The reason for ...
Views: 129 - Healing: Can Someone Use Their Imagination To Heal Themselves? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was greatly deprived during their formative years and is not in a good way now that they are an adult, the logical thing will be for them to do what they can to heal themselves. To do this, they can read books, take courses and work with a therapist or healer. By taking these steps ...
Views: 129 - Early Deprivation: Can A Woman Find Healthy Relationships Boring If She Had A Dysfunctional Childhood? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperAfter having been in a number of relationships that were anything but functional, a woman can end up in a relationship that is very different. This can be a relationship where the man (or woman) is reliable and consistent. Due to this, what he says he will do will generally be what he does ...
Views: 128 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Give Someone The Need To Die Whenever They Suffer? - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has just gone through a breakup, they can be in a bad way mentally and emotionally. Due to this, what can often enter their mind is the thought of ending their life. To a big part of them, this can be seen as the only way out of the misery that they are experiencing. And, just ...
Views: 128 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Unsettled? - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone’s emotional self may rarely, if ever, be settled, with them often being all at sea internally. Due to this, it might not be possible for them to live a normal life. Now, it might not matter if they are around others or by themselves as they could struggle to handle what is ...
Views: 127 - Intimacy: Can A Woman Be Drawn To Men Who Emotionally Withdraw If She Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman is in a relationship, she may have found that the man that she is with has become less available as time has passed. So, during the early stages, he might have soon replied to her messages, called her, generally been available to meet, been affectionate and expressed his inner world, ...
Views: 127 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Have Bad Dreams? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperRecently, someone might have had a number of strange dreams. These can be dreams where they end up being rejected and left, and even cut off from others. There can also be moments when they are attacked and end up being harmed. Either way, thanks to what happens when they are asleep, it might ...
Views: 126 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Believe That They Are Not Good Enough If They Had A Narcissistic Mother? - by Submitted on May 20, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone could see is that no matter what they do or achieve, they don’t feel worthy or deserving of having their needs met. Instead, they can have the sense that they are worthless and undeserving. Now, if they were to reach out to a friend and talk about what is going on for them, they ...
Views: 126 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Have An Underdeveloped Sense Of Self If They Had A Narcissistic Mother? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to spend a lot of time feeling empty and as though they are missing something. Along with this, they can often feel invisible and question if they even exist. As a result, they are not going to feel whole and complete and know that other people can see them ...
Views: 126 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Only Give Him What He Needed To Survive? - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is focused on his mother and is neglecting himself, it can be hard for the people in his life to understand what is going on. His friends and his girlfriend, if he has one, are then going to be confused. For them, it could be clear that he is living in the wrong way and needs to ...
Views: 126 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Hide Their Needs? - by Submitted on May 20, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to focus on other people’s needs and ignore their own. This is something that can take place without them consciously choosing to behave in this way. Apart from meeting their basic needs, then, they will have the tendency to overlook their other needs. And ...
Views: 125 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Be Out Of Touch With Their True Self If They Had A Narcissistic Mother? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were able to step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they have the tendency to please others. They can see that this takes place without them having to think about it. Along with this, they can find that they don’t have a good connection with their needs and ...
Views: 125 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Carry A Lot Of Grief If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has just experienced a loss, they can be in a very bad way mentally, emotionally and physically. So, they can find it hard to concentrate, be filled with sadness and it can be difficult for them to do anything. Thus, due to what is going on for them, it is not going to be possible ...
Views: 125 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Take On The Suffering Of The World If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperAt this point in time, someone could pay a lot of attention to what is taking place in the Levant. Along with this, they can pay a fair amount of attention to what is taking place in Eastern Europe. They might not just see and hear about what is happening, feel a variety of different feelings ...
Views: 125 - Healing: Can It Be Hard For Someone To Heal If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperFor a little while now, someone may have been doing what they can to put their childhood behind them and live a life worth living. But, no matter what they have done, they might not have been able to truly put the past behind them. Nonetheless, this is not to say that they won’t have made any ...
Views: 125 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Believe That He Would Be Abandoning His Mother If He Broke Away? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to see that he is overly focused on his mother, it doesn’t mean that he will just be able to change his life. The reason for this is that part of him can have the need to behave in the same way. This part of him can be far stronger than the part of him that wants to experience ...
Views: 125 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Being Noble By Putting His Mother First? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he spends a lot of time doing things for his mother and overlooks his own life, he can believe that he is doing the right thing. Nonetheless, this is not to say that this is what will go through his head. No, what it is likely to mean is that, deep down, he has ...
Views: 125 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Has A Mother-Enmeshed Been Used By His Mother From A Young Age? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperNaturally, there is a big difference between a man being there for his mother from time to time and more or less always being there for her. The former will allow him to have his own life, while the latter won’t. But, although there is a big difference between these two scenarios, if a man is ...
Views: 124 - Early Deprivation: Can A Man Be Emotionally Dependent On A Woman If His Mother Was Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man doesn’t have a woman in his life that he is seeing or in a relationship with, he may feel as though he is missing something. As a result of this, he can feel a strong need to be with a woman. He can believe, for instance, that he is meant to be with a woman, and this is why he ...
Views: 123 - Early Deprivation: Can A Man Struggle To Make Unresponsive Women Responsive If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperRight now, a man could be dating a woman who rarely has time for him, and when she is around, she could typically be somewhere else mentally and emotionally. This might have been going on for a few weeks or months. Either way, thanks to what is going on, he is likely to spend a lot of time ...
Views: 123 - Early Deprivation: Can Developmental Trauma Stop Someone From Being Able To Freely Express Themselves? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they might see is that they are typically focused on other people's needs and do what they can to please them. Therefore, they typically won’t be connected to their own needs and do what is right for them. They might see that ...
Views: 123 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone’s Emotional Self To Withdraw? - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may have come to see, if they have been reflecting on how they experience life, is that they don’t have a good connection with their emotional self. In general, it might be as if they don’t have an emotional self. If this is the case, they are typically not going to be aware of ...
Views: 123 - Early Deprivation: Can It Be Harder For Someone To Handle A Loss If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on May 20, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperRecently, someone may have experienced a loss, and since then, they might not have been in a good way. If this is the case, they are going to be in a position where they find it hard to function. Now, they might have experienced a breakup or lost a loved one. Either way, they can find it hard ...
Views: 123 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Find It Hard To Trust Themselves If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone might want to do something, it doesn’t mean that they will take the next step. Instead, they can continually put it off; with them wondering what it would be like if they do do it. There might not just be one thing that they continually put off - there could be a number of ...
Views: 123 - Early Deprivation: Is An OnlyFans Model Unconsciously Trying To Meet Her Unmet Developmental Needs? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there are numerous OnlyFans models, there are only a few that are well-known. Some of the well-known ones have been on TV, radio and have been featured in newspapers and magazines. Furthermore, the women who reach this level may have earned hundreds of thousands of pounds, if not ...
Views: 123 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have An Identity Crisis When He Breaks Away From His Mother? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has come to see that he is behaving as if he is an extension of his mother and is ignoring a number of his own needs, he can feel a strong need to do less for her and do more for himself. Then again, it might go further than this, as he might not want to do a great deal for ...
Views: 123 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Turning His Back On His Mother If He Breaks Away? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has been focusing on his mother and doing what he can to please her, and this has been going on for as long as he can remember, it is not going to be a surprise if he is unable to just live his own life. Due to how long he has lived in this way, living in this way is likely to be what ...
Views: 123 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Move On From Early Deprivation By ‘Rewiring Their Brain’? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone had a less than nurturing childhood, they might not be in a good way now that they are an adult. For example, they could often experience anxiety and fear and feel low. As a result of this, it can be hard for them to function. Due to this, they are likely to want to find a way to ...
Views: 122 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can The Societal View Of A Mother Make It Harder For A Mother-Enmeshed Man To Individuate? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven if a man is overly focused on his mother’s needs and has abandoned himself, it doesn’t mean that he will be consciously aware of this. Not only this, but his mother and the people in his life might not be aware of what is going on, let alone encourage him to change his behaviour. Thus, ...
Views: 122 - Author, transformational writer, teacher and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis cover all aspects of human transformation; including love, partnership, self-love, self-worth, enmeshment, inner child, t - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man can want to freely express himself and live his own life, he can find that he is unable to do so. Instead, he can have the need to focus on his mother and meet her needs. As a result of this, he will act more like an extension of her than a separate human being who has his ...
Views: 121 - Early Deprivation: Can A Man Associate Receiving Attention With Being Humiliated If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to step back and reflect on his life, what he may see is that he does what he can to avoid attention. As a result of this, he can typically stay in the background and not be seen by others. He might see that it doesn’t matter if he is around men or women, or he might see that he ...
Views: 121 - Early Deprivation: Can A Man Believe That He Is Not Desirable If His Mother Was Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, a man may have been attracted to a number of women who were not interested in him. Along with this, he might have dated a number of women who lost interest in him before long. Also, he may have been in at least one relationship that came to an end because the woman was no ...
Views: 121 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Carry Split-Off Child Parts? - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone’s childhood will be well and truly behind them, it doesn’t mean that they have fully moved on from this stage of their life. Due to this, what happened and the impact it had on them can still have a big effect on their life. However, if they are not aware of this, what is ...
Views: 121 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother See Him As An Object? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is not at work, it doesn’t mean that he will focus on his own needs. Instead, he can typically be doing things for his mother and overlooking his own needs. So, he could be taking her somewhere, buying things for her, doing a job for her, or listening to her problems, for instance. ...
Views: 121 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Woman Emotionally Unavailable If She Ends Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperRight now, a woman can be with a man who is overly focused on his mother and has very little time for himself, let alone her. And, when she does spend time with him, he could be largely out of reach. Due to this, she will be in a relationship, but it can be as if she is single, as very few of ...
Views: 121 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Dependent? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is an adult, it doesn’t mean that they will feel like one. Instead, they can typically feel as though they are an incapable child who is unable to handle life. The outcome of this is that they can have the tendency to look to others to make decisions for them and guide ...
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