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- Relationships: Can Someone’s Childhood Set Them Up To Believe That It Is Their Responsibility To Save Others? - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat could be normal is for someone to continually end up with people who are unable to truly be there for them. When they are in a relationship, then, it could be as though they are with a child as opposed to an adult. There is a chance that they are currently in a relationship with someone ...
Views: 378 - Relationships: Can Someone’s Inner Critic Cause Them To Put Up With Abusive Behaviour? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is used to spending time around people who are abusive, they can come to the conclusion that they are a victim. It is then not that one is playing a part in what is taking place; it is that this is just how their life is. So, while these people will have control over their own life, ...
Views: 735 - Relationships: Can Someone’s Unmet Childhood Needs Cause Them To Expect Other People To Be Unconditionally Loyal? - by Submitted on Dec 25, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wants to be in a relationship, there can be a number of things that they will be looking for in a partner. Firstly, there can be the need to be with someone who has a certain appearance and, secondly, there can be the requirements that they have when it comes to their ...
Views: 1096 - Relationships: Can Someone’s Unmet Childhood Needs Cause Them To Expect Too Much From Others? - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperBefore one gets into a relationship, they can have a rough idea about the kind of person who they want to be with. Along with this, there can be what they expect to receive when they are with them. If this is the case, there can be what they would like someone to look like and there can be ...
Views: 1012 - Relationships: Can The End Of A Relationship Trigger Someone's Childhood Pain? - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationship starts, there is the chance that one will experience a lot of pleasure, and then as time passes, this could change. This is not to say that this will go from being a something that has a positive effect on their life, to something that has a negative effect. What this ...
Views: 1706 - Relationships: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Cause A Man To Stay In An Abusive Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 25, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAt this point in time, a man could be with a woman who is not right for him. Then again, it could go further than this as he could be with a woman who is greatly undermining him. If this is the case, it can be normal for him to be criticised, humiliated, controlled and even hit by her. This ...
Views: 218 - Relationships: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Cause Someone To Attract People Who Are Emotionally Dependent? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for two people to have a relationship together, they will both need to be able to behave like interdependent adults. The reason for this is that if only one of them acts like an interdependent adult, it will stop this from taking place. Instead, what will happen is that one of them ...
Views: 1051 - Relationships: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Cause Someone To Let Anyone Into Their Life? - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that it wouldn’t be a good idea for someone to put anything into their mouth; it also wouldn’t be a good idea for them to open themselves up to anyone. Therefore, the level of discernment that they show when it comes to the former will need to be shown when it comes to the ...
Views: 928 - Relationships: Can The Fear Of Being Seen Cause Someone To Attract People Who Are Unavailable? - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that can stop one from being able to have a fulfilling relationship, and ending up with someone who is unavailable will be one of the things that will stop them from being able to fulfil this need. When this takes place, they can find it hard to understand how this ...
Views: 876 - Relationships: Can The Fear Of Rejection Cause Someone To Change When They Get Into A Relationship? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperEven though one can behave in a certain way when they start dating someone, they can end up behaving in a completely different way as time goes by. Therefore, although they are still the same person, it will be as if they have become someone else. Oblivious When something like this ...
Views: 1315 - Relationships: Can The Fear Of Rejection Cause Someone To Please Others? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one could be in a position where they are able to listen to their own needs, there is also the chance that they are unable to do so. If they are able to pay attention to what is taking place within them, it will show that this is what feels safe. True-Self One is going to be in ...
Views: 1199 - Relationships: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Believe They’re Not Enough For The Opposite Sex? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile each gender has the same value, it doesn’t mean that everyone feels this way. One can believe that men/women are worth more and this is then going to cause them to feel less than the opposite sex. This could stop one from being able to have an intimate relationship on one side and on ...
Views: 1612 - Relationships: Can Toxic Shame Make Someone Feel Lonely? - by Submitted on May 09, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can be by themselves, it doesn't mean they will end up feeling lonely. This is similar how someone can be around others and still end up feeling as though they are by themselves. What this shows is that it can all depend on how one feels in their own company, and how they feel ...
Views: 1699 - Relationships: Can Toxic Shame Make Someone Feel Unattractive? - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can look attractive, it doesn’t mean they feel attractive or that their self-image matches up with how they look. In this case, the impression that they have on others doesn’t match up with what is taking place within them. However, this is not to say that whether one is ...
Views: 1486 - Relationships: Can Toxic Shame Make Someone Feel Unlovable? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperHuman beings are interdependent and this means that relationships are a vital part of their ability to survive and to thrive. And while they need to have relationships with others, they also need to be in relationships that are fulfilling. For instance, one could be in a relationship and ...
Views: 2087 - Relationships: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Painful Relationships? - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile the ideal might be to have relationships that are always harmonious and are free from pain, during and even when they come to an end, this is not how life works. All relationships have some kind of conflict and if they don’t, there is probably a lot of repression taking place. And what ...
Views: 1698 - Relationships: Can Trapped Grief Make Breakups Harder To Handle? - by Submitted on May 08, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to spend their time around people who have just experienced a breakup, they are unlikely to have the same experience with each person. They could find that although one person is in a bad way, another could come across though they haven’t been affected. And they could also ...
Views: 1418 - Relationships: Can Trapped Grief Stop Someone From Starting A New Relationship? - by Submitted on May 12, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that when one door closes, another door opens, and what this shows is that the end of one thing can be the beginning of another. However, in order for someone to walk through a new door, they will need to walk away from the old door. Yet, even though the old door has closed, ...
Views: 3098 - Relationships: Can Vulnerability Lead To Deeper Relationships? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the greatest human needs is to feel connected to others and this can relate to an intimate relationship with the opposite sex or the same, depending on one’s sexual preference and to family and friends. To share who one is and to be involved in the sharing of another, plays a vital role ...
Views: 2041 - Relationships: Do Actions Speak Louder Than Words? - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that ‘Actions speak louder than words’ and while this saying has been around for a very long time, it doesn’t mean that this advice is always followed. At times, it can be difficult to pay attention to anything but the words that are being spoken. When this happens, what ...
Views: 4377 - Relationships: Do Our Younger Years Define How We See Men/Women? - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf man/woman was asked what they think about the opposite sex, they could say that they are all the same. As a result of this, this is likely to mean that they haven’t got a positive view of them. But if this wasn’t the case and they say that every man/woman is wonderful, it could be said ...
Views: 1502 - Relationships: Do People Have Fulfilling Relationships If They Are Attractive? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is attractive, it can be normal for other people to believe that they are intelligent, well-adjusted and successful, among other things. And, this is something that they can believe even if they don’t know anything about them. This person’s appearance will then be what typically ...
Views: 1163 - Relationships: Do People Hurt Others On Purpose? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was asked to think about a time in their life where they have been hurt by someone, there is a strong chance that it won’t be long until someone comes to mind. And while this might cause them to think about a certain event; they might think about a number of things that took place. The ...
Views: 1541 - Relationships: Do People Know When Their Partners Are Having An Affair? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere will be times when one is unable to see what is taking place around them and during these moments, it will be important for them to reach out to others. This is not necessarily because the people on the outside have something they don’t; it is because they are not emotionally involved. ...
Views: 1733 - Relationships: Do People Rescue Others In Order To Help Them? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people are there for others from time to time, there are others who are practically always there for them. When one can relate to the former, they are going to have moments when they are able to take care of their own needs. However, when one can relate to the latter, they are not ...
Views: 1409 - Relationships: Do People Say That All Men/Women Are The Same To Avoid Taking Responsibility? - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is clear is that although some people have relationships that are fulfilling, there are others who don’t. And while this can mean that they end up with people who are not right for them, it could also mean that they end up with people who are abusive. Two Experiences If one has the ...
Views: 1195 - Relationships: Do People Who Rescue Others Experience Inner Conflict? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can have moments where they take care of their own needs and the needs of others, they can also experience life differently. What this means, is that they can be in a position where they only focus on their own needs or on other people’s needs. Balance Life is about give and ...
Views: 1497 - Relationships: Do People’s Friends Reveal If They Value Themselves? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one wanted to find out what someone is like, they could take the time to get to know them. And, after they have spent a certain amount of time in their presence, they might feel as though they have a good understanding of them. Time could then pass and one might not be too surprised by ...
Views: 1195 - Relationships: Do Relationships Allow Someone To Come Into Contact With Their Repressed Emotions? - by Submitted on May 14, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperOne way for someone to look at relationships would be to see them as a vehicle that will allow them to become more whole and complete. The reason for this is that when they are with another person, some of the material that is held in their unconscious mind will be brought to the ...
Views: 426 - Relationships: Do Relationships Allow Someone To Come Into Contact With Their Unconscious Mind? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperHuman beings have both a conscious and an unconscious mind; however, the latter is largely overlooked. Not only does mainstream society ignore this mind but a lot of people in the helping professions, those who are doing what they can to help peoples “mental health”, also do the same ...
Views: 384 - Relationships: Do Some Men's Childhoods Set Them Up To Please Women? - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOn the one hand, there are men who do what they can to fulfil their own needs and, on the other, there are men who do what they can to please others. What this can bring to mind is someone who doesn’t give a damn about others, or someone who cares too much about others. More Than Two ...
Views: 1023 - Relationships: Do Some Men’s Childhood's Set Them Up To Develop A Saviour Complex? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some men who offer their assistance when it is needed, there are others who have a different approach. Here, it is not going to be enough for a man to offer their hand from time to time, they will need to take things further. An Identity A man can believe that it is not ...
Views: 2525 - Relationships: Do Some Men’s Childhood's Set Them Up To Fear Women? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has the desire to in a relationship with a woman, he could end up taking action. This could then be a time when he will go out to different bars and clubs, and he could even join a few dating sites. What this could show is that he has recently broken up with someone, and he now ...
Views: 1893 - Relationships: Do Some Men’s Childhood's Set Them Up To Fear Women? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has the desire to in a relationship with a woman, he could end up taking action. This could then be a time when he will go out to different bars and clubs, and he could even join a few dating sites. What this could show is that he has recently broken up with someone, and he now ...
Views: 1851 - Relationships: Do Some Men’s Childhood's Set Them Up To Fear Women? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has the desire to in a relationship with a woman, he could end up taking action. This could then be a time when he will go out to different bars and clubs, and he could even join a few dating sites. What this could show is that he has recently broken up with someone, and he now ...
Views: 2050 - Relationships: Do Some Men’s Childhood's Set Them Up To Put Women On A Pedestal? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that in order for one person to have a relationship with another person, they will need to be able to relate to them as another human being. If they see them as being above or below them, it is going to make it harder for them to truly connect to them. When it comes to the ...
Views: 2386 - Relationships: Do Some Men’s Childhoods Set Them Up To Walk On Eggshells Around Women? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhile a man may typically feel comfortable enough to be himself when he is around another man, this might rarely be the case when he is around a woman. When he is around a woman, he could have the tendency to become someone else entirely. During this time, then, he is not going to behave how ...
Views: 750 - Relationships: Do Some People Analyse Others In Order To Avoid Themselves? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile it could be said that there are some people who are highly curious, it could also be said that there are others who are the complete opposite. This is not to say that this is something that is black and white; as there are going to be people who fall into the middle of the spectrum. ...
Views: 2846 - Relationships: Do Some People Avoid Relationships In Order To Avoid Themselves? - by Submitted on May 11, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to come across two people who want to be in a relationship, it would be easy for them to assume that they are both in the same position. On one level, it could be said that this is the case; however, if they were to look a little deeper, they might find that there is more to ...
Views: 1795 - Relationships: Do Some People End Up With People They Are Not Attracted To In Order To Avoid Themselves? - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one can end up with someone who they are attracted to, they can also end up with someone who they are not attracted to. If they were to end up with someone they are attracted to, it could be said that they will be a lot happier. A Meal One way of looking at this would be to ...
Views: 1603 - Relationships: Do Some People Get Back With Their Ex In Order To Avoid How They Feel? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationship comes to an end, one can experience a sense of relief, and this can mean that they won’t feel the need to get back together with the person they were with. Even so, this doesn’t mean that the other person is having the same experience. As a result, they can try and ...
Views: 1201 - Relationships: Do Some People Have Relationships To Avoid Themselves? - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are all kinds of reasons as to why someone would want to be a relationship with another person. And yet for some people, they will do everything they can to avoid having one. This can be due to them being fiercely independent and not wanting to rely on another person; having trust issues ...
Views: 1696 - Relationships: Do Some People Have Sex To Experience Love? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to being a human being, there are certain needs that each one of us has. And while there can be certain differences between people, these are ones that apply to more or less everyone. But while needs are something that each one of us have, it doesn’t mean that one always feels ...
Views: 1722 - Relationships: Do Some People like Being Controlled? - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the common challenges in relationships and a challenge that has existed throughout time is that of control. This can be something that is fairly subtle and anything but overwhelming. And then it can be so extreme, that one’s whole life is taken over by another person’s control. So ...
Views: 2286 - Relationships: Do Some People Need To Experience A Few Bad Relationships Before They Can Appreciate A Good One? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who will feel comfortable being in a relationship with someone who is not abusive, while there will be others who won’t. Therefore, if someone who can relate to the former was to end up with someone who is abusive, they would probably soon walk away. And, if someone ...
Views: 971 - Relationships: Do Some People Only Feel Valuable When They Are Focusing On Other People’s Needs? - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that having needs is part of being human, and this means that everyone has them. However, even though this is the case, it doesn’t mean that everyone feels comfortable with their needs. A Difference Experience When someone does feel comfortable with their needs, it will ...
Views: 1349 - Relationships: Do Some People Only Have Relationships With People Who Make Them Look Good? - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to buying a new car, someone could go for a car that looks the best or they could take their time and see what car they prefer to drive. If they were only buying a car to put on display, it could be said that the first approach would be the best one to take. However, as they ...
Views: 1476 - Relationships: Do Some People Only Have Relationships With People Who Will Make Them Look Good? - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that thanks to social media, how someone looks is even more important than ever before. The average person can feel the need to look their best regardless of if they are in the real world or online. Fortunately, it can be relatively easy for someone to look their best ...
Views: 1248 - Relationships: Do Some People Only Help Others Because They Feel Guilty? - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can assist others in a direct manner, they can also do this indirectly. As a result of this, it is not necessary for one to work in the helping profession, for instance, in order to make a difference. However, even if one was in a position where they didn’t help others ...
Views: 1299 - Relationships: Do Some People Only Know Who They Are When They Are Being Controlled? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNaturally, someone’s life is going to be far more fulfilling if the people in their life are able to respect their boundaries. Having friends, family members and even a partner who can do this is going to make it easier for them to express themselves. When this takes place, these people ...
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