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- If You Have Fallen, You Will Rise Again - by Submitted on May 13, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThe other day, I was thinking about the moments in my life when I have had setbacks and what has often gone through my head when this has taken place. When I think about what happens, it’s a bit like I’m in one season. During this time, and irrespective of what season it is, part of me ...
Views: 943 - If You Were Rescued, You Wouldn’t Develop Your Strength - by Submitted on May 20, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is finding it hard to handle life or a certain area of their life is a challenge, they can have a strong need for another person to come and make it better. They could spend a fair amount of time thinking about what their life would be like if this was to take place. When this ...
Views: 381 - Ignorance: Is Ignorance Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter how much someone learns in life there are always going to be things they don’t know about. That is part of life and is something that one simply has to accept. That doesn’t mean that learning is therefore futile, if anything, it could feel like a weight has been lifted from ones ...
Views: 9176 - Illness: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Illness? - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is very little attention given to emotions and feelings in the western world and the role that these play in whether the body is in a place of balance or imbalance. The typical approach is to look at things in isolation and what happens to the body is then a random occurrence. And ...
Views: 1848 - Illness: Do Some People Believe That They Need To Be Ill In Order To Receive Attention? - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, it is believed that if someone gets ill it is not because they want to be ill. What this then means is that not one part of their being will want to experience life in this way. If someone wanted to prove that this is the case, they could put forward at least two reasons. Firstly, ...
Views: 902 - Image Obsessed: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Image Obsessed? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was asked what comes to mind when they think about social media, they might say ‘Selfies’. These are rarely pictures that people just take and then share; they are pictures that are usually altered so that they look right and after this has taken place, they are shared with their ...
Views: 1852 - Image-Obsessed: Can Someone Try To Look Perfect When They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman wanted to change her appearance in the past, she may have had a boob job. Nowadays, this is just one of a number of procedures that a woman can have to change how she looks. Plenty of Options If she isn’t happy with her weight, she could have fat removed, and this will mean ...
Views: 1052 - Imagination: Why Would Someone Have The Tendency To Imagine ‘Negative’ Scenarios? - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to observe their thoughts for a little while, they can find that they often think about bad things happening in the future. Consequently, they are likely to experience a fair amount of fear and anxiety. And, if they were to talk to a friend about what is going on for them, they ...
Views: 320 - Imposter Syndrome: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Feel Like An Imposter? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone may have attained a certain level of success, it doesn’t mean that they will feel comfortable with it. Based on how they often feel, it could be as if they have stolen this success from someone else. They could be doing well in their career and a number of other areas of ...
Views: 317 - Impostor: Why Do Some People Feel Like Impostors? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone has worked hard to achieve something, it doesn’t mean that they feel as though they deserve it. The ideal would be for someone to feel as though they are worthy, no matter what they accomplish. However, there are some people who are unable to accept their achievements. ...
Views: 1794 - Impulsive Behaviour: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be Impulsive? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, one thing that might end up standing out is that they have the tendency to act without thinking. As a result of this, they won’t think about the consequences that may arise if they do something; they will just take action. They ...
Views: 265 - Incremental Action: Is Incremental Action An Important Part Of Success? - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one comes across someone who is successful, it can be easy for them to come to the conclusion that they have always been this way. And this is partly because one is not going to be aware of what they had to go through to get to where they are. One could assume that this person has ...
Views: 1972 - Indecisive: Can Some People’s Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Indecisive? - by Submitted on May 04, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to moving forward in life, it is going to be important for someone to be able to make decisions. This doesn’t mean that this will allow them to always make the right decisions, but it will give them the chance to make the right ones. If, on the other hand, they didn’t make any ...
Views: 1693 - Independence: Is Independence An Illusion? - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is not uncommon for someone to describe themselves as ‘independent’. When they say this, they could say it as if they are talking about something that is a normal part of life, or they could say it with a sense of pride. Normal In the first case, one may have ...
Views: 1571 - Individuation: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Individuating? - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will be physically separate from others, it doesn’t mean that they will be emotionally separate from them. What this means is that they may find that their emotional state is typically defined by what is going on around them. Therefore, if they are in a relationship and their ...
Views: 598 - Individuation: Can Developmental Trauma Cause To Feel Comfortable Being An Extension Of Others? - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone acts as though they are an extension of others, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. Furthermore, even if they were to become aware of this, it doesn’t mean that they would be able to simply change their behaviour. Through being in this position, ...
Views: 397 - Individuation: Can Developmental Trauma Stop Someone From Being Able To Individuate? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperPhysically, someone will be separate from others, but that doesn’t mean that they will act as though they are separate from them. Instead, they could have the tendency to act like an extension of others. What this means is that they will typically be a follower as opposed to a leader and will ...
Views: 579 - Individuation: Can Someone Be Reactive When They Haven’t Individuated? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperUndoubtedly, if someone has the ability to not be caught up in what is going on around them, their life will be far better than it would be otherwise. They will be able to stay centred and to be the ‘calm in the storm’ so to speak. This will allow them to stay focused on what matters and to ...
Views: 581 - Individuation: Can Someone’s Life Be An Expression Of Their Caregivers Unresolved Issues? - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperOnce someone has left home, it could be said that they will be their own person. Undoubtedly, what they learnt during their time in their caregiver/s presence will have influenced who they are but now they will be free to express themselves. If they have trouble expressing themselves or ...
Views: 617 - Individuation: Is Individuation A Lifelong Process? - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is born, they will have a separate body but that will be as far as it will go. Not only will they be unable to see that they are separate from everyone and everything, they will also lack a sense of self. This is why it has been said that each human being needs to go through two ...
Views: 646 - Individuation: Is It Hard For Someone To Individuate If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and to look at their life, they may see that they have the tendency to please others. Therefore, instead of paying attention to their own needs and acting as an individual, they will act as though they are merely an extension of others. After having behaved ...
Views: 579 - Inferiority Complex: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Develop An Inferiority Complex? - by Submitted on May 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where they don’t feel capable and see themselves being less than others, it might not occur to them that this could be due to what took place whilst they were at school. There is even the chance that they are not consciously aware of this, with it being something that ...
Views: 456 - Inferiority Complex: Why Do Some People Have An Inferiority Complex? - by Submitted on May 22, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people on this planet who believe that they above others, there are also people who believe that they are below others. And this can be something that one is aware of or it could be an outlook that is outside of their awareness. However, regardless of whether one is ...
Views: 1781 - Inner Child: Can Inner Child Work Allow A Man To Embrace His Masculine Nature? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he finds it hard to assert himself, to take action and to handle his own emotions, there is the chance that he will want to find a way to change his life. This will show that part of him believes that his life can be different. Then again, how he experiences ...
Views: 593 - Inner Child: Can Our Inner Child Cause Inner Conflict? - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough one can have the desire to achieve something, it doesn’t mean that they are able to take the first step. Or if they do, they might not be able to keep going, and this is going to mean that they will only get so far. Now, if this only related to one area of their life it might not ...
Views: 1516 - Inner Child: Can Someone Feel Powerless When They Merge With Their Wounded Inner Child? - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there are people that generally feel strong and as though they have control over their life, there are others that don’t. Consequently, these people are likely to have a very different experience on this earth. Not only will their inner world be different, their outer world is also ...
Views: 809 - Inner Child: Can Someone Heal Their Inner Child Through Mourning Their Unmet Childhood Needs? - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one has mental and emotional challenges, or if they have relationship problems, they can end up looking for ways to work on their inner child. This is going to be a sign that they have come to the conclusion that their childhood is having an effect on their adult life. The reason they ...
Views: 1558 - Inner Child: Can Someone’s Inner Child Create Their Reality? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone’s life isn’t very fulfilling and they want this to change, they could end up looking for answers. After doing this, they could end up taking a closer look at what is going on in their mind and focus on their behaviour. At this point, they can believe that changing what is going on ...
Views: 553 - Inner Child: Can Someone’s Wounded Inner Child Cause Them To Keep People At A Distance? - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAfter many, many years of pain, one could find that they have the need to keep people at a distance. At this point, it will be clear that it is not other people; it will be the person who they see whenever they look in the mirror. But, although they will now understand that they are the ones ...
Views: 690 - Inner Child: Can Someone’s Wounded Inner Child Cause Them To Re-Create The Past? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a look at their life, they may see that there is at least one area that is frustrating them. This area won’t be going as they want it to go and it may have been this way for as long as they can remember. They may want to find someone who is emotionally available and ...
Views: 566 - Inner Child: Can Someone’s Wounded Inner Child Destroy Their Life? - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and to reflect on their life, they may find that there are a number of areas of their life that are not how they want them to be. For example, they may find that most of their relationships are not very functional and they might not have been able to make much ...
Views: 557 - Inner Child: Can Someone’s Wounded Inner Child Stop Them From Being Able To Embrace Life? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to be able to fully show up and to embrace the life that they have been given, they will need to have a good connection with their emotional self. This part of them will provide them with the ability to take life in and, of course, to feel things. Further, it will give ...
Views: 523 - Inner Child: Can Someone’s Wounded Inner Child Stop Them From Being Able To Move Forward? - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone may want to move forward, they may find that it is not possible for them to do so. Quite simply, there will be where they are and there will be where they want to be. If they were to look back on their life, they may find that is has been this way for as long as they can ...
Views: 534 - Inner Child: Can Someone’s Wounded Inner Child Take Away Their Desire To Be Alive? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there are those that are full of life and embrace the life that they have been given, there are that aren’t and are unable to so. However, this is not to say that the former will always be on the top of the world or the latter will always be down in the dumps. What it does mean is ...
Views: 711 - Inner Child: Does Our Inner Child Control How We Feel? - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperFor people who are into self development, the term ‘inner child’ could be something they are familiar with. And not only could they be familiar with this term, but they might also feel comfortable with it. When it comes to people who are not into self development, the whole thing could sound ...
Views: 1924 - Inner Child: Does Someone Need To Develop Their Adult Self In Order To Heal Their Inner Child? - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone might not be aware of their inner child, it doesn’t mean that it won’t be having an effect on their life. Their inner child, or their inner children to be more precise as there is more than one child, can be causing them all kinds of problems. And if one is aware of the term ...
Views: 868 - Inner Child: Your Inner Child Can Heal You - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the ways that someone can change their behaviour, what is taking place within them, and their relationships, is to heal their inner child. Or to be more precise; to heal the inner children that are within them. What this comes down to is that although many, many years may have passed ...
Views: 1149 - Inner Conflict: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Experience A Lot Of Inner Conflict? - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperNaturally, if someone is carrying a deeply wounded infant inside them, it is going to be a challenge for them to fulfil their adult needs. In a lot of cases, this part of them is going to stop them from having what they truly desire. However, although this is what will be taking place, they ...
Views: 370 - Inner Conflict: Can Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Experience Inner Conflict? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one knows exactly what they want to achieve or to experience, there will be clarity. And as result of this, one will be able to take the steps that they need to take to make their goal a reality. This doesn’t mean that it will be a straight forward process though; as there are likely to ...
Views: 1671 - Inner Conflict: Can Someone’s Split-Off Parts Cause Them To Experience Inner Conflict? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThe ideal would be for someone to get a clear idea about what they want to achieve and then to go about achieving it, without there being anything within them that would hold them back. After all, they will have enough to deal with externally without there being anything internally to ...
Views: 809 - Inner Conflict: Can The False Self Cause Someone To Experience Inner Conflict? - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone could find is that they are often in a position where part of them has the need to do one thing whilst another part of them has the need to do something else. Naturally, this is going to cause them to experience a lot of unnecessary stress and confusion. Not only this, they could ...
Views: 359 - Inner Conflict: Can The Need To Be Loyal Cause Someone To Experience Inner Conflict? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one wanted to go somewhere and they were going to go there by foot, it is going to be important for them to walk forward. Through doing this, it is only going to be a matter of time before they reach their destination. Now, if one was to take a few steps forward and then to take a few ...
Views: 1449 - Inner Conflict: Can Toxic Shame Cause Inner Conflict? - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one wanted to go on holiday somewhere and they had to save a certain amount of money in order to go, it would be important for them to keep their spending down until they have saved the amount they need. It could be said that this is common sense, and while there is no denying this, it ...
Views: 1414 - Inner Conflict: Can Trapped Grief Create Inner Conflict? - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who experience inner conflict from time to time, there are others who experience it far more often. As a result of this, they could find that it is a challenge for them to move forward in life. Whereas if one experienced this from time to time, they may find that ...
Views: 1548 - Inner Conflict: Is Inner Conflict Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on May 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is free from inner conflict, they are going to be able to experience inner peace. Not only this, but they will also experience a sense of clarity and this is going to make their life a lot easier. One could find that it is relatively easy for them to make decisions and for them to ...
Views: 2051 - Inner Critic: Can Someone Have A Critical Inner Voice If They Had A Critical Parent? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was able to record how they talk to themselves and then play it back through speakers, they could find that they are typically not very kind to themselves. By having externalised what is going on for them internally, it will have been easier for them to see what is going ...
Views: 309 - Inner Critic: Can Someone’s Unmet Developmental Need To Be Loved Fuel Their Critical Inner Voice? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone’s inner world was a climate, it might be somewhere that is typically extremely cold. The reason for this is that they might rarely talk to themselves in a kind manner and they could often experience ‘negative’ feelings. Therefore, when they do have moments when they talk to ...
Views: 263 - Inner Darkness: Can Someone Carry A Lot Of Darkness If They Have The Need To Be Positive All The Time? - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to self-development, a lot is often said about the importance of being positive. The impact that this will have on how someone feels, their relationships and their ability to attain what they desire is typically mentioned. With this in mind, if someone is into self-development, ...
Views: 302 - Inner Darkness: Can Someone Run Away From Their Own Inner Darkness? - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that planet earth is the plane of duality and this can be noticed by the fact that there are usually two parts to everything. For example, there is hot and cold, up and down, and fast and slow. There is also “good” and “bad” in the world, and, just as these two things exist ...
Views: 353 - Inner Enemy: Can Someone Have An Inner Enemy If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperJust as a group of individuals will be able to make more progress when they work together, someone will also be able to make more progress when they are able to work with themselves. Of course, unlike a group of people, they are one person but they will be made up of many different parts. As ...
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