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- Relationships: Can Childhood Trauma Define How Someone Sees The Opposite Sex? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAs an adult, someone can see the opposite sex as being one way, or they can see them as being another way. A very black and white way of looking at this would be to say that they can see them in a positive light or they can see them in a negative light. However, regardless of what view they ...
Views: 1061 - Relationships: Can Childhood Trauma Make It Harder For Someone To Handle A Breakup? - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationship comes to an end, it can cause one to experience a lot of emotional pain. In fact, it can feel as though their whole life has come to an end, and one might then wonder how they are going to cope. Two Extremes How they feel at this point in their life can then be ...
Views: 1235 - Relationships: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Being Able To Move on After A Breakup? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there are some people who can generally move on after a relationship has come to an end, there are others who find it incredibly difficult to do so. Nonetheless, when one can carry on with their life, it doesn’t mean that they won’t experience pain. Manageable What it is likely ...
Views: 1195 - Relationships: Can Developmental Trauma Make It Hard For Someone To Be Present In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperRight now, someone may be in an intimate relationship and while this may be something that they have wanted to experience for quite some time, it doesn’t mean that they are finding it easy. Instead, they could find that they are finding it harder and harder to be present and to stay connected to ...
Views: 356 - Relationships: Can Developmental Trauma Take Away Someone’s Desire To Attach To Others? - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone is an interdependent human being, it doesn’t mean that they will act like one. They can spend a lot of time by themselves and have very little if any interest in being around others. This is not to say that they won’t have any friends but it is likely that they won’t be ...
Views: 340 - Relationships: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Attach To The Wrong People? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat might soon stand out, if someone were to step back and reflect, is that they have the tendency to end up with people who are not right for them. This could be something that has happened so often that they question if they want to be with another person. But, as fed up as they can be, ...
Views: 293 - Relationships: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Have An Open Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, there is less pressure on people to have a traditional relationship and even to get married. Thanks to this, people have far more freedom to express themselves and experience something that is actually right for them. So, for a while now, casual encounters have been an option, and, ...
Views: 315 - Relationships: Can Embracing Our Pain Lead To Healthier Relationships? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhether someone is in a relationship with another person or not, they are still going to experience pain. This could relate to certain disagreements that one has with the person they are in a relationship with on one side and on the other, it could include different kinds of abuse for ...
Views: 1533 - Relationships: Can Environmental Factors Stop Someone From Moving On From A Breakup? - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationships ends, there is the chance that it will lead to one experiencing a lot of emotional pain. There is also the chance that one will be quiet happy with what has happened and although there may be a mild sense of loss for example, they will soon settle down and be on their ...
Views: 2235 - Relationships: Can How A Relationship Ends Define Whether It Can Be Rekindled? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile a relationship can last a lifetime, there is also chance it will only last for short amount of time. It could also be said that there is a greater chance of one staying friends with someone for a lifetime than there is of them being in an intimate relationship with someone for the same ...
Views: 1584 - Relationships: Can It Be Hard For Someone To Bond With Others If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAs someone is an interdependent human being, it means that they are not their own island. As a result of this, they are not on this earth to do everything by themselves and to always be in their company. Likewise, they are also not here to look towards others to do everything for them and to ...
Views: 336 - Relationships: Can Our Friends Keep Us Stuck? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one thinks about the people in their life who support them, their friends will typically come to mind. Ideally, these will be the people who one can turn to for advice, encouragement and acceptance for instance. So one is able to be themselves around them and doesn’t feel the need to ...
Views: 1912 - Relationships: Can Our Past Relationships Affect Our Present Relationship? - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperOne can enter a new relationship with the idea that it will be a completely new experience and unlike what they have gone through in the past. But while this might be their outlook in the beginning, this can soon come to an end as the relationship progresses. This could be because of what is ...
Views: 4096 - Relationships: Can Our Perception Of Someone Be Defined By How Other People Describe Them? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are times when one will meet someone without knowing anything about them and then there are other times when this won’t be the case. In this instance, one will have heard about the other before person they have even met them. When this happens, one can feel as though they already know ...
Views: 1441 - Relationships: Can Relationships Be Unconditional? - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo love without conditions or requirements is often spoken about when it comes to evolved or adult relationships. And then there are also other needs that can come into this, such as; acceptance, approval, appreciation, respect, attention and many others. To be loved by another and to have ...
Views: 1822 - Relationships: Can Relationships Take On A Symbolic Meaning If Someone Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to look back on the relationships that they have been in, they could experience a fair amount of anger and frustration. As opposed to this being a time when they will feel good, then, it will be a time when they feel bad. Then again, they might be able to remember some good ...
Views: 324 - Relationships: Can Rescuing Others Stop Someone From Experiencing Intimacy? - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one feels comfortable with their own feelings, it will give them the ability to open up to others. In fact, it could be said that it will be normal for this to take place, and this is going to mean that their relationships are likely to be far more fulfilling than they would be if this ...
Views: 1590 - Relationships: Can Self-Development Condition People To Believe That They Need To Be Perfect To Have A Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one is used to having relationships that are not very fulfilling, they could begin to wonder what is going on. As a result of this, this area of their life is likely to cause them to experience a lot of pain. However, even though this is the case, the main thing is that they have taken ...
Views: 1308 - Relationships: Can Sex Create The Illusion Of Love? - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world the general approach towards sex has changed and instead of it being something that one engages in after a certain time, it can take place without too much time having passed. And like most things in life, there are pros and cons to this type of behaviour. For some people, ...
Views: 2355 - Relationships: Can Shame Stop Someone From Reaching Out To Others? - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can’t be denied is that no one is their own island; human beings need each other. This is why it has been said that although some people say that they are independent, this is nothing more than an illusion. Therefore, while it might be hard for them to accept it, it doesn’t change the ...
Views: 1045 - Relationships: Can Smartphone’s Destroy Relationships? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that it is easy for someone not embrace each day of the week due to being completely absorbed in what will happen at the weekend, it is also just as easy for them to ignore the people in their life due to being completely absorbed in their Smartphone. In each of these cases, the ...
Views: 1016 - Relationships: Can Someone Be Attracted To The Wrong People When They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that the ideal will be for one to take the time to get to know someone before they end up in a relationship with them. This will give them the chance to find out if they are right for each other. And when they are in this position, it will also be a good idea for them to ...
Views: 1230 - Relationships: Can Someone Be Emotionally Unavailable Even Though They’re In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt would be easy to believe that the people who are emotionally unavailable are single and the ones who aren’t are in a relationship. Or, if someone is emotionally available and single, it could just show that they are taking a break after going through a breakup, for instance. This is then ...
Views: 857 - Relationships: Can Someone End Up With Deeply Wounded People If They Are Out Of Touch With Their Wounds? - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf one sees themselves as someone who has got it altogether, or is just in a good place, it can be hard for them to understand why they would end up with someone who is not in a good way. This person is then not just going to have a different personality to them; they won’t be as well ...
Views: 797 - Relationships: Can Someone End Up With People They’re Not Attracted To If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough one can have the desire to be with someone who is right for them, it doesn’t mean that this will take place. One could find that they have the tendency to end up with people who they are not really compatible with. Alternatively, one could have been with a number of people who were ...
Views: 1363 - Relationships: Can Someone End Up With The Wrong Person If They Feel Low? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to find themselves in a position where they feel down, they could feel the need to get in a relationship. They could believe that being with someone else will make their life better, thereby allowing them to feel good about. A Pattern There is the chance that one is used to ...
Views: 1525 - Relationships: Can Someone Fear Human Contact If They Had An Intrusive Caregiver? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that someone could often struggle with is feeling alone and isolated from others. During this time, they could be desperate for human contact and hope that they will soon spend time with another or a few others. However, if this was to take place, it doesn’t mean that their whole ...
Views: 687 - Relationships: Can Someone Get Over Their Ex By Sleeping With Other People? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has just broken up with their partner, they can be in a bad way. They might have been with them for a number of months or years but, no matter how long it was, they won’t just be able to carry on with their life. Yet, as this person will have been a big part of their life and now ...
Views: 282 - Relationships: Can Someone Have A Healthy Relationship With Another Person If They Have A History Of Abusive Relationships? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one meets someone they like, they might not look into what their past relationships were like. In this case, the only thing they could be concerned about is what the other person is like around them. Point of Focus This could also be a time when one will spend a lot of time thinking ...
Views: 1215 - Relationships: Can Someone Have Affairs When They Have A Fear Of Abandonment? - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a relationship that they no longer want to be in, it might not be long until it comes to an end. Perhaps they have been together for a number of months, or they may have been with each other for a number of years. Yet, regardless of the amount of time that they have been ...
Views: 1251 - Relationships: Can Someone Have Relationship Problems If They Lack Self-Awareness? - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that someone would need to be in the right place in order to drive a car, they would also need to be in the right place to have a relationship. When it comes to the former, if someone was unable to drive or was drunk, it wouldn’t be a good idea for them to drive. On the ...
Views: 868 - Relationships: Can Someone Look Towards Others To Fulfil Their Unmet Childhood Needs? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is an adult, it could be said that they won’t need the same things that they needed when they were a child. This comes down to the fact that they will have grown out of a number of these needs. As a result of this, what they look for from others is going to be different to what ...
Views: 813 - Relationships: Can Someone Make Other People Feel Worthless To Avoid How They Feel? - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there can be people who one enjoys spending time with, there can be others who they don’t. What this will come down to is that they won’t feel the same around everyone, and this will be the result of how these people behave around them. A Drain When it comes to the people who they ...
Views: 1651 - Relationships: Can Someone Need To Learn To Be Interdependent If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperNow that someone is in a relationship, it may occur to them that how they have behaved for so long is not serving them. The reason for this is that for as long as they can remember, they may have tried to do just about everything by themselves and rarely expressed their feelings. They will ...
Views: 425 - Relationships: Can Someone Project Their Parent/s Onto Other People? - by Submitted on May 05, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how someone perceives another person and the experiences that they have with them, it might not seem as though they are having much of an effect. One is then just aware of what this person is like and when they spend time with them, they won’t be playing a part, ...
Views: 812 - Relationships: Can Someone Push Love Away If They Were Mistreated During Their Early Years? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find is that although they want to be in a loving relationship, they have pushed at least one person away who was like this. It might have taken them a little while to see this, though. The reason for this is that for a little while after, they might have believed that they ...
Views: 494 - Relationships: Can Someone Push Other People Away If They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that a key part of someone being able to function at their best is for them to have fulfilling relationships. And, as they are an interdependent human being, this is not exactly a shock. Taking this into account, it will be vital for one to have strong bonds with ...
Views: 770 - Relationships: Can Someone Put An End To Dysfunctional Relationships By Leaving Relationships That Are Dysfunctional? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhilst there are some people on this planet who have relationships that are life-affirming, there are others who have relationships that are the complete opposite. They are then living on the same planet, but the experience they have on this planet is going to be radically different. When ...
Views: 1669 - Relationships: Can Someone Put Other People Down When They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on May 11, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one spends time with the people they are close to, they could generally have a positive effect on them; what this can show is that they are not interested in undermining them. Even so, this is not to say that one won’t be able to speak up if they have something to say that is not ...
Views: 1272 - Relationships: Can Someone Put Up With Bad Behaviour When They Don't Value Themselves? - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that the ideal will be for one to stand their ground when they meet someone, and not to put up with anything that will have a negative effect on them. Through being this way, they won’t allow another person to bring them down. Give And Take Thus, when they do meet ...
Views: 1303 - Relationships: Can Someone Put Up With Bad Behaviour When They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt is going to be a lot better for someone’s wellbeing if they spend time around people who treat them well. This is then the same as how one is likely to feel better about themselves if they eat healthy food. But while this is the case, it doesn’t mean that everyone spends time around ...
Views: 1186 - Relationships: Can Someone Put Up With Controlling Behaviour When They Are Emotionally Dependent - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen two people are in a relationship, they can continue to express who they are and to fulfil their own needs. As a result of this, their time together will have a positive effect on both of them. There will be the effect that this has on their relationship, and there will be the effect ...
Views: 1240 - Relationships: Can Someone Put Up With Verbal Abuse When They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one spends time with people who treat them well, it is going to be easier for them to feel good about themselves. This is then no different to how it will be easier for their body and brain to function in the right way when they eat well. Close Relationships It could be said that the ...
Views: 1202 - Relationships: Can Someone Say That All Men/Women Are The Same To Avoid How They Feel? - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperOn one hand, there are men who say that all women are the same, and, on the other hand, there are women who say that all men are the same. And, thanks to the platforms that are available online, both men and women can express their views about the opposite sex. Not only this, they can come ...
Views: 358 - Relationships: Can Someone Try To Change Others When They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about the people who they spend time with, they may find that they feel comfortable in their presence. What this could show is that these people accept them as they are. Acceptance There is then going to be no reason for one to feel as though they need to put on an ...
Views: 1355 - Relationships: Can Someone Unconsciously Recreate Abusive Situations From Their Childhood In Order To Try To Be Loved? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has been in a number of relationships that were somewhat or extremely abusive, they might have decided to stay single for a little while. Then again, they might not want to be in another relationship. But, taking into account what they have been through, this could be seen as a ...
Views: 800 - Relationships: Can Someone's Need To Save Others Have A Negative Effect On Their Relationships? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to hear that their friend is going through a tough time, they could give them a call or go to see them. No matter what they do, this could still be a time when they will listen to what they have to say and offer their support. Conversely, if they are in a relationship and ...
Views: 778 - Relationships: Can Someone's Split-Off Parts Cause Them To Have Affairs? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that can cause a relationship to come to an end, and some of these things receive more exposure in the public eye than others. For example, it is not uncommon to hear about someone who had an abusive partner and how this caused their relationship to come to an end. ...
Views: 1069 - Relationships: Can Someone’s Adult Relationships Reflect What Took Place During Their Early Years? - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has the inclination to end up in relationships that are not very fulfilling or are even abusive, it can be normal for them to experience pain. Also, as a result of what keeps taking place, they can come to see themselves as unlucky. This area of their life is then going to be ...
Views: 1046 - Relationships: Can Someone’s Childhood Cause Them To Play The Victim Role In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperRight now, someone could be in a relationship that is not very fulfilling, and there could be a number of reasons why this is. Now, this could be because they are with someone who is incredibly abusive but, then again, it might not be this severe. Instead, they could be with someone who ...
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