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- Relationships: Does The Fear Of Abandonment Stop You From Leaving A Relationship? - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can have relationships that they want to be in, they can also have relationships that they don’t want to be in. This doesn’t mean that one will no longer spend time with these people though; as they might still spend time with them. In this case, one is not going to be ...
Views: 1568 - Relationships: Does The Fear Of Abandonment Stop You From Speaking Up? - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperHuman beings have many ways to communicate with each other and one way for them to do this is to use their voice. But while some people are happy to speak up no matter what is going on, there are others who are unable to do this. This is going to mean that they don’t expedience life in the ...
Views: 1625 - Relationships: Does The Fear Of Rejection Cause Some Men To Please Women? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how men behave around women, there are two types of behaviour that are often spoken about. On one side, there is the man who acts as though he doesn’t care and, on the other, there is the man who cares too much. Two Sides There is then a spectrum, and a man can be on ...
Views: 2339 - Relationships: Does Your Partner Try To Stop You From Seeing Your Friends? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one is in a relationship, they are likely to have less time to spend with their friends. This is because when they are with someone, they are going to spend a lot of their time with them. And as they are going to be an important part of their life, it could be said that this is to be ...
Views: 1629 - Relationships: Has Internet Dating Caused Some People To Believe That They Can Find The ‘Perfect’ Partner? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s word, one no longer needs to be around people in order to find someone to be in a relationship with, and this is because of the internet. The internet has changed the world in more ways than one, and one of the ways it has changed the world is through allowing people to find a partner ...
Views: 1672 - Relationships: Has Someone Moved On If They Are In A New Relationship? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationship comes to an end, it can be a sign that it has run its course; consequently, each person can be happy to move on with their life. What this could show is that they had been having problems for quite some time. It was then only a matter of time before their time together ...
Views: 1191 - Relationships: How Can A Woman Get Over An Abusive Man? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor a woman who has been with an abusive man it is not always easy to move on. And this can be due to the following factors; how severe the abuse was and how the woman responded to the abuse. But no matter what took place or how a woman was able to respond to the abuse that was taking ...
Views: 1735 - Relationships: How Can A Woman Tell If A Man Is Unavailable? - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a woman may find that it is relatively easy for her to attract a man, what she may also find is that she is unable to find a man who actually wants a relationship. This may mean that she has been with a number of men who were emotionally unavailable. Even so, this doesn’t mean that ...
Views: 922 - Relationships: How Can Someone Experience The Desire To Be In A Relationship When They Have Had So Many Bad Experiences? - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one has a history of bad relationships, the last thing on their mind can be to have another one. However, regardless of what they have been through, the need to be with someone is not going to completely disappear. What can happen is that one can end up disconnecting from this need and ...
Views: 1592 - Relationships: How Can Someone Know If Their Relationships Are Dysfunctional? - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people on this planet who are experiencing relationships that are functional and healthy. This might be how it has always been, or it could be the result of them making certain changes throughout their life. On the other side of the spectrum will be people who are currently ...
Views: 1586 - Relationships: How Can Someone Know If They Are Ready For A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that there are a number of reasons as to why someone would want to eat something, there are also a number of reasons as to why someone would want to have a relationship. If someone wants to eat something, it could simply show that they are hungry. Then again, it could also ...
Views: 888 - Relationships: How Can Someone Know When A Relationship Is Over? - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperOne could be in a relationship that is going extremely well and out of nowhere, it could end up being on the rocks; leaving one in a place of uncertainty as to whether it will last or not. It could also be a relationship that is not going to well either. However, just because something seems ...
Views: 1747 - Relationships: How Can Someone Make Sure They Don’t End Up In An Abusive Relationship? - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who end up in relationships that are life-affirming, there are others who end up in relationships that are life-denying. As a result of this, their experiences on this planet are going to be radically different. A Matter of Luck One way of looking at this would ...
Views: 1362 - Relationships: How Should Someone Respond When Another Person Doesn’t Put In Any Effort? - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that relationships are about give and take, and it would be hard to argue with this. When two people get together, they will both have their own needs, and it is going to be important for their needs to be met. Even so, this is not to say that both of them are going to have ...
Views: 1583 - Relationships: If Someone Feels Ashamed Of Their Needs Can It Stop Them From Recognising When Someone Is Self-Centred? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are people who are drawn to those who are self-centred, there are others who are repelled by them. When it comes to the former, it could be said that they are going to spend time with people who are not right for them. Yet, when it comes to the latter, there is a strong chance ...
Views: 1523 - Relationships: If Someone Is Still Attached To Their Ex Can It Stop Them From Being Able To Embrace Their Current Relationship? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has just experienced a breakup, they may decide to take a break and to spend some time by themselves. Through taking this route, it will also give them the chance to face how they feel and to work through it. A Grey Area If they were with this person for a long period of time, ...
Views: 1209 - Relationships: Is A Man Destined To Sabotage His Relationships If He Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperA man may have recently been in a relationship, only for it to primarily end due to the fact that he kept pulling away. He would then have been available or somewhat available in the beginning but as time went by, he found it hard to emotionally and then physically show up. Now that it has ...
Views: 426 - Relationships: Is A Woman A Victim If She Always Ends Up In An Abusive Relationship? - by Submitted on May 16, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a woman can have the desire to be in a relationship that is healthy, it doesn’t mean that this will take place. Instead, she can end up with a man who is the complete opposite of the person she had in mind. Moving On As a result of this, this area of her life is not going to have ...
Views: 1482 - Relationships: Is Being Able To Grieve An Important Part Of Being Able To Receive Love? - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone spends their time around people who have an open-heart, they are likely to appreciate being around them. Whereas, if they were to spend their time around people who were the complete opposite; there is the chance that they will feel uncomfortable. This is because when people ...
Views: 1521 - Relationships: Is Being Able To Listen As Important As Being Able To Talk? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, human beings have the ability to talk, and on the other, they have the ability to listen. And as they have two ears and only one mouth, it could be said that it is a lot easier for them to listen. However, even though it is easier for someone to listen, it doesn’t mean that this ...
Views: 1638 - Relationships: Is Being Indifferent A Great Way To Destroy A Relationship? - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one wants to develop the ability to do something well, this is generally not going to happen overnight. In order to get to this level, they will need to put in the right effort, and they will need to be persistent. Nature For example, if one was to plant a number of tomato plants in ...
Views: 1636 - Relationships: Is Being Responsive Important? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one wanted to form new relationships with others, they could pay attention to their appearance and then look into what they can do to improve it. Along with this, one could also look into what else they could do to improve themselves. And once they have done this, they could end up ...
Views: 1575 - Relationships: Is Being Responsive To Another Person’s Self-Disclosure An Important Part Of A Relationship? - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one feels close to someone, there are likely to be a number of reasons why. One may know what these reasons are, or it may take them a while to realise why they feel the way they do. The connection they feel with the other person is likely to have built up over time. This is not to say ...
Views: 1654 - Relationships: Is Empathy An Important Part Of Experiencing Intimacy? - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperOn one hand, one can have relationships with others that are deep, and on the other hand, they can have ones that are shallow. When it comes to the later, this could relate to the people they see at work or on the odd occasion, for instance. And when it comes to the former, it could relate ...
Views: 1648 - Relationships: Is Empathy Important In A Relationship? - by Submitted on May 14, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one lived in the middle of nowhere and there was no one else in sight, they might not need to think about anyone else. The only thing they would need to think about is their own needs, and their life would be based around fulfilling these needs. Yet, if it isn’t this black and white, it ...
Views: 1579 - Relationships: Is Feeling Safe An Important Part Of Forming An Emotional Connection? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf human beings were inherently independent, it wouldn’t matter if someone didn't have relationships with other people; as they would be able to just carry on with their life. But as human beings and everything else on this planet is interdependent, it means that relationships play a vital part ...
Views: 2042 - Relationships: Is Femininity Good And Masculinity Bad? - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to hear about an abusive relationship, there is a strong chance that this would involve someone who uses force to cause harm. This could mean that they use their body to do this and/or they might only use words. Either way, this is going to mean that the other person is going to ...
Views: 1393 - Relationships: Is Grieving Our Unmet Childhood Needs An Important Part of Attracting People Who Are Available? - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one can have the desire to attract someone who is available, it doesn’t mean that this is what takes place. One could find it more or less impossible for attract someone who is available. When someone is available, it is going to mean that they are not only physically and ...
Views: 1523 - Relationships: Is Grieving Our Unmet Childhood Needs An Important Part Of Having Healthy Relationships? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one can have the need to experience relationships that are fulfilling and life affirming, it doesn’t mean that this is what takes place. Instead, one can end up in relationships that are not only unfulfilling, they could also be extremely abusive. And if this was an area of life that ...
Views: 1447 - Relationships: Is Grieving Unmet Childhood Needs An Important Part Of Letting Of The Fear Of Abandonment? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is said that it is not possible for someone to be abandoned as an adult, and how this would only apply if they were a baby or a child. However, just because one is an adult it doesn’t mean that they will no longer feel abandoned. The fear of being abandoned and the feeling itself could ...
Views: 1548 - Relationships: Is It A Form Of Indirect Revenge When Someone Always Criticises Others? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to think about what their friends are like, they may start to think about how supportive they are. These are then going to be the kind of people who are life-affirming, and it could then be said that that they have the right people in their life. Two Experiences On one ...
Views: 1256 - Relationships: Is It A Form Of Indirect Revenge When Someone Leads Another Person On? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to go on a date with someone, they might come across as though they are looking for a relationship. Thus, if the other person wants the same thing, this is going to have a positive effect on them. Online Dating However, if these two people met through the internet, this is ...
Views: 1387 - Relationships: Is It A Good Idea For A Man To Only Confide In His Partner? - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is single, he may find that there is no one is his life that he can share certain things with. This can relate to how he feels, the challenges that he is going through and the things that he has done that he is not too happy about, for instance. He can then have a big family and ...
Views: 1093 - Relationships: Is It A Good Idea For Someone To Ask Themselves Why They Want To Rescue Another Person? - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one had a friend who was going through a challenging time, they might look into what they could do to assist them. This could be a time when they will listen to what is going on for them and offer their advice. Then again, this might not be enough, and they could offer to take them out ...
Views: 977 - Relationships: Is It A Good Sign If Someone Is Extremely Attracted To Another Person? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one could come across another person and not really experience anything, they could come across someone else and it could be as if their whole being has been hijacked. But, even though this is the case, it doesn’t mean that one will see this as a bad thing. One will then have lost ...
Views: 800 - Relationships: Is It A Surprise For People Who Are Attractive To Be Single? - by Submitted on May 14, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to find out that someone isn’t in a relationship, it might not surprise them, and this could come down to the fact that they are not physically attractive. On the other hand, if they were attractive, it might be hard for them to understand why this is the case. One Outlook It ...
Views: 1278 - Relationships: Is It A Waste Of Energy For Someone To Try And Find Out Why Their Relationship Came To An End? - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is in a relationship and it was to come to an end, they might be only too happy that they are able to move on with their life. For a number of weeks or even months, they may have been thinking about how much better their life would be if they were both to go their separate ...
Views: 1637 - Relationships: Is It Good Or Bad To See The Best In People? - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people in the world who always try to see the best in others, there are also people who always try to see the worst in others. In their eyes, the outlook they have could be seen as best one to have. Through having a different outlook, it is likely to mean that their ...
Views: 1415 - Relationships: Is It Harder For Someone To Leave An Abusive Relationship If They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to end up in a relationship that is abusive, there are at least two things that they can do. They can end up cutting their ties and moving on, or they can put up with what is taking place. If they end up drawing the line and decide to move on, it will be clear that they are ...
Views: 926 - Relationships: Is It Harder For Someone To Leave An Abusive Relationship When They Are Emotionally Dependent? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in a situation that doesn’t serve them, it is going to be in their best interests to move on. Nevertheless, it might not be possible for them to walk away and to put this all behind them. The Next Step The reason for this is that one could be in a job that is paying them ...
Views: 1080 - Relationships: Is It Harder For Someone To Settle Down If They Have Been With A Lot Of People? - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the past, it was the norm for people to wait until they were married before they had sex, and they would have most likely stayed with the same person until their time on this earth came to an end. Thanks, in part, due to the ‘sexual liberation’ of the 60s and 80s, this has all changed. ...
Views: 1098 - Relationships: Is It Important To Be Able To Hold Space For Others? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has a friend who is going through a tough time, they could end up telling them what they need to do to get through it. This is then going to be a time when they will try to fix or rescue this person. Simply being there for this person is not going to be enough; they will need to ...
Views: 702 - Relationships: Is It Important To Take Responsibility For How We Feel? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about someone they appreciate, there is a strong chance that they will end up feeling ‘good’. Yet, if they were to think about someone who presses their buttons, for instance, they are unlikely to have the same emotional experience. And when they feel good, there is not ...
Views: 1293 - Relationships: Is It Important To Understand The Opposite Sex? - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperQuestions such as: what does it take to keep a woman happy and what does it take to please a man, have been around for many years. And sometimes people come up with answers and sometimes people give up trying to find answers. The great psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud even pondered this question ...
Views: 2228 - Relationships: Is It Naive For Someone To Believe That Another Person Will Change? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a relationship can start off in a certain way, it doesn’t mean that it will be the same as time passes. On one hand, this can be seen as something that just happens as two people get to know each other better, and on the other hand, it can mean that one person was putting on an ...
Views: 2028 - Relationships: Is It Normal For Someone To Have Low Self-Esteem After They Have Left An Abusive Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people are going to be used to having relationships that are fulfilling, there are going to be others who are not. In this case, someone could find that they have the tendency to end up with people who are not right for them. A Mismatch This is not to say that they will treat ...
Views: 1678 - Relationships: Is It Normal For Someone To Shut Down If Their Partner Is Not Responsive? - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAt the start of a relationship, one may find that their partner is fairly or even extremely responsive. What this means is that this person will listen to what they have to say, stop doing certain things if they have negative effect on them, and be open to feedback, amongst other things. In ...
Views: 1058 - Relationships: Is It Possible To End Up With The Wrong Person? - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperJust as one can choose something on a menu and end up finding out that it is not very appealing to their taste buds; they can also end up choosing someone to be in a relationship with, only to find out that they are not a good match. However, although one can just stop eating a meal that doesn’t ...
Views: 810 - Relationships: Is It The Future And Not The Present That Holds Some Relationships Together? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about why they are a relationship with someone, they could begin to list what they like about them. This is then going to be a time when they will go over what they bring to their life. Having them in their life is not simply going to give them someone to spend time with; ...
Views: 1176 - Relationships: Is Needing Someone The Same As Loving Them? - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one thinks about what it means to love someone or for someone else to love them, they are likely to have an idea in mind. This idea could also be backed up by a certain feeling or a combination of feelings. What it means to one person is not necessarily going to be the same as what it ...
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