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- Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Waiting For His Fathers Support? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is focused on his mother’s life and is ignoring his own, it will be clear, at least to some people, that something is not right. Of course, he is not here to be an extension of his mother; he is here to express himself and live a fulfilling life. This is not to say that he can’t be ...
Views: 279 - Needs: Why Would A Parent Cause Their Child To Lose Touch With Their Needs? - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperNow that someone is an adult, they could typically ignore a number of their needs. But, if this is just what is normal, they might not be aware of this. If so, apart from their basic needs, most if not all of their other needs will seldom be met. To be specific, they can generally take care ...
Views: 279 - Relationships: Does A Lot Of Relationship Advice Encourage People To See Themselves As Powerless Victims? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, if someone is having relationship problems, it is not going to be difficult for them to find information that goes into why this is and what they can do about it. After a basic search online, there will be thousands of videos and articles that will provide them with a lot of ...
Views: 279 - True Self: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone’s True Self To Be Murdered? - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how someone behaves, it might generally be a reflection of their true self. Then again, it might generally be a reflection of their false self. If it is generally a reflection of their true self, it will mean that they will have a strong connection with their body. By having ...
Views: 279 - Early Deprivation: Is Feeling Depressed Part Of Healing From Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, if someone is depressed, it is often seen as a sign that they are not in a good way. As a result of this, they can end up going on medication or be encouraged to develop a number of goals. If the former takes place, they might not end up feeling great but they might be able ...
Views: 278 - Emotional Regulation: Does Someone Need To Develop The Ability To Regulate Their Emotions If They Are Out Of Control? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone could see, if they were to reflect on their life, is that their inability to handle their emotions is having a negative on their life. They could also see that this is nothing new as they have been this way for as long as they can remember. Due to this, they might not need to ...
Views: 278 - False Self: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Believe That They Need To Hide Themselves To Survive? - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was able to step back and reflect on how they typically experience life, what may soon stand out is that they automatically hide a number of their needs and feelings. As a result of this, what is really going on for them is going to be covered up. This is going to mean that they ...
Views: 278 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: What Does A Woman Need To Do If She Ends Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter having been up with a number of men who were focused on their mothers and were not available, a woman can be angry and frustrated. But, as she will have given a lot and received very little, this is not a surprise. What may also play a part in this is that she could believe that she has ...
Views: 278 - Boundaries: Can Someone Be In A Boundaryless State If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAs someone is a separate individual with their own needs and feelings, they are not always going to want to do what another person wants them to do. During these moments, they will need to make this clear. If this wasn’t the case, there would be no reason for them to say no to another person. ...
Views: 277 - Brands: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Worship A Brand? - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperFor many, many years, someone may have spent a fair amount of their money on certain or several clothes brands. Assuming that it is one brand, this is then going to be a brand that they greatly value. Therefore, the money that they have spent over the years will be seen as an investment. So, ...
Views: 277 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Be Very Guarded If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone can want to experience intimacy, it doesn’t mean that they have been able to experience it. So, they might have spent a fair amount of time on their appearance and spent time socialising but not been able to make much progress. This could be something that has been going on ...
Views: 277 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Attempt Suicide? - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperFrom the outside, someone can appear to be doing fine or at the very least, not in a bad way mentally and emotionally. But, beyond the impression that they typically create around others, can be someone who is not in a good way. Consequently, it won’t be possible for them to receive the ...
Views: 277 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Be Out Of Touch With Their True Self If They Had A Parent Who Was Emotionally Blind? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone can find is that they have trouble knowing how they feel and what their needs are. They might see that they have been this way for as long as they can remember. After this, they could think about how being this way makes it hard for them to know what to do. But, as they will have ...
Views: 277 - False Self: Can Someone Create An Identity In Order To Meet Their Unmet Developmental Needs? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that someone can more or less always wear the same outfit, they can also more or less always behave in the same way. And, as part of how they behave, they can also typically wear the same type of clothes. They are then going to be a whole human being that has many different ...
Views: 277 - Lack Mentality: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Have A Lack Mentality? - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on what often goes through their mind, they could come to the conclusion that they have a scarcity mindset. They could see that they often think about how there is not enough. This can relate to there not being enough money, opportunities, ...
Views: 277 - Mother Wounds: Can A Fear Of Abandonment Cause A Man To Be A ‘Nice Guy’ Around Women? - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a man is around a woman, he could typically lose himself. In other words, he won’t be in touch with and express his true self; no, he will end up putting on an act. As a result of this, he can be easy-going, needless and have a strong need to please. By being this way, it is likely to be ...
Views: 277 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man See Some Women As Sexual Objects If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a man sees a woman to who he is attracted, it might not typically occur to him that she is a human being who has her own needs, feelings, hopes, fears and insecurities, for instance. Instead, she can purely be seen as an object that can satisfy his sexual needs. There is the chance that, ...
Views: 277 - Mother Wounds: Will A Man Unconsciously Project The Mother That He Had Into Women? - by Submitted on May 06, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a man meets a woman, it might not be long until he develops a view of her. After this, he can believe that the view that he has formed of her is a reflection of what she is like. However, although this can be the case, what if what is going on for him has had an effect on how he ...
Views: 277 - Therapy: Can Someone’s Unmet Developmental Need To Be Cared For Cause Them To Have Therapy? - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is struggling mentally and emotionally, they can end up looking for a therapist to work with. They might have been in a bad way for a little while or this might be an experience that is relatively new. If this is not something that they have just started to experience, it is good ...
Views: 277 - Child Abuse: Can An Abusive Parent Be Too Wounded To Admit That They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to come to see that their early years were anything but nurturing, they could feel the need to talk to their parent or parents about what happened. They can hope that this will be a time when what they say is validated and empathy and remorse are expressed. Now, assuming that ...
Views: 276 - Critical Thinking: Is Humanity Being Victimised By Their Shadow? - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf the average person was asked to share their opinion in regards to why the world is the way that it is, they might say that it’s because of the people that are in power. Therefore, if these people were dealt with in one way or another, the world would be different. This can be someone who ...
Views: 276 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If Someone Was Treated Like An Object During Their Childhood? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone is a separate human being with their own needs, feelings and life to lead, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Instead, they can feel like they are simply an extension of others. Due to this, they are not going to have the sense that they own themselves, they will ...
Views: 276 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have An Idealised View Of His Father? - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to take a step back and reflect on his life, he could see that he is too focused on his mother's needs and is ignoring a number of his own. He might soon find that this is how he has been for as long as he can remember. For whatever reason, he will have started to see clearly ...
Views: 276 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Mans Mother Embodying The Neediness That He Had To Disowned? - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a man is not working, he could often be doing things for his mother. It might not occur to her, either, that there are things that he needs to do and that he might be too busy to do something for her. Therefore, thanks to how caught up she is with her own needs, it will seldom if ever ...
Views: 276 - Relationships: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Attach To The Wrong People? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat might soon stand out, if someone were to step back and reflect, is that they have the tendency to end up with people who are not right for them. This could be something that has happened so often that they question if they want to be with another person. But, as fed up as they can be, ...
Views: 276 - Critical Thinking: Has Humanity Been Deceived Into Believing That They Are Just Observers Of Reality? - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperMost likely, someone will live in a society that is built on the view that they, along with their fellow citizens, are passive observers of what takes place externally. What is going on inside them, then, won’t influence what is going on outside them. Thus, unlike the few that have power, ...
Views: 275 - Critical Thinking: Is What Is Taking Place In The World A Reflection Of What Is Held Inside The Collective Consciousness? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperA little while ago, there were lockdowns in place that prevented millions of people from being able to carry on as normal. The main purpose of these lockdowns was said to have been to try to stop the virus from spreading. Since then, there has been a war between Russia and Ukraine. And, to go ...
Views: 275 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Attract People Who Are Narcissistic? - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they have been in a number of relationships with people who were narcissistic. They may even see that there are a number of people in their life who are like this. When they think about what these ...
Views: 275 - Father Wounds: Can Fathers Day Be Hard For Someone If They Had An Unavailable Father? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, Fathers Day is a day when they will show their gratitude to their father for all the things that he did for them when they were a child and continues to do for them now that they are adults. When someone is in this position, this is then going to be a day of celebration and ...
Views: 275 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Hate Himself If He Had A Mother Who Hated Him? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for a man to experience ‘negative’ thoughts and to feel bad about himself. Thanks to this, he can spend a lot of time feeling low and depressed. Also, he might seldom take action and do what he can to achieve his goals. Taking this into account, he is unlikely to live a ...
Views: 275 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man In An Emotionally Collapsed State? - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he has the tendency to do what his mother wants and neglects a number of his own needs, it could be said that he needs to assert himself. However, although this is what he will need to do, it doesn’t mean that this will take place. Firstly, he might not be ...
Views: 275 - Vulnerability: Can Someone Have A Fear Of Being Vulnerable If They Had A High Critical Parent? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is not a superhero who is unable to be affected by life, they can come across as though this is the case. As a result of this, it can be as though they are unaffected by life. They are then not going to have moments when they come across as hurt, sad or down, for instance. ...
Views: 275 - Child Abuse: Why Wouldn’t Someone Be Able To Accept That They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone was mistreated during their formative years, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to acknowledge this. This can mean that they won’t talk about what happened or they could often talk about some of the things that happened. But, if they do talk about some of the things ...
Views: 274 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Feel Suicidal As An Adult? - by Submitted on May 07, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone could spend a lot of time in doing mode, meaning that they will rarely if ever just be. And, if they were to take a step back and relax, they could soon end up feeling tense and agitated. Thus, even if they were told that they need to slow down by a friend or a family ...
Views: 274 - Invisible Child: Can Someone Have A Fear Of Being Seen If They Were An ‘Invisible Child’? - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone can be used to being physically seen by others, it doesn’t mean that they will feel seen. In general, they can feel as though they are not seen and even question if they exist. It could seem strange as to how they could be seen by others and at the same time, not feel seen. ...
Views: 274 - Learned Helplessness: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Believe That They Are Helpless? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and reflect on their life, what might soon stand out is that their life is not very fulfilling. So, just about every area of it might not be going how they would like it to go. Now, this might be something that has been at the back of their mind for quite ...
Views: 274 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have The Need To Hide His Feelings If He Had A Critical Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for a man to hide how he feels and to make out that he is fine. It could go further than this, though, as he could typically be unaware of how he feels and not have a strong connection with his part of him. Assuming that this is the case, he will look like a whole human ...
Views: 274 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Has A Mother-Enmeshed Man's Masculinity Been Knocked Out Of Him? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where his life revolves around his mother and he neglects himself, it will be clear that he needs to start implementing boundaries. This is the only way that he will be able to reclaim himself. Until this takes place, he will continue to turn his back on himself and ...
Views: 274 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Lose The Ability To Maintain An Erection When He Is In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAt the beginning of a relationship, a man might not have any issues when it comes to having sex. But, as time passes, this might not be the case. Then again, before he gets to the point where he is in a relationship with a woman and has just started seeing her, this could be something that is ...
Views: 274 - Anger: Can Someone Carry Lot of Anger If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they often feel angry and even enraged. At times, due to how worked up they become, they could lose the ability to think clearly and do things that they later regret. This could be how they have been for as long ...
Views: 273 - Boundaries: Can Someone Lack Boundaries If They Were Treated Like An Object During Their Early Years? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAs someone is a separate individual, with their own needs and feelings, it is not going to be possible for them to always say yes and to do what another person wants or suggests. If they were merely an extension of others, this wouldn’t be the case. However, while they will need to say no at ...
Views: 273 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Be Out Of Touch With Their Need To Love If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that it is part of the human experience to want to not only be loved but to also love. But, although this is the case, it doesn’t mean that someone will be in touch with both of these needs. If they aren’t, these needs will be repressed and will, therefore, be outside of ...
Views: 273 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Suffer From Depression? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperFor quite some time now, someone might have suffered from depression. As a result of this, they can typically have a low mode, not be able to experience pleasure or be interested in doing a great deal. Due to this, days, weeks, months and even years might have passed by but they won’t have ...
Views: 273 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone’s Unmet Developmental Need To Be Cared For Cause Them To Act Helpless? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they haven’t been able to get it together, so to speak. So, unlike their friends, they could often struggle for money and have a job that is anything but fulfilling. Additionally, they could often be in a ...
Views: 273 - Invisible Child: What Can Happen If Someone Was An ‘Invisible Child’? - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperDuring someone’s early years, a time when they needed to be seen and heard in order to grow and develop in the right way, they might have largely been ignored. This would then have been a time when their basic needs might have typically been met but their emotional needs wouldn’t have. One or ...
Views: 273 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Want A Daughter? - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is focused on and often does things for his mother, he is going to be like a caretaker. Along with what he does for her, he might create the impression that he is happy to be there for her. Based on how he behaves, it will be as though his sole purpose is to be there for his mother ...
Views: 273 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Looking For A Mother Figure? - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a woman has been with a man for a while, what might enter her mind is that she is more like his mother than his girlfriend. Now, there can be a variety of reasons as to why she would come to this conclusion. First, she can be the one who makes most of the decisions and plans just about ...
Views: 273 - Boundaries: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Build Walls Around Themselves? - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to reflect on their life is that they have trouble letting people get close to them. This can mean that they will spend a fair amount of time by themselves. Then again, they could spend a fair amount of time around others but typically hide themselves when ...
Views: 272 - False Self: Can Someone Have The Need To Hide Themselves If They Had A Highly Critical Parent? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to hide how they feel and a number of their needs. Consequently, when they are around others, they are going to typically put on an act and hide who they are. This can mean that they will generally come across as though they are fine and that nothing is ...
Views: 272 - Father Wounds: Can A Woman Hate Men If She Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman hates men, this can be something that is very much part of her personality or it might not be. When it comes to the former, she could spend a lot of time thinking about how bad men are and having numerous conversations with other women about it. This could go even further, though, ...
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