Self Improvement Site
On The Internet! Take the Self Improvement Tour
On The Internet! Take the Self Improvement Tour
Articles from Oliver JR Cooper | Selfgrowth.com
- Rejection: Can Someone Feel Rejected Before They Are Even Born? - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to strike up a conversation with someone who they are attracted to, they may end up being rejected by them. Now, one way of looking at this would be to say that this person didn’t reject them, they just rejected the version of them that showed up and there can be a number of reasons ...
Views: 650 - Rejection: Why Do Some People Fear Rejection? - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many fears that human beings can have and some of these are classed as real and parts of one’s ability to survive and others are seen as self made and have very little to do with ones survival. And the fear of rejection is often classed as a fear that is irrational and not based in ...
Views: 2209 - Rejection: Why Do Some People Feel Worthless When They Experience Rejection? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that there are certain things that are part of life, and this means that it is not possible to avoid them. Still, this is not to say that some people won’t try to make sure that they don’t experience something. Rejection For example, there are going to be moments in ...
Views: 1138 - Relationship: Why Do Some People Only Feel Valuable When They Are In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is not currently in a relationship, they may find that this doesn’t have effect on how they see themselves. It is then still going to be possible for them to feel good about who they are, and this is going to make it easier for them to function. A Whole Human Being Ultimately, one ...
Views: 1132 - Relationships: Why Can’t Someone Just Leave An Abusive Relationship? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to hear about someone who is in an abusive relationship, they could wonder why they haven’t walked away from their partner. This could be seen as not just what is right but also what is logical. Now, this could be someone they know, or it could be someone who they have heard about ...
Views: 389 - Relationships: Are Friends The People That We Get in Touch With When We Want Something? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to get in touch with someone they know it could be because they need something. However, it doesn’t mean that this will always be the case, as there could be times when they don’t need anything. Curious During these moments, one may want to find out about what they have been ...
Views: 1273 - Relationships: Are Friends The People That We Have In Our Life Who Only Accept Us When We Do What They Want? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about what their friends are like, they could start to think about how they accept them for who they are. It is then not going to be necessary for them to play a role, and it could be said that this is how it should be. The alternative would be for one to be in a ...
Views: 1355 - Relationships: Are Friends The People That We Have In Our Life Who Try To Fix Us? - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one can have people in their life who are there to support them, they can also spend time with people who try to fix them. As a result of this, it could be said that one will feel good in their presence or they will end up feeling bad. Another way of looking at it would be to say ...
Views: 1288 - Relationships: Are Friends The People That We Have In Our Life Who Undermine Us? - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one can share their life with people who support them, they can also be in a different position. As a result of this, the people they are closest to could be the ones who hold them back. The Ideal When one has people around them are able to support them, their life is going to be ...
Views: 1303 - Relationships: Are Friends The People That We Have In Our Life Who We Rescue? - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to look back on their life, they may find that they have had friends who have needed their help. This could mean that they have had to drive them to different places, give them a place to stay for a few nights and been there for them when they were not in a good place, amongst other ...
Views: 1409 - Relationships: Are Friends The People We Have In Our Life Who Always Talk About Themselves? - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to get in touch with one of their friends and to ask them how they are, they may find that they return the favour. When this takes place, it might not end up standing out, and this is because this is how they generally respond. What this can show is that their relationship is ...
Views: 1483 - Relationships: Are Friends The People We Have In Our Life Who Try To Change Us? - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about the people in their life who they are close to, they may find that these people accept them as they are. Consequently, this will allow them to feel at ease when they are in their presence. True-Self Through being this way, one will be able to express who they ...
Views: 1391 - Relationships: Are Men And Women More Masculine/Feminine Than They Were In The Past? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIn the past, there was greater pressure on people to behave in a certain way, and it didn’t matter what sex they were. Due to the changes that have taken place in recent years, it is a lot easier for them to behave how they want to. A Challenge Even so, this is not to say that everyone ...
Views: 1397 - Relationships: Are Patterns Running Our Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people who have relationships that are generally: supportive, secure, loving and what could be described as functional. And there are others who are in relationships that are: unhealthy, dysfunctional, disempowering and even abusive. Functional Now, for people in the first ...
Views: 1922 - Relationships: Are People Entitled To Get Revenge On Their Ex? - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperOne could be with someone and believe that they are the one, and in the next moment it could all be over. They could also be with someone who doesn’t have the same effect and then before long, this person is no longer part of their life. How close one feels to another person won’t ...
Views: 1635 - Relationships: Are Rebound Relationships A Bad Idea? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone goes from one relationship to another, they are often described as having a rebound relationship. And this can takes place within a very short time of one ending and the other beginning; so there is very little time in between each one. This could be a relationship that has ...
Views: 1937 - Relationships: Are Some Men Too Emotionally Underdeveloped To Have A Relationship With A Woman? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon for a woman to complain about how she keeps ending up with men who are emotionally unavailable, and it would be easy to say that a woman like this is incredibly unlucky. Time after time, she ends up experiencing the same outcome - it can then seem as though men need to get it ...
Views: 975 - Relationships: Are Some People Addicted To Feeling Rejected? - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that although rejection is part of life, there are some people who experience it more than others. Now, at times this will be due to how someone lives their life. For example, let’s say that someone is an entrepreneur, who is constantly putting their ideas in front of ...
Views: 812 - Relationships: Are Some People Destined To Attract People Who Are Abusive? - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to take a step back and to think about the people they have been with throughout their life, they might think about the different moments that they have shared with them. This could then be a time when they will see that they have had more good than bad moments in this area of their ...
Views: 1328 - Relationships: Are Some People Destined To Attract People Who Are Unavailable? - by Submitted on May 25, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of reasons why one can have relationships that are not very fulfilling, and one can play a part is if they have the tendency to end up with people who are not available. So when they are in a relationship, it can be as if they are with someone who is not really there. ...
Views: 1316 - Relationships: Are Some People Here To Save/Rescue Others? - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who typically come across as weak, powerless and incapable, and then there are those who typically come across as strong, powerful and capable. The former can look towards the latter to save them, and the latter can do what they can to save the former. This dynamic is ...
Views: 529 - Relationships: Are Some People More Interested In What People Say Than What They Do? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that what people do is more important than what they say, and this going to come down to the fact that actions speak louder than words. As while it is easy for someone to say something, it is going to take a lot more effort for them to do something. In The Beginning ...
Views: 1288 - Relationships: Are Some People Only Friendly When They Are Nervous? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to go into a new environment, they might be only too happy to talk to everyone they meet. This could mean that one is learning how to dance, or perhaps they have gone back into education. As a result of this, it might not be long until they know everyone there, and this is going ...
Views: 1382 - Relationships: Are Someone’s Adult Relationships A Replay Of Their Early Relationships? - by Submitted on May 02, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperThere is the chance that someone has been in a number of relationships that were not very fulfilling. Thanks to this, they could question if they want to be in another relationship or if they just want to stay single forever. Then again, they could currently be in yet another relationship ...
Views: 748 - Relationships: Are The People Who Rescue Others Healthier Than The People They Rescue? - by Submitted on May 28, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone could be in a position where they have saved a number of dogs from drowning, it could go even further than this. Perhaps they also work in the fire service, and have then stopped a number of people from losing their life. They could also find that this kind of behaviour appears ...
Views: 1227 - Relationships: Are The People Who Try To Do Everything By Themselves Developmentally Stunted? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are people who realise that they can’t do everything by themselves, there are others who have a different outlook. When someone can relate to the former, they are going to accept the fact that they are an interdependent human being. Reaching Out As a result of this, there ...
Views: 1263 - Relationships: Are There Four People In Every Relationship? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people out there that are in an open relationship and then there are people out there that aren’t. When it comes to a relationship that is monogamous, it could be said that there will only be two people involved. Unlike the other type of relationship, each person will only need to ...
Views: 726 - Relationships: Are We Attracted To Our Own Projections? - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one first meets another person and starts to feel attracted to them, they will have started to form certain associations around what they are like and what they are not like. This whole process is likely to take place out of one’s awareness and happen fairly rapidly. Once these are ...
Views: 1721 - Relationships: Are We Attracted To The People Who Will Allow Us To Replay Unresolved Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what causes one person to be attracted to another, it is can be easy to believe that it is simply due to effect that the other persons personality and/or appearance has had on them. These two factors will then have had the biggest effect on why someone is sexually attracted to ...
Views: 894 - Relationships: Are We Defined By The Internal Representations That Other People Have Of Us? - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that one ends up being similar to the five people they spend most of their time with. This is something Jim Rohn expressed and while there might be slight variations to this, it could be seen as a fairly accurate judgment. So for some people, this is going to be something ...
Views: 1459 - Relationships: Are You In A Relationship With Someone Who Is On The Rebound? - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone starts a new relationship there is a strong chance that it will be their intention to be with someone who is available. In this case, one is in a position where they are ready to share their life with someone else. It could then be said that they have the right outlook, and it ...
Views: 1352 - Relationships: Can A Lack Of Emotional Intelligence Cause Someone To Cheat? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that can have a negative effect on a relationship and, while some of these things can be the result of what is taking place within, there can be others that are due to what is taking place without. When it comes to the former, it can be due to inner conflict, ...
Views: 983 - Relationships: Can A Man Have The Need To Save Women If His Mother Was Abused By His Father? - by Submitted on May 20, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperRight now, a man could spend time with a woman who is with a man who is mistreating her. When they get together, they may or may not get affectionate and have sex, but he can spend a lot of time listening to her and being supportive. He can often tell her that she doesn’t deserve to be ...
Views: 154 - Relationships: Can A Man’s Unmet Childhood Needs Make Him Want To Sleep With A Lot Of Women? - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some men who generally have relationships, while there are others who have absolutely no interest in having one. But even if a man doesn’t want to have a relationship, it doesn’t mean that he has always been this way. No Longer the Same If there was a point in their life when ...
Views: 928 - Relationships: Can A Past Life Connection Cause Someone To Stay In A Dysfunctional Relationship? - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to come to the conclusion that they are in a relationship that is not very healthy, they could look into what they could do to change it. Through taking this approach, it will give them the chance to see if anything can be done. There will most likely be what they will need to ...
Views: 738 - Relationships: Can A Relationship Allow Someone To Meet Their ‘Shadow?’ - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has met another person who they are attracted to and is getting to know them, they can have only good things to say about them. Not only this, but they can want to spend a lot of time with them. If they take the next step and end up in a relationship with them, they can end up ...
Views: 301 - Relationships: Can A Relationship Bring Up Emotions That Were Frozen? - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is not in a relationship, they may find that they are generally settled. What this can mean is that they are rarely emotionally flat and are rarely overwhelmed by their emotions. Being this way is naturally going to make it easier for them to function at their best and to enjoy ...
Views: 834 - Relationships: Can A Relationship Bring Up Someone’s Attachment Trauma? - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone gets into a relationship, they may believe that they have finally met their match. What they have been through in the past, when it comes to this area of their life, is then going to be well and truly over. At one point, it will have been as though they were on a stormy sea and ...
Views: 832 - Relationships: Can A Relationship End Before Two People Hate Each Other? - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationship gets to a point where it is no longer working, each person is likely to feel different to how they felt in the beginning. When they spend time in each others company, they could be thinking about how long it will be until their time together will come to an end. However, ...
Views: 1471 - Relationships: Can Being Emotionally Disconnected Stop Someone From Having The Need To Experience Intimacy? - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who experience deeper connections with others, there are others who don’t. This means that the interactions that they do have with others will generally be surface level. One way of looking at this would be to say that they will be on the side of a swimming pool; ...
Views: 1747 - Relationships: Can Being Needy Cause Someone To Be Attracted To The Wrong People? - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that it is not a good idea for one to be needy if they want to find someone to be with. In fact, it could be said that this is the kind of advice that one is most likely to hear from other people. Another Part Along with this, one might have heard about how important it ...
Views: 1306 - Relationships: Can Being Needy Cause Someone To Put Up With Bad Behaviour? - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone hasn’t eaten for a little while, they can end up eating things that are not good for them. Due to how hungry they are, it can stop them from being able to resist this type of food. They can find that their will power has deserted them and that they don’t even take the time to ...
Views: 1416 - Relationships: Can Being Tolerant Cause Someone To Be Abused? - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is in a position where they want to start a new relationship, they could have a clear idea about what they are looking for. In fact, they could say that they want someone who is perfect. Short-Lived One might believe that it is only a matter of time before they will meet someone ...
Views: 1268 - Relationships: Can Breaking Up Make A Relationship Better? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one could be in a relationship that is going as they would like it to go, there is also the chance that this is not the case. As a result of this, they could be in a position where they believe it is time for them to move on. Unhealthy This could be a sign that they don’t feel ...
Views: 1341 - Relationships: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Associate Getting Close To Others With Being Annihilated? - by Submitted on May 24, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough one will have the need to form close connections with others, it won’t have been possible for them to do so. Thus, the need will then be there but they won’t have been able to fulfil it. What they could find is that their life has been this way for as long as they can remember. And, ...
Views: 423 - Relationships: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Emotionally Shut Down Around Others? - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in touch with their emotional self around others, it will allow them to feel connected to them and to fully embrace the moment. Being this way will also allow them to develop deeper relationships with others. So, whether it relates to a friend or an intimate partner, one will ...
Views: 642 - Relationships: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Trapped Around Others? - by Submitted on May 01, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are those that feel comfortable in their own company and in the company of others, and there are those that don’t. When it comes to the former, it is likely to show that someone has a strong sense of self. Due to how developed they are, they won’t feel empty when they are by themselves ...
Views: 880 - Relationships: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Keep People At A Distance? - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone may want to form deeper connections with others and to even have an intimate relationship, this might not have been possible. When it comes to the former, they may have only been able to get so close to people, and, when it comes to the latter, it might not be any better. If ...
Views: 682 - Relationships: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Lose Themselves Around Others? - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will be an individual, with their own needs and feelings, when they are around others they could have the tendency to lose touch with these inner aspects. As a result of this, they will act more like an extension of others. Instead of expressing who they are, then, their true ...
Views: 414 - Relationships: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Lose Themselves In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in a relationship, the ideal will be for them to be in touch with who they are and to express their true-self. By being this way, being close to another person will have changed them, but it won’t have caused them to abandon themselves. Therefore, when they are around the ...
Views: 660