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- Relationships: Can Someone End Up With People They’re Not Attracted To If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough one can have the desire to be with someone who is right for them, it doesn’t mean that this will take place. One could find that they have the tendency to end up with people who they are not really compatible with. Alternatively, one could have been with a number of people who were ...
Views: 1363 - Positive Feedback: Can Toxic Shame Stop Someone From Being Able To Accept Positive Feedback? - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one gets to a point in their life when they have achieved something significant, there will be everything they have done in order for this to take place. Therefore, this wouldn’t have been something that just happened. Looking Back One could find that it has taken them a number of ...
Views: 1172 - Relationships: Are Some People Destined To Attract People Who Are Abusive? - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to take a step back and to think about the people they have been with throughout their life, they might think about the different moments that they have shared with them. This could then be a time when they will see that they have had more good than bad moments in this area of their ...
Views: 1328 - Child Abuse: Does Someone Need To Move On If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThe beginning of someone’s life is supposed to be a time when they will receive what they need in order to grow and develop in the right way. When this takes place, their developmental needs are generally going to be met. As a result of this, they are likely to have the resources that they ...
Views: 1522 - Relationships: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Attract People Who Are Needy? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOn one hand, there are the people who come across as needy and, on the other hand, there are those who attract these people. It could then be said that these people are going to have a radically different experience when to comes to this area of their life. If one is used to being needy, ...
Views: 1186 - Relationships: Can Someone Be Attracted To The Wrong People When They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that the ideal will be for one to take the time to get to know someone before they end up in a relationship with them. This will give them the chance to find out if they are right for each other. And when they are in this position, it will also be a good idea for them to ...
Views: 1230 - Self-Worth: Why Do Some People Feel Worthless No Matter What They Achieve? - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is in a position where they don’t feel good about themselves, they may decide to take action. What this can come down to is that they could believe that this is something that will change if they were to become successful. An Example One could think about someone who is ...
Views: 1397 - People Pleasing: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Please Others? - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is into self-development, they may have heard about how important it is for them to live their own life and not to please other people. As if they were to do what they can to please others, it is going to stop them from being able to fulfil their own needs. Therefore, instead of their ...
Views: 2206 - Relationships: Do Some People Only Feel Valuable When They Are Focusing On Other People’s Needs? - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that having needs is part of being human, and this means that everyone has them. However, even though this is the case, it doesn’t mean that everyone feels comfortable with their needs. A Difference Experience When someone does feel comfortable with their needs, it will ...
Views: 1349 - Boundaries: Can Someone Allow Other People To Walk Over Them When They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to come into contact with someone who tried to take advantage of them, they could end up letting the other person know that this is not acceptable. This might take place through telling them directly and/or they could walk away. It will then be clear that one is not willing to put ...
Views: 1359 - Needs: Is It Better To Be Selfless Than To Be Selfish? - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are certain behaviours that are seen as being good, there are others that are seen as being bad. When it comes it comes to the former, it can relate to having manners, being friendly and helping others. Through being this way, one is likely to find that most people will respond ...
Views: 1229 - Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up Feel Comfortable Around People Who Are Self-Centred? - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one ends up with people who are not right for them, it can be a sign that they end up with people who are self-centred. This is then not going to be something that has taken place on one occasion; it will be a regular occurrence. So when they end up in a relationship like this, it is not ...
Views: 1542 - Child Abuse: Should Someone Expect Other People To Empathise Them If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThe beginning of someone’s life can be a time when they received what they needed in order to develop into a well-adjusted adult. As a result of this, they will now have what they need to handle life. Now, this is not to say that their life will be plain sailing; what it comes down to is ...
Views: 1782 - Self-Worth: If Someone Is Successful Can It Stop Them From Feeling Worthless? - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are people who feel good about themselves, there are others who feel worthless. However, even if one doesn’t feel good about themselves, it doesn’t mean that they are in touch with how they feel. Disconnected What this comes down to is that one can end up disconnecting from ...
Views: 1094 - Relationships: Can Being Needy Cause Someone To Be Attracted To The Wrong People? - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that it is not a good idea for one to be needy if they want to find someone to be with. In fact, it could be said that this is the kind of advice that one is most likely to hear from other people. Another Part Along with this, one might have heard about how important it ...
Views: 1306 - Relationships: Who Do Some People Always Look For Someone Else Before They Leave A Relationship? - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a relationship that they no longer want to be in, they could decide to talk to their partner about what is taking place for them. This will stop them from having to cover up how they feel, and it will give them the chance to bring the relationship to an end. A Cover Up ...
Views: 1470 - Self-Worth: Do Some People's Childhood Sets Them Up To Believe That Their Value Is Based On What They Do? - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has the desire to achieve something, it can be normal for them to look into what they need to do. This can be a time when they will draw up a plan, or they could just look into what the first step needs to be. The next step is then going to be for them to take action, and how ...
Views: 1144 - Relationships: Is Someone Unlucky If They Always End Up In Abusive Relationships? - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that although someone can have the desire to attract a certain type of person, it doesn’t mean that this will take place. When it comes to the kind of person one has ended up with, they could be completely different. Now, this could mean that one has been with people who ...
Views: 1161 - Receiving: Can Toxic Shame Stop Someone From Being Able To Receive? - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people can give things to others and end up receiving things from them, there are others who don’t experience life in this way. What they can find is that although they go out of their own way to help the people around them, rarely does anything come back to them. One-Sided ...
Views: 1121 - The Media: Do Some People Believe Everything The Alternative Media Tells Them? - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are people who look towards the mainstream media to be informed, there are others who are no longer willing to do so. When these people want to find out about what is taking place around them, they will look towards the alternative media. In the past, there was only one option ...
Views: 1293 - Sense Of Self: Can Toxic Shame Destroy Someone's Sense Of Self? - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how someone experiences life, it is often said that their self-image has a big effect. Therefore, if one wants to feel good and to have experiences that are fulfilling, it will be vital for them to see themselves in the right way. Another way of looking at this would be to ...
Views: 1365 - Receiving: Does Someone Need To Embrace Their Feminine Nature Is They Are Unable To Receive? - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that human beings have the need to receive on one side and the need to give on the other. When it comes to their ability to receive, this is something that relates to their feminine nature; whereas when it comes to their need to give, this relates to their masculine nature. ...
Views: 1152 - Relationships: Is Someone Unlucky If They Always Attract People Who Are Unavailable? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is at a stage in their life where they are taking a break from being with someone, they may find that some of the people in their life are in relationships. In fact, everyone they know could be with another person. And, if they were to spend time with these people, they may find that ...
Views: 1407 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Only Attracted To People Who Are Unavailable? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one could be in a relationship with someone who is available, they might also find that they are with someone who is unavailable. This is something that is going to have a big effect on how fulfilling their relationship is. One Experience If one can relate to the former, they are ...
Views: 1298 - Boundaries: Is Having Open Borders A Good Idea? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one wanted travel to another country, there is a strong chance that they would need to have a passport. In addition to this, they may also find that they need to get a visa. This could be something that doesn’t bother them, and they are then not going to have the need to think about ...
Views: 1610 - Relationships: Are Friends The People That We Have In Our Life Who We Rescue? - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to look back on their life, they may find that they have had friends who have needed their help. This could mean that they have had to drive them to different places, give them a place to stay for a few nights and been there for them when they were not in a good place, amongst other ...
Views: 1409 - Emotional Problems: Do Some People Only Feel Normal When They Exercise? - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is not uncommon for one to have a gym membership, or to at least take part in some kind of exercise. One reason for this is that this is an area of life that is seen as something that can’t be overlooked. No matter how old one is, they may have been told on a number of ...
Views: 1403 - The Media: Do Some People Believe Everything The Mainstream Media Tells Them? - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what is taking place in the world, it can be normal for one to look towards the mainstream media. Looking towards this source to be informed can be as natural as one going to a supermarket when they need to buy food. This is likely to have been something they have done for ...
Views: 1175 - Relationships: If Someone Feels Ashamed Of Their Needs Can It Stop Them From Recognising When Someone Is Self-Centred? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are people who are drawn to those who are self-centred, there are others who are repelled by them. When it comes to the former, it could be said that they are going to spend time with people who are not right for them. Yet, when it comes to the latter, there is a strong chance ...
Views: 1523 - Relationships: Are Friends The People We Have In Our Life Who Always Talk About Themselves? - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to get in touch with one of their friends and to ask them how they are, they may find that they return the favour. When this takes place, it might not end up standing out, and this is because this is how they generally respond. What this can show is that their relationship is ...
Views: 1483 - Therapy: Can Someone End Up Being Re-Traumatized Through Having Therapy? - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen something is not going right in life, it can be normal for one to look into what they can do about it. Naturally, this is going to be the only way that their life will change; if they don’t do this, their life could end up getting even worse. But while one could take action if there ...
Views: 1206 - Relationships: Why Do Some People With High Self-Esteem End Up in Abusive Relationships? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that if one wants to have a healthy relationship, they will need to have high self-esteem. Through being this way, it will then allow them to be with someone who will treat them in the right way. And, if one doubted this, they would only need to pay attention to the people ...
Views: 1469 - Relationships: It Is Normal For Someone's Ex To No Longer Talk To Them? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationship comes to an end, it can mean that two people are happy to be able to move on with their life. It could then be said that this was something that had run its course, and that there was no reason for them to stay together. Now, this is not to say that one of them won’t feel ...
Views: 1362 - Boundaries: Does Someone Need To Embrace Their Feminine Nature Is They Find It Hard To Say Yes? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one has boundary problems, they may end up hearing about how important it is to be able to say no. This could be a time when one will come across information that will talk about how they need to be assertive and to draw the line. Through being able to behave in this way, it will allow ...
Views: 1259 - Boundaries: Does Someone Need To Embrace Their Masculine Nature If They Are Unable To Say No? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is asked if they would like to do something, they could end up saying yes. This could show that they actually want to do what the person has suggested, and there will then have been no reason for them to say anything else. A Wonderful Experience This could then be a time when one ...
Views: 1239 - Critical Thinking: Why Do Some People Who Always Talk About Tolerance Act Intolerant? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf one uses social media, they may have come across people who talk about how important it is to be tolerant. This could be something that has taken place through reading what people write and through looking at the images they have shared. And, if one spends a lot of time online, this have ...
Views: 1954 - Relationships: How Can Someone Experience The Desire To Be In A Relationship When They Have Had So Many Bad Experiences? - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one has a history of bad relationships, the last thing on their mind can be to have another one. However, regardless of what they have been through, the need to be with someone is not going to completely disappear. What can happen is that one can end up disconnecting from this need and ...
Views: 1592 - Relationships: Does Someone Lack Self-Awareness If They Say They Are Unlucky In Love? - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough some areas of one’s life can generally go to plan, there can be others that don’t, and this is something that can cause them to experience a lot of pain. For example, they could find that their career is going in the right direction, but that it hasn’t been possible for them to achieve ...
Views: 1291 - Relationships: Do People Have Fulfilling Relationships If They Are Attractive? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is attractive, it can be normal for other people to believe that they are intelligent, well-adjusted and successful, among other things. And, this is something that they can believe even if they don’t know anything about them. This person’s appearance will then be what typically ...
Views: 1163 - Hollywood: Do Hollywood Actors No Longer Exist To Distract People? - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone wants to relax, they could end up looking for a film to watch, and there are going to be a number of ways for them to do this. For one thing, one could go and watch something at the cinema. This may then mean that they will have to wait a little while, and this could be because ...
Views: 1248 - Purpose: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Hide From Their Own Purpose? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to finally get in touch with why they are here, they could soon do everything they can to change their life. What they have been doing for all this time might no longer interest them, and it will then be time for them to do something else. At the same time, it might not be this ...
Views: 1208 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Only Attract Women Who Are Dependent On Them? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the kind of women that men are attracted to, it could be said that there is not one type. There is what is spoken about in the media, for instance, and then there is what takes place in reality. If one was to read an article about what kind of woman a man is attracted to, ...
Views: 1326 - Hollywood: Are The Actors Who Talk About Politics Going To Cause Hollywood To Lose A Lot Of Money? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn the past, actors did most of their talking in the films that they were in, and there would have been what they said in interviews, for instance. This would have related to the talk shows that they were on and the magazines that they were featured in. Other than these options, the people ...
Views: 1302 - Critical Thinking: Is It Harder For Someone To Think Clearly When They Get Too Passionate? - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that there are people who come across as passionate and those who don’t. However, even if one doesn’t come cross in this way, it doesn’t mean that this reflects their true nature. What it could come down to is that they prefer to keep this side of them hidden, and this could ...
Views: 1406 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Attract People Who Walk All Over Them? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was walked over by someone, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they will have literally put their feet on their body. What it can also mean is that another person has violated their personal space. When this happens, the other person won’t have respected their boundaries, and this will ...
Views: 1462 - Therapy: Can Therapists Form Inaccurate Beliefs About Men/Women? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wanted to become a therapist, they may have the desire to work with people who have certain issues. This could relate to what they have had to deal with, or it might involve what they have seen other people suffer from. When it comes to the former, this could show that one has ...
Views: 1227 - Relationships: Should Someone Look Into What Is Taking Place Within Them If They Attract People Who Are Unavailable? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one could be in a fulfilling relationship with someone, there is also the chance that this is not the case. This could come down to the fact that they don’t want to be in one, and this might be a sign that they have just broken up with someone. If this is the case, they might want to ...
Views: 1275 - Relationships: Can Someone Have A Healthy Relationship With Another Person If They Have A History Of Abusive Relationships? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one meets someone they like, they might not look into what their past relationships were like. In this case, the only thing they could be concerned about is what the other person is like around them. Point of Focus This could also be a time when one will spend a lot of time thinking ...
Views: 1215 - Clothes: Does Someone Need To Wear The Right Colours If They Are Sensitive? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, one no longer needs to look the same as other people, and this is partly because there is so much choice when it comes to what they can wear. And, when they want to buy something, they won’t need to go out either. Online Shopping The only thing that one will need to do ...
Views: 1521 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Stop Someone From Being Able To Get In Touch With Their Needs? - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to go out for a meal with a friend, it is likely to show that they both have the need to do so. This will not only allow them to fulfil their need to eat something, it will also allow them to fulfil a number of other needs. A Match Therefore, although they are both ...
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