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- You Need To Take Action!You Need To Take Action! - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere is a lot of information available that goes into how important it is to take action and what someone can do to get themselves moving. This could be seen as a sign that a lot of people don’t realise how vital it is to take action and find it hard to get the ball moving, so to speak. ...
Views: 648 - You Only Need To Listen! - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is going through a challenging time, for instance, it can be easy to assume that they need advice. It is then going to be as though they don’t know what do, meaning that they will need to be saved. One can then end up feeling a lot of pressure - pressure that will arise through ...
Views: 984 - You Sound Stupid When You Say That! - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperEarlier on I was listening to a conversation where one person was having a go at someone else. These were not just two strangers, though; they were two people who knew each other. One of them said something and the other person didn’t hear what was said, so they ended up saying “what?” a ...
Views: 966 - You Were Sent Here For A Reason! - by Submitted on May 06, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperYesterday a friend of mine called Ian Baillie gave a talk nearby, and this was about “Surviving and Thriving on Post-2012 Earth”. Along with this, he also went into a number of people who he knew and the lives that they had had in the past. I already knew a lot about what he said as we ...
Views: 1148 - Your Beliefs Are Creating Your Life - by Submitted on May 10, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperBefore I got on ‘the path’ in 2003, I had no idea what beliefs were, let alone the impact that my beliefs were having on my own life. At this stage of my life, I didn’t think that I had much of an effect on my life and that I was nothing more than an observer of it. This all changed in ...
Views: 660 - Your Body Is Not A Dustbin! - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that the body is a temple, but while this is the case, it could be said that there are plenty of people that don’t view their body in this way. For some people, their body is basically a dustbin. Now, this can mean that someone will put just about anything into their body - ...
Views: 724 - Your Inner Child Is Waiting For You To Listen - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne could find that they often feel down or angry and/or that they have the tendency to overreact. Regardless of what is going on for them, they may look into what they can do to experience life differently. Before long, they could try to change what is going on in their mind - with what is ...
Views: 784 - Your Inner Critic Is A Liar - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperPerhaps you can you set your mind on achieving something and you soon take the next step. During this time, you may find that you have a supportive voice inside you that allows you to keep going when different hurdles arise. Furthermore, this supportive voice could typically be there ...
Views: 829 - Your Story: Is Your Need To Be Loyal Causing You To Create Someone Else's Life? - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one does a lot of reading, they may find that they read a lot about other people’s lives. This could be because they like to find out about how other people experience life, and it could also be a sign that they like to get away from their own life. There is then the chance that they are ...
Views: 1291 - Your Wounds Are Your Gifts - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that one may have heard, if they are into self-development or on the healing path, is that their wounds are their gifts. Now, if one is in a lot of pain, it can be hard for them to get their head around this. This could be a time when they are struggling with the fear of ...
Views: 721 - "You Have A Way With Words!" - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn September 2005 I ended up studying music technology, and this was due to a number of reasons. Firstly, I was into dance music and wanted to learn how to create my own music and, secondly, I didn’t know what else to do. During this time, I thought I would be spending a lot of time learning ...
Views: 1092 - Boundaries: Are Other People To Blame If Someone Always Ends Up Being Walked Over? - by Submitted on May 26, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is in a position where other people have the tendency to walk over them, it is going to be a challenge for them to be themselves. They are likely to spend a lot of time on edge, as this will make it easier them to predict what will happen next. Through being anxious, it will be a ...
Views: 1135 - Boundaries: Does The Fear Of Rejection Stop Some People From Saying No? - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one can stand their ground, it is going to stop them from having the need to please others. One will have the ability to say yes when they want to do something and no when they don’t. But even though both of these words have a part to play in their life, it doesn’t mean that they both have ...
Views: 1135 - Boundaries: Is Someone A Victim If Other People Walk Over Them? - by Submitted on May 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one can stand their ground, it is going to be a lot easier for them to handle life. The reason for this is that they will know that they have the ability to say no when they need to, and to walk away from a situation that isn’t good for them. Drawing the Line Therefore, if they ...
Views: 1125 - Child Abuse: Can Affirmations Help Someone If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the tools that are held in high esteem in the self-development world, affirmations are right at the top. There are even people that believe that one can transform their whole life by using these alone. For others, they will be seen as powerful but they won’t be seen as some ...
Views: 720 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Body? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has a strong connection with their body, they will generally be in touch with their needs and feelings. Through having this connection, they will be able to fulfil their needs and to listen to their feelings. This will make it easier for them to live a fulfilling life and to have ...
Views: 725 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone to Live in Freeze Mode As An Adult? - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAs an adult, one will most likely have the ability to take action by moving their body and to speak by using their voice. Therefore, they will have the ability to just be and to do nothing, and they will have the ability to do and to express themselves. However, while this could be the case, ...
Views: 708 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Set Someone Up To Believe That They Don’t Deserve To Exist? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThe very fact that someone is on this planet – has incarnated – could be put forward as evidence that they deserve to exist. But, although this is so, someone could still believe that they don’t deserve to be here. Through having this belief, it won’t be possible for them to see that they ...
Views: 609 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Find It Hard To Assert Themselves If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take step back and reflect on their life, what they may see is that they have the tendency to be easy going. It will then be normal for them to do what other people want and to ignore their own needs. As a result, they will often ignore their thoughts and feelings and do ...
Views: 199 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Get Angry At The Wrong People If They Don’t Get Angry At Their Parents? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that someone can experience a lot of, after having been abused as a child, is anger and even rage. Given what they went through during this stage of their life, it could be said that this is to be expected. They may have been violated on a weekly, if not daily, basis, and this would ...
Views: 706 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Have One Good Parent And One Bad Parent? - by Submitted on May 30, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperDuring one’s early years, they may have had two parents who treated them well. As a result of this, they may look back on their childhood with fond memories. And due to how they were treated when they were younger, there is a strong chance that they will have a good relationship with them ...
Views: 1670 - Child Abuse: Do Some People Need To Live In Denial In Order To Get On With Their Parents? - by Submitted on May 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about their parents, they may find that they start to feel good. What this can then show is that they have a good relationship with them, and this could be how it has always been. Now, this is not to say that they have never had any arguments with them; what it means is ...
Views: 1548 - Child Abuse: Why Do Some People Disown Their Parents? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are people in the world who have a close connection with their parents, there are others who don’t. And if one is close to their parents, it might be hard for them to understand why someone wouldn’t experience life in the same way. This could mean that one lives in the same ...
Views: 1574 - Communication: Is It Important To Have A Positive Energy? - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that a bad smell can cause someone to leave a room, a bad energy can also cause them to do the same thing. But, while a bad smell can be something that will typically register at a conscious level for someone, their conscious mind might not typically be aware of when they are ...
Views: 1069 - Critical Thinking: Does Politics Attract People Who Can’t Acknowledge Their Own ‘Darkness’? - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who are left-leaning/right-leaning who see all people on the other side of the spectrum as crazy. In fact, it could go even further than this with these people seeing all of the people on the other side as less-than-human. When someone is in this position, they are ...
Views: 621 - Critical Thinking: Does The Mainstream Media Define How People Perceive Reality? - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFor quite some time now, more and more people have turned their back on the mainstream media. While some of these people rarely, if ever, find out about what is going on, there are others that now look towards the alternative media for answers. However, with what is currently going on, there ...
Views: 659 - Critical Thinking: Is The Establishment Trying To Infantilize Everyone? - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt can appear as though the people in power are there to look out for their fellow human beings; nothing more; nothing less. Or, to be more accurate, the people who appear to be in power. The reason for this is that the people who are actually running the show rarely show their face (and ...
Views: 866 - Critical Thinking: Is ‘Toxic Masculinity’ The Problem? - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA number of days ago, a brand released a short film that was aimed at men, and this was there to remind men of their “toxic masculinity”. In addition to this part, it showed men how to act in a more civilised way. In the past, this company would share adverts that were radically different, ...
Views: 782 - Dating: Can Being Needy Stop Someone From Having Boundaries? - by Submitted on May 12, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one goes on a date, they may find that they are able to be themselves, and this is going to show that they feel comfortable in their own skin. Therefore, even if they are at a point in their life where they want to be with someone, they are not going to come across as being needy. The ...
Views: 1292 - Early Deprivation: Can A Man Have A Lot Of Unmet Developmental Needs To Grieve If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven if a man had a mother who was emotionally unavailable and unable to provide him with the emotional nutrients that he needed, it doesn’t mean that he will be aware of this. He might not remember a great deal about this stage of his life. But, if he were to think about this stage, he could ...
Views: 161 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be Very Driven? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is practically always on the go and spends a lot of time working on different goals, they could believe that this is just what they are like. Therefore, they will have been born this way. Then again, they could also believe that this shows that they value themselves. If this is the ...
Views: 199 - Empathy Is No Better Than Anger! - by Submitted on May 04, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was at a bar the other night there was a scuffle; fortunately, no one was injured. I thought that this is what can happen when some people get drunk, they lose all self-control. Instead of being able to think about what they are doing and the consequences that may arise, they end ...
Views: 1064 - Energy Vampires: Is It Harder To Realise When Someone Is An Energy Vampire When We Are Emotionally Disconnected? - by Submitted on May 19, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one will come into contact with people who will take their energy, they are also going to come into contact with people who won’t. And it could be said that the ideal will be for them to spend more time around the latter than the former. How Life is When this is how one experiences ...
Views: 1133 - False-Self: Can Self-Development Allow Someone To Replace Their False-Self With Another False-Self? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in touch with their feelings and needs, it could be said that they are in touch with their true-self. And if it is possible for these aspects to have an effect on their life, it will mean that their life will be an expression of who they are. The Ideal One way of looking ...
Views: 1197 - False-Self: Can The Fear Of Being Harmed Cause Someone To Create A False-Self? - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to take a step back and to reflect on their life, they may find that it is a reflection of who they are. And as their life is this way, it is going to how that they are in touch with their needs and feelings. It is then through being in touch with what is taking place within them, ...
Views: 1260 - Fear: Are Some People Addicted To Fear? - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperJust as there are some people who experience fear from time to time, there are also some people who experience it on a regular basis. Due to this, their experience on this earth is likely to be radically different. One way of looking at this would be to say that when it comes to the former, ...
Views: 1156 - Free Speech: Is The Western World Walking On Eggshells? - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one lives in America and they are against Donald Trump, or if they live in the United Kingdom and they were against Brexit, it could be said that there would be no reason for them to keep their views to themselves. They could share their views with their friends and online, and there is a ...
Views: 1172 - I Thought Astrology Was A Load Of Rubbish! - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI remember reading about my star sign in different papers when I was growing up and thinking how general it was. So, while I would read up on my sign from time to time, I wouldn’t take much notice of what I read. After a while, I soon turned my back on it altogether and saw it as a bit of a ...
Views: 1102 - Imposter Syndrome: Why Do Some High Achievers Feel Like Imposters? - by Submitted on May 06, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone could be in a position where they have achieved a lot in one area of their life or a number of areas, it doesn’t mean that they feel comfortable with their current level of success. What they may find, that’s if they were able to take a step back, is that it’s as though they are ...
Views: 380 - Intimacy: Can Feeling Worthless Stop Someone From Being Able To Experience Intimacy? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that there are a number of things that people need in order to have a fulfilling existence. When these things are in place, one can feel as though they are on the right track. Close Connections One of the things that this is likely to include is having people in their ...
Views: 1292 - Law Of Resonance: Does Someone Need To Have The Right Vibration If They Want To Experience Something? - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to think about what it is that they want to experience, a number of things could come to mind. They may want to have a successful business and/or loving relationships, for instance. Now, regardless of what it is that they want to experience, what is clear is that they will need ...
Views: 436 - Mental Health: Is It A Good Thing That Lady Gaga And Prince William Are Talking About Mental Health? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperA few days ago, Lady Gaga and Prince William had a conversation about mental health. This was a time when the former spoke about her own challenges and the latter spoke about how important it is for people to open up, amongst other things. A Mixed Response And as these two people are ...
Views: 1362 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Find It Hard To Activate Himself? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is overly preoccupied with his mother’s needs and just about his whole life revolves around her, he is going to be more like her parent than her son. But, although he will be neglecting himself, he can believe that he is doing the right thing. Along with this, there will be the ...
Views: 393 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can The Societal View Of A Mother Make It Harder For A Mother-Enmeshed Man To Individuate? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven if a man is overly focused on his mother’s needs and has abandoned himself, it doesn’t mean that he will be consciously aware of this. Not only this, but his mother and the people in his life might not be aware of what is going on, let alone encourage him to change his behaviour. Thus, ...
Views: 140 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Projecting The Mother He Needed Into His Mother? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man can be overly focused on his mother and do a lot for her, she might not appreciate or be grateful for what he does. Instead, she can simply expect him to be there for her. In this case, he will be giving her a lot of his time and energy, but he won’t be getting anything ...
Views: 134 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is Pain Stopping A Mother-Enmeshed Man From Seeing His Mother Clearly? - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where his mother is using him to meet her own needs, it doesn’t mean that he will be able to accept this. Therefore, if he started dating a woman and she pointed this out, it wouldn’t have much impact. He can say that his mother loves him and that he wants to be ...
Views: 179 - No One Will Listen To You! - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, I have had a number of mentors, and one mentor that has had a big effect on me is one that I met at a charity event in 2003. This person was offering readings there and it turned out that this was not the only thing she did. If I remember rightly, my mother and sister had a ...
Views: 1132 - Online Dating: Should Someone Take It Personally If Another Person Goes Silent On Them? - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was in a position where they wanted to start a new relationship, they might decide to join an online dating side. This could be seen as the best way for them to find someone to be with. No Shame In the past, online dating was frowned upon, and this was partly because it was ...
Views: 1309 - OnlyFans Models: Are Some OnlyFans Models An Example Of ‘Toxic Femininity’? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some models on OnlyFans are not very well known, there are others that are very well known. When it comes to why some models are and some aren’t, it is likely to depend on a number of different factors. So, one thing that can play a part is what a model looks like, as her appearance ...
Views: 139 - People Pleasing: Can The Fear Of Being Harmed Cause Someone To Please Others? - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the reasons why someone would get into self-development is because they have the need to please others. What this will show is that they are aware of what is wrong and this is then why they have been able to take the next step. One Step Behind Yet, if one hasn’t reached this ...
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