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- Offended: Does The Fear Of Offending Others Stop Some People From Sharing Their Views? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who generally think before they speak, there are others who don’t. As a result of this, they are likely to come across as being radically different human beings. Holding Back When it comes to the former, it could be said that they are typically not going to say ...
Views: 2069 - Offended: Is Being Offended A Choice? - by Submitted on May 07, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about the kinds of experiences that they have had so far this year, they may find that there have been a number of moments that have had a negative effect on their life. This could relate to what has taken place in the real world, as well as what has occurred online. And ...
Views: 2514 - Offended: What Can Someone Do If They Have The Tendency To Be Offended? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperRegardless of whether one is online or offline, they may find that it is not uncommon for them to get worked up about something. They could read or hear something and, before they know it, they could experience a strong emotional reaction. When this takes place, it could take a little while ...
Views: 877 - Online Dating: Can Someone Increase Their Chances Of Being Rejected When They Edit Their Pictures? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone’s uses online dating, the can have the need to create the perfect profile. And as they want to create a good impression, it could be said that this is to be expected. Fortunately, it is not going to need to take them very long to create the right profile. They might have rough ...
Views: 1496 - Online Dating: Do Some Peoples Profiles Reveal What Kind Of Person They Attract? - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to go out into the world with the intention of finding another person to be with, it is going to be important for them to come across in the right way. Now, this is not to say that there is only going to be one way for them to behave. For one thing, it can be necessary for them ...
Views: 1425 - Online Dating: Has Online Dating Made It Easier For People To Cheat? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIn the past, someone would have needed to go out in order to meet someone, but in today’s world, that is no longer necessary. Nowadays, the only thing that they need to do is to go online. Social media can allow them to find what they are looking for, or they can go one step further and join ...
Views: 1217 - Online Dating: Should Both Men And Women Be Careful What They Reveal If They Want A Relationship? - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to use an online dating app to try to find a mate, it is naturally going to be different to how it would be if they were to try to find a mate in the real world. For one thing, there will be only so much information available to them online. When they are looking at another ...
Views: 808 - Online Dating: Why Are We Not Attracted To Someone When We Meet Them In Person? - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one meets someone from an online dating site, they can end up having a strong connection with them. As a result of this, the time that they spent talking to them online would have been time well spent. An Investment One way of looking at this would be to say that they were putting ...
Views: 1811 - Online Petitions: Are Online Petitions Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it could be said that the average person has far more control than they did in the past, and this is primarily due to the internet. Through going online, one will have the chance to share their views and to have an impact on what takes place in the world. When it comes to sharing ...
Views: 1181 - OnlyFans: Why Would A Man Be Drawn To OnlyFans? - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperThanks to a platform that offers a ‘virtual girlfriend experience’, a man can receive far more than he did in the past. Before this platform was available, he would have been able to view pictures and videos of a woman but that would have been about it. Now, by paying a certain fee to a ...
Views: 600 - Our Story: Is Our Story Who We Are? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWe all have a story to tell, no matter who we are or where we’re from; a story that reminds us of a past that can never be forgotten. This is a story can define one’s life; one that contains the potential to create a life that is a reaction to the story or a life inspired and motivated by ...
Views: 2076 - Our Story: What Roles Are We Playing In Our Story? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOur story is all that we have experienced up until his point, all that we are experiencing at this moment and all that we will experience in the future. And part of what makes up our story is the roles that we play. However, these are roles that might not even seem like roles, they can appear ...
Views: 1830 - Overactive Mind: Can An Emotional Build-Up Cause Someone To Have An Overactive Mind? - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to look after a puppy for a week and for another week, they were to look after a dog that had been trained; they are likely to see how different dogs are at a young age. After the first week, they could end up feeling exhausted and as though they need a break. Whereas once they ...
Views: 1735 - Overwhelmed: Do Some People's Childhood Set Them Up To Feel Overwhelmed By Life? - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperStress is undoubtedly part of life, but while some people are able to handle a fair amount of it, there are others who can’t. When someone can handle a fair amount of stress, they may generally be able to handle their day-to-day life. If they do feel weighed down, it could show that they ...
Views: 896 - Overwhelmed: Is It Easy For Someone To Be Overwhelmed If They Are Sensitive? - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find is that they can handle a fair amount of stimulation without feeling washed out. So, one could wake up and check their phone, spend most of their day around others, and even go out in the evening, and everything could be fine. Along with this, there can be all the time ...
Views: 603 - Pain And Suffering: Do We Benefit From It? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperI have recently been asking the question: why is it that we are so consumed with the pain of the world and at the same time run away from our own pain? Could it be that the very reason we have become so obsessed and addicted to the media, soaps, gossip and other such things, is due to us running ...
Views: 1952 - Pain: Is Pain Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many things that are part of the human experience, and pain is one of them. Pain can come in many different forms and is not limited to one form. This can be: physical mental and emotional. On one side it can be seen as nothing more than a problem and something that one must try to ...
Views: 1734 - Painful Memories: Can Trapped Emotions Keep Painful Memories Alive? - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one can form memories that are pleasurable and remind them of moments that were special and uplifting, it is also possible for one to have memories that are painful. And these will remind them of moments that were stressful and even traumatic. This is part of life and there is unlikely ...
Views: 1494 - Paranoia: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be Paranoid? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperThanks to how someone typically experiences life, they can have what could be seen as a fairly troubled existence. Then again, it could be even worse than this as their life could be extremely difficult. The reason for this is that they could find it hard to trust others and accept that not ...
Views: 368 - Parentification: What Can Happen If Someone Had To Meet Their Caregivers Needs? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to look back on their life, they might wonder what happened to their childhood. The reason for this is that this may have been a stage when they had to act like an adult. Instead of being able to have fun, to play and have very few, if any, responsibilities, they may have been ...
Views: 398 - Passive Aggressive Behaviour: What Causes It? - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter what gender someone is or where they have come from, there is likely to be moments where they feel angry. This is part of the human experience and it plays a valuable role in our survival as individuals and as a species. In most cases, anger is nothing more than feedback and is ...
Views: 2620 - Passive: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Be Passive? - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there is a time to be and a time to do, someone could be in a position where they find it hard to get things done. It could take a lot for them to get moving and when they do move, it could typically be because they have to. For example, if they didn’t have to go to work, they could ...
Views: 324 - Passivity: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Be Passive? - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone could find is that they often lack energy and find it hard to do things. In general, they might only leave their home when they have to go to work and need food. Along with this, they could go out to see friends, watch TV and they may exercise every now and then. But, even when ...
Views: 343 - Passivity: Can Someone Be Passive If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone could find it hard to get things done and they could spend a lot of time sitting around. When they do take action, it could typically be because they feel that they have to. For example, this could show that they have to go to work or have run out of food. Behind actions ...
Views: 413 - Past Life: Can Being Ostracised In A Past Life Play A Part In Why Someone Feels Unworthy Of Life? - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to see that they don’t feel worthy of life, it could be said that this will be an achievement. Now, coming to this conclusion won’t mean that their life will simply change but what it will mean is that they will be aware of what is going on and they will be able to do something ...
Views: 431 - Past Life: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be Caught Up In Their Past Lives? - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperFor a little while now, someone may have been looking into the different past lives that they have had. They might resonate with one life more than the others or they could feel equally connected to all of them. Furthermore, in each life that they have been able to remember, they might have ...
Views: 306 - Past Life: Can Past Life Trauma Cause Someone To Carry A Sense Of Badness? - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough the ideal will be for someone to be able to experience positive feelings on a regular basis, it doesn’t mean that this will be something that they are able to relate to. It could typically be a challenge for them to feel good. In general, they could feel bad, guilty, ashamed and ...
Views: 484 - Past Life: Can Past Life Trauma Give Someone The Need To Hide Themselves? - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may see, if they were able to step back and reflect on their life, is that they rarely reveal themselves. This is going to mean that their true self, so their needs and feelings, will typically be covered up. When they are around others, then, they are largely going to put on an ...
Views: 385 - Past Life: Did Someone’s Past Life Play A Part In Why They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is clear is that if someone was mistreated during their early years, it was something that they had no control over. For one thing, they didn’t choose the family they had and, as they were a powerless and dependent child there was absolutely nothing that they could have done. Therefore, ...
Views: 592 - Past Lives: Can 'Past Lives' Allow Someone To Avoid How They Feel? - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who believe that they only have one life, and, once our current life is over, that will be it. If someone has this view, they can believe that someone would need to be crazy to believe anything else. They will have made their mind up and there is not going to be much ...
Views: 793 - Patterns: Do Patterns Run Our Life? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen we look at our lives or at the lives of others, we can see life through one of two ways, or as a combination of the two. On one side we can see that there are patterns to how we behave, think and feel and in how other people behave. And on the other side, we could also view our internal ...
Views: 1891 - Pedestalization: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Put Others On A Pedestal? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was able to step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they have the tendency to elevate others. As a result of this, seeing another person as more knowing, more powerful and more capable will be normal. They are then going to be at one level and the average ...
Views: 323 - People Pleasing: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be A People Pleaser? - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what might stand out is that they have the tendency to put other people’s needs first. They may see that this takes place without them even thinking about it. Naturally, the outcome of this is that they will also have the tendency ...
Views: 270 - People Pleasing: Can Someone Have The Need To Please Others If They Don't Feel Safe In Their Body? - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find is that they have a strong need to please others, making it hard for them to live their own life. Or to be more accurate – this can stop them from being able to live their own life. So by having the need to do what other people want as opposed to what they themselves ...
Views: 654 - People Pleasing: Can Someone Have The Need To Please Others If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone is an individual, with their own needs and feelings, it doesn’t mean that they generally act like one. In general, they could do what they can to please others. As a result of this, it will be as if they are here to serve the needs of others, not to have their own life. ...
Views: 268 - People Pleasing: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Please Others? - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is into self-development, they may have heard about how important it is for them to live their own life and not to please other people. As if they were to do what they can to please others, it is going to stop them from being able to fulfil their own needs. Therefore, instead of their ...
Views: 2206 - People Pleasing: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Please Others? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is in a position where they’re pleasing other people from time to time, it is unlikely to have a negative effect on their life. However, when one pleases other people as a way of life it is going to have a negative effect on their life. And while it is harming their life and stopping ...
Views: 1527 - People Pleasing: Does Low Self-Esteem Cause People To Please Others? - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOn one hand, one can pay attention to their own needs and do what they can to fulfilling them, and on the other hand, they can focus on others people’s needs and do what they can to fulfil them. If their life is a reflection of the former, it is likely to be far more fulfilling than if their ...
Views: 2520 - People Pleasing: Is It Possible To Always Please Other People? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can do everything they can do displease others, they can also have the opposite approach. In this case, it is going to be normal for them to overlook their own needs. Point of Focus One is then not going to pay attention to what is taking place within them, they are going to ...
Views: 1184 - People Pleasing: Is Someone More Likely To Please Others If They Are Emotionally Dependent? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to live a fulfilling life, there are going to be at last two things that will need to be in place. On the one hand, they will need to be aware of their needs, and on the other; they will need to feel safe enough to fulfil them. From here, one will have the ability to ...
Views: 1040 - People Pleasing: Why Do Some People Always Say That They Don't Care About What Other People Think? - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people can keep things to themselves, there are others who are far more vocal when it comes to their life. It might then not matter what is taking place, as they will feel the need to tell other people. Social Media Fortunately for them, they live in a time when this is ...
Views: 1441 - People Pleasing: Why Do Some People Always Try To Please Others? - by Submitted on May 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile trying to please others can be something everyone does from time to time, for others, it is the focus of their lives. What this person wants from life as whole or what they want to do from moment to moment is then secondary. The needs and wants of others are far more important than ...
Views: 2884 - People Pleasing: Why Do Some People Believe That They Need To Please Others In Order To Survive? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAt the start of someone’s life, their survival would have depended upon their caregivers. As a result of this, they wouldn’t have had much control during this stage of their life. A Different Scenario However, as the years passed and they grew into an adult, their survival would no longer ...
Views: 1233 - People Pleasing: Why Do Some People Believe That They Will Be Rejected If They Don’t Please Others? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone will have their own needs, it doesn’t mean that they will pay attention to them. Instead, they can have the tendency to do what other people want and what they think they want. As a result of this, their life is not going to be an expression of who they are. Living in this way ...
Views: 650 - People Pleasing: Why Do Some People Experience Anxiety When They Don't Please Others? - by Submitted on May 26, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that one’s life can be an expression of their own needs or it can be an expression of other people’s needs. When it comes to the former, one is pleasing themselves; whereas when it comes to the latter, they are pleasing others. True Fulfilment In order for one to live a ...
Views: 1255 - People Pleasing: Why Do Some People Only Feel Safe When They Are Pleasing Others? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to behaviours that will have a negative impact on one’s life, trying to please others is high on the list. And this doesn’t relate to pleasing others on the odd occasion, it relates to trying to please others all of the time. To set out to please people every now and then is ...
Views: 1823 - People-Pleasing: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be A People Pleaser? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has the need to please others, it can stop them from being able to live a life that is in alignment with their true-self. Through being this way, their priority will be to do what other people want and what they think they want. It is then going to be normal for them to be focused ...
Views: 522 - Perfection: Are We Perfect As We Are? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperI recently had a dream and in that dream there was a situation where I paid 60 pounds for this diamond shaped stone. I was then told how it would be worth more if I got it valued. So once I had bought it I went to a jeweller to see if it was actually worth more or if I had just been taken for a ...
Views: 2102 - Perfection: Why Do Some People Try To Be Perfect? - by Submitted on May 05, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo be seen as perfect is very much a part of the of the modern day world. And this doesn’t only relate to one’s ability in life; it also plays a part in how one looks and in how one feels. Clear examples of this can be found in the media and the fairly recent introduction of anti aging ...
Views: 5642 - Perfectionism: Can Someone Have The Need To Be Perfect If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is an imperfect human being, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Thus, they won’t be able to accept that making mistakes and getting things wrong is part of the human experience. Naturally, this is going to cause them to experience a lot of unnecessary pressure. ...
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