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- Entitlement Mentality: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Have An Entitlement Mentality? - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone had the desire to attain something, they could look into what they need to do in order to get it and then could they take action. Alternatively, they could think about what they want and instead of taking action, they could expect someone to give it to them. It could be said that ...
Views: 1670 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Blame The Opposite Sex For Their Relationship Problems? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to talk to a number of people about what their relationships are like, they are likely to hear about a wide range of experiences. While some of these people could be in a relationship, there are bound to be others who are not. So depending on what their current situation is, ...
Views: 1551 - Superiority Complex: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That They Are Better Than Others? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone had first started playing a certain sport when they were a child, there is the chance that they would end up being fairly competent as an adult. During their adult years, they could then go onto become a professional sportsman, or it may mean that they teach what they have learned to ...
Views: 1347 - Relationships: Why Do People Who Fear Being Abandoned End Up With People Who Fear Being Smothered? - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there will be times when someone will want to be around others, there will also be times when they want to be by themselves. And as to how long someone will spend in the company of others or in their own company can depend on a number of factors. Human beings are not all the same and ...
Views: 1873 - Overactive Mind: Can An Emotional Build-Up Cause Someone To Have An Overactive Mind? - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to look after a puppy for a week and for another week, they were to look after a dog that had been trained; they are likely to see how different dogs are at a young age. After the first week, they could end up feeling exhausted and as though they need a break. Whereas once they ...
Views: 1735 - Success: Are Some People An Overnight Success? - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon for someone to say that they want to be successful, and if this isn’t the case, it can be a sign that they are already successful. What this shows is important success is to some people. For one person, success could mean having a fulfilling life, and for someone else, it ...
Views: 1543 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Blame Men/Women? - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen something goes wrong, one can either look into what took place, or they can simply find someone to blame. If they were to look into what happened, it would give them the chance to make a difference. For example, they could see if they have played a part in what took place and if so, ...
Views: 1844 - Relationships: Do Some People Put Up With Dysfunctional Relationships In Order To Avoid Their True Feelings? - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who end up in relationships that are fulfilling, there are others who don’t. This is going to mean that not everyone is going to know what it is like to be in a fulfilling relationship. Unfulfilling When one is used to being in relationships that are not as ...
Views: 1549 - Emotionally Stuck: Can Trapped Grief Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Stuck? - by Submitted on Dec 25, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that even though someone will change physically as time passes, it doesn’t mean they will change emotionally. As a result of this, their emotional age might not match up with their physical age. Expectation If one believes that they will feel different as time passes, it ...
Views: 1638 - Independence: Is Independence An Illusion? - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is not uncommon for someone to describe themselves as ‘independent’. When they say this, they could say it as if they are talking about something that is a normal part of life, or they could say it with a sense of pride. Normal In the first case, one may have ...
Views: 1571 - Relationships: Is It Naive For Someone To Believe That Another Person Will Change? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a relationship can start off in a certain way, it doesn’t mean that it will be the same as time passes. On one hand, this can be seen as something that just happens as two people get to know each other better, and on the other hand, it can mean that one person was putting on an ...
Views: 2028 - Letting Go: How Can Someone Let Go Of The Past? - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are experiences that one can have that won’t stop them from being able to carry on with their life; there are other experiences that can stop them from being able to move forward. When this happens, time will pass but their point of focus is going to be on what took place in the ...
Views: 1513 - Emotions: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Ignore Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone has emotions, it doesn’t mean that they will listen to them; they can then act as if they don’t even exist. When this happens, they are likely to be in a position where they ignore what is taking place in their body. On The Surface Their point of awareness can then end up ...
Views: 1511 - Star Wars: Does Star Wars Provide The Ultimate Escape? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to ask someone if they had heard of ‘star wars’, there is a strong chance that they will say yes. Now, this could be because they watch a lot of films, but at the same time, this might not be the case. What this comes down to is how popular this franchise is and as a result of ...
Views: 1653 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always End Up With People They Can Control? - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to read a description about what it means to have a healthy relationship, they are unlikely to come across the importance of one person controlling the other. If they were to come across the word ‘control’, they may hear about the importance of self-control. This is because there ...
Views: 1727 - Self-Sabotage: Is Self-Awareness An Important Part Of Understanding Why We Sabotage Our Lives? - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, someone can gradually achieve what they want to achieve, and on the other side, they can end up only getting so far. In fact, they may even find that they are unable to make progress. As a result of this, someone can feel as though they have control over their life or they can ...
Views: 1418 - Relationships: Do Some People End Up With People They Are Not Attracted To In Order To Avoid Themselves? - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one can end up with someone who they are attracted to, they can also end up with someone who they are not attracted to. If they were to end up with someone they are attracted to, it could be said that they will be a lot happier. A Meal One way of looking at this would be to ...
Views: 1603 - Consumerism: Do You Ever Think About Where The Stuff You Buy Comes From? - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are certain times during the year when someone can buy more than they usually do, and while this can be a time when other people are in the same position, this is not always the case. For instance, if it was Christmas, there are going to be plenty of other people who are also buying a lot ...
Views: 1346 - Social Media: Can What We Share On Social Media Have A Negative Effect On Our Relationships? - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, one no longer needs to be with someone in order to communicate with them. On one side, it is clear that this is nothing new as it has been possible to talk over the phone or even to text for a number of years; however, this is not longer necessary. What is new is the fact that one ...
Views: 1358 - Hate: Is Hate Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are certain emotional responses that are seen as appropriate, there are others that are not seen in the same way. As a result of this, it can then be normal for people to have moments where they ignore how they feel. It could also go a step further than this, and this means that ...
Views: 1557 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Who Have Empathy End Up With People Who Don't Have Empathy? - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has the ability to empathise with others, they might expect to attract people into their life who are the same. But while they can have this outlook, it doesn’t mean that this is what will take place. Instead, they can end up attracting people who are the completely opposite, ...
Views: 1608 - Labelling People: Do Some People Label Others In Order To Avoid Thinking? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to go on holiday, they could take the time to try different types of food, or they could continue to eat the food that they are familiar with. If the former was to occur, it could be said that they are embracing their time away. Yet if the latter was to take place, it could be ...
Views: 1513 - Empathy: Can Toxic Shame Stop Someone From Having Empathy? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one has the ability to empathise with another person, they will be able to put themselves in their shoes, so to speak. This is not to say that they will have the same experience, but they will have a sense of what the other person is going through. Understood As a result of this, the ...
Views: 1608 - Social Media: Can Social Media Erode Real Relationships? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the people one has on their friends list, there can be the people they know and there can also be the people they don’t know. As a result of this, just because someone is classed as a friend it doesn’t mean that this is actually the case. The Same School For example, one ...
Views: 1541 - Internet Dating: Can Internet Dating Make People Believe They Are More Attractive Than They Are? - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile social media has allowed people to stay in touch with their ‘friends’ no matter where they are; internet dating has given them the ability to find someone no matter where they are. As a result of this, it is no longer necessary for one to go out in order to find someone to have a ...
Views: 1526 - People Pleasing: Does Low Self-Esteem Cause People To Please Others? - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOn one hand, one can pay attention to their own needs and do what they can to fulfilling them, and on the other hand, they can focus on others people’s needs and do what they can to fulfil them. If their life is a reflection of the former, it is likely to be far more fulfilling than if their ...
Views: 2520 - Social Media: Should Someone Expect The People They Follow To Follow Them Back? - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are social media sites where it is possible to add someone as a friend, there are others sites where this is not necessary. In this case, the only thing they need to do is to ‘follow’ the other person. When it relates to adding someone as a friend, the other person will need to ...
Views: 1522 - Relationships: Has Internet Dating Made It Easier For People To Deceive Others? - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has the desire to achieve something, they can end up imagining what their life would be like if they were to achieve it. On one hand, they could believe that it will have a small impact on their life, and on the other hand, they could believe that it will have significant impact on ...
Views: 1707 - Relationships: Are Relationship Problems Caused By Low Self-Esteem? - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to fixing something, it is not uncommon for some kind of diagnosis to take place. Once this has taken place, the appropriate action can then be taken, and before long, it could be back to normal. Alternatively, someone could find that something doesn’t work and instead of ...
Views: 1561 - Fame: Can Being Famous Give Someone A False Sense Of Importance? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it doesn’t take much for someone to be famous, and this has meant that more people are ’famous’ than ever before. In the past, it was often necessary for someone to have achieved something significant in order to be known by others, but in today’s world, this is no longer the case. ...
Views: 1717 - Positive Thinking: Can Positive Thinking Create Inner Conflict? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOn one level, it could be said that there is the intellect, and on another level, it could be said that there is the emotional body. However, although these are two aspects that all human beings have, it doesn’t mean that everyone embraces both sides. There are going to be some people who ...
Views: 1555 - Relationships: Is It A Good Idea For Someone To Treat Others How They Would Like To Be Treated? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to treat someone with respect, there is the chance that they will get a certain response. Whereas if they were to treat someone with disrespect, there is the chance they will get a completely different response. When it comes to the first example, one might expect another person ...
Views: 1574 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Lose Themselves Around Others? - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people are able to maintain their sense of self when they are around others, there are going to be other people who are unable to do so. However, even though this is what is taking place, it doesn’t mean that someone realises what is happening. Part of Life For example, if ...
Views: 1728(1 vote) - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Stop Someone From Experiencing Intimacy? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, experiencing intimacy will be a normal part of life, and it is then not going to be something that they will need to worry about. If this wasn’t the case and they were unable to experience intimacy, it could be something that ends up consuming their whole life. Their need to ...
Views: 1688 - Relationships: Is Your Inability To Listen Damaging Your Relationships? - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to go and watch a film, not only would they watch the screen, they would also pay attention to what is being said. On one hand, they will have paid to watch it, and on the other hand, it will be something they want to see. No Consequences However, if they were to take ...
Views: 2046 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Lose Themselves In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people can maintain their sense of self in a relationship, there are others who are unable to do this. As a result, their experiences are going to be radically different, and this could be how they have been for most of their life. A Big Difference When one is able to maintain ...
Views: 1887 - The Media: Does The Media Exist To Inform People? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one changed their hairstyle and they wanted to know how it looked, there is a strong chance that they would ask their friends and family. This is primarily because they trust them. They will value their feedback, and while this might not completely define how they feel about their hair, ...
Views: 1762 - Being Present: Can An Emotional Build-Up Stop Someone From Being Present? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one is not living in the present it is going to be a challenge for them to focus on what they are doing. As a result, they could be more concerned about what is taking place within them than what is taking place without. If they were working, it could cause them to overlook what they ...
Views: 1462 - Victim Mentality: Do Some People’s Childhoods Set Them Up To Have A Victim Mentality? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is going through a difficult time in their life, they could come to believe that they are being victimised. When this happens, they could end up feeling hopeless, and as though they have no control. Alternatively, they could look into what is taking place and then look into what ...
Views: 1558 - Social Media: Can Social Media Cause Someone To Be Addicted To Attention? - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wanted attention in the past, they would have had to be around people. Nowadays, this is no longer necessary; the only thing they need to do is to use social media. It is then possible for them to receive attention for something that relates to their own life, or they can ...
Views: 2593 - Busyness: Do Some People Stay Busy To Avoid Themselves? - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon for someone to say they are busy, and while this could be how their life is during certain times, it could be a way of life. In this case, it won’t matter what time it is or what day it is, as they will have things to do. This could be how they have been for most of their ...
Views: 2112 - Relationships: Do Some People Use Dating Sites For Attention? - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one wanted to buy something in the past, they would have had to go out and get it; nowadays, this is no longer necessary. The only thing one needs to do is to go on their device, and once they have found what they want, there is a strong chance that it will even be delivered. As a result, ...
Views: 1473 - Positive Thinking: Can Positive Thinking Stop Someone From Being Able To Grieve? - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone experiences loss, their whole experience of life can change, and when this happens, it is not going to be possible for them to carry on as normal. The thoughts in their mind and the emotions in their body can be different, and the meaning of their life could also have altered. ...
Views: 1743 - Looking Perfect: Can Toxic Shame Make Someone Want To Look Perfect? - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThe mainstream media has been presenting images of people that have been edited for years, and as time has passed, social media has also allowed people to present images that have been edited. As a result of this, someone can go from being manipulated by the media at one point in time, to being ...
Views: 1452 - Self Development: Can Self Development Condition People To Believe That It's 'All In The Mind'? - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for people to read books on self development, and while they can be looking for ways to change what is taking place within them; they might be looking for ways to become more successful. There is also the chance that they are looking to improve a number of areas of ...
Views: 1276 - Being Present: Can The Need To Look Good Stop Someone From Being Present? - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, what is taking place externally is generally given more attention than what is taking place internally. This then means that it can be normal for some people to focus on their appearance and to ignore what is taking place within them. Point of Focus Someone can then ...
Views: 1535 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Do Some Men Stay Attached To Their Mothers Out Of Loyalty? - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some men are able to break away from their mothers, there are other men who are unable to do this. When this doesn’t take place, not only is it going to cause the men to suffer; it is also going to cause the women in their life to suffer. However, if a man has turned his back on women ...
Views: 4034 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Try To Rescue Others Instead Of Rescuing Themselves? - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is experiencing some kind of inner pain or drama, they can take a closer look at what is taking place and start to look for solutions, or they can focus on what is taking place around them. Through placing their attention on something or someone else, it can allow them to avoid ...
Views: 837(1 vote) - Relationships: What Is Emotional Cut-Off? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one made a mess somewhere, they could either clean it up or they could leave it where it was. If they were to take the first option, it might take them a while, and this may mean they have to put something else on hold. However, if they were to take the second option, it might allow them ...
Views: 5968 - Social Media: Can Social Media Cause Someone To Become Obsessed With Their Appearance? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that to one degree or another people have always been concerned with their appearance, and in recent years, it could be said that they are more concerned than ever before. For a number of years, the mainstream media had the biggest influence when it came to someone’s ...
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