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- Father Wounds: Can A Man Unconsciously Search For A Father Figure If His Father Was Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperThrough getting to the stage of his life where he is now a man, it could be said that he won’t need all of the same things that he needed as a child. To put it another way, he will have grown out of certain needs that he had. To focus solely on the needs that he would have primarily had in ...
Views: 460 - Father Wounds: Can A Mans Masculinity Be Knocked Out Of Him If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man could see, if he was to take a step back and to reflect on his life, is that he finds it hard to get things done and is often passive. Along with being this way, he could find that he spends a lot of time feeling depressed. So, instead of being able to ‘take life by the horns’, so ...
Views: 376 - Father Wounds: Can A Mother Use Her Sons Father To Emasculate Him? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in touch with his power, he will be able to be assertive, take action, and to stand up for himself. This will show that he has a strong connection with his body as this is where his power will be found. Of course, his mind will provide him with a certain level of power but the ...
Views: 312 - Father Wounds: Can A Woman Be Attracted To Men Who Are Unavailable If She Had An Unavailable Father? - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a woman may find, if she was to take a step back and reflect on her life, is that she continually attracts men who are not available. This could be something that has taken place for as long as she can remember. At this point in time, she could have had enough of experiencing life in ...
Views: 275 - Father Wounds: Can A Woman Hate Men If She Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman hates men, this can be something that is very much part of her personality or it might not be. When it comes to the former, she could spend a lot of time thinking about how bad men are and having numerous conversations with other women about it. This could go even further, though, ...
Views: 289 - Father Wounds: Can A Woman Have A Strong Need To Be Protected If She Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, a woman may have been with a number of men who were abusive. However, although she would have felt deeply unsafe around them as time passed, she probably felt radically different around them at the beginning. If this is the case, she would have felt safe when she was first ...
Views: 277 - Father Wounds: Can A Woman’s Unmet Development Needs Stop Her From Being Able To See A Man Clearly? - by Submitted on Feb 29, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a woman meets a man who she is attracted to and takes things further with him, she is likely to have a positive view of him. For example, she can see him as a man who is loving, kind, and protective. Due to this, when she thinks about him and is with him, she can feel loved, valued, ...
Views: 312 - Father Wounds: Can Fathers Day Be Hard For Someone If They Had An Unavailable Father? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, Fathers Day is a day when they will show their gratitude to their father for all the things that he did for them when they were a child and continues to do for them now that they are adults. When someone is in this position, this is then going to be a day of celebration and ...
Views: 297 - Father Wounds: Can Man Associate Self-Assertion With Death If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperA man may find that it is difficult for him to stand his ground and to stop others from walking over him. Then again, he might not even get to this point and could simply allow other people to cross his boundaries. Once this has taken place, he could end up feeling deeply frustrated and fed ...
Views: 383 - Father Wounds: Can Man Be Disconnected From His Body If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperDuring a man’s childhood years, he may have had a father who was physically abusive. If this was the case, this would have been a time when he was regularly harmed by someone who was supposed to do the opposite - protect him. Therefore, instead of being able to feel safe and secure in his own ...
Views: 381 - Father Wounds: Can Man Fear His Own Aggression If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on May 06, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperOne way for a man to view his aggression would be to see it as both a source of fuel and as something that will keep him alive. This means that, inherently, this part of him is not bad or “negative”. This doesn’t mean that this part of him can’t be used in a destructive manner. The key will ...
Views: 333 - Father Wounds: Can Man Have The Need To Be Rescued If His Father Was Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man will be an adult, it doesn’t mean that he will typically feel strong and capable. Instead, he could typically feel weak and incapable, which is likely to mean that his life will often be too much for him to handle. In general, it could be as though his circumstances are ...
Views: 317 - Father Wounds: Did A Father’s Depriving Childhood Stop Him From Being Able To Protect His Son? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man’s childhood is well and truly over, it doesn’t mean that he will generally feel like a strong and capable adult. Instead, he can generally feel low and be full of doubt, and be anxious and fearful. If he is consciously aware of what is going on, he could believe that he is this ...
Views: 275 - Father Wounds: Did A Man’s Abusive Father Have A Fear Of Being Abandoned? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperDuring a man’s developmental years, he may have not only had a mother who was abusive, but his father may have also been abusive. In this case, both of his parents would have played a part in undermining him. A stage of his life, then, when he needed his mother's and father's love would have ...
Views: 323 - Father Wounds: Does A Man Need To Heal His Father Wounds In Order To Embrace His Masculinity? - by Submitted on May 11, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is very much estranged from his masculinity, he might not wonder if this is due to the issues that he has with his own father. In fact, he might not even be aware that he is out of touch with this side of his nature. It could seem strange that he wouldn’t be aware of this but this ...
Views: 351 - Father Wounds: What Can A Man Believe If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to think about his early years, he might end up thinking about some of the good moments that he shared with his father. Then again, this could be a time when he will remember moments that were far from good. What this may illustrate is that, during this phase of his life, he had ...
Views: 590 - Father Wounds: What Can Happen If A Man Had A Physically Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some men who grew up with a father who did what he could to protect them and to provide them with a sense of safety and security, there are others who had a radically different father. As a result, this would have been someone who they didn’t feel safe around and perhaps did ...
Views: 610 - Father Wounds: Why Would A Man Believe That He Is Being Controlled By The Matrix? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man believes that both he and others are being controlled by something ‘out there’, he is unlikely to be short of support. In his eyes, then, there could be a group of people who operate behind the scenes who are controlling most of humanity. This could just be something that he shares ...
Views: 297 - Father Wounds: Will A Man Come Into Contact With Men That Remind Him Of His Father? - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was asked what his father was like when he was growing up, he could end up coming out with a number of different things. One thing that he could say is that he was a solid guy; another thing that he could say was that he was a waste of space. Then again, he could say that he didn’t ...
Views: 945 - Father Wounds: Will A Woman Come Into Contact With Men That Remind Her Of Her Father? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman was to talk about what her father was like when she was growing up, she may say that he was very loving and supportive or she could say the complete opposite. Having said that, she may say something in between; saying something that is neither positive nor negative. However, as she ...
Views: 886 - Father Wounds: Would An Emasculated Father Emasculate His Son? - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was brought up by a father who was physically and verbally abusive, he might not be in a good way now that he is an adult. In fact, he could be in a very bad way and each day could be a challenge. However, if he is in a bad way, it doesn’t mean that he will realise why he is this ...
Views: 616 - Father-Enmeshed Women: Can A Father-Enmeshed Woman Sabotage Her Relationships? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman is in a relationship, it might not be long before it comes to an end. Now, this might not be because she is with a man who is not right for her or is treating her badly; no, it can be because of what her father thinks of the man that she is with. So, when she is with her father, he ...
Views: 128 - Father-Enmeshed Women: What Is A Father-Enmeshed Woman? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIt might not matter if a woman is at work, has finished work or is on holiday, as her father might often contact her. Now, if he does ask her how she is doing, he could soon talk about his own problems. Then again, he might rarely ask her how she is doing and could typically talk about his ...
Views: 189 - Father-Enmeshed Women: Why Would A Father-Enmeshed Woman Find It Hard To Implement Boundaries With Her Father? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman were to step back and reflect on her life, she may find that she spends a lot of time being there for her father and offering her support. She might see that she has been there for him for as long as she can remember. However, what might now stand out is that although she loves her ...
Views: 220 - Fathers: Does A Father Play An Important Role In A Child's Development? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been widely reported that a lot of children are now growing up without a father, and this is in addition to the adults who also grew up without one. There are, of course, a number of reasons as to why this is the case. Firstly, moral decay has led to an increase in hedonism, which has ...
Views: 1043 - Fear Of Abandonment: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Have A Fear Of Being Abandoned? - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone can have a fear of being left, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. Even so, this can still be a fear that will have a massive impact on their life. So, from outside of their couscous awareness, this fear is likely to define how they generally behave. ...
Views: 308 - Fear Of Death: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Have A Fear Of Death? - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a woman comes to see that she has ended up with a man who is overly preoccupied with his mother and is neglecting his own needs, it is to be expected that she would want him to change. Not only will the above be taking place but she will also be being neglected. Consequently, she will ...
Views: 595 - Fear Of Death: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Fear That They Will Die? - by Submitted on May 24, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone can have a strong fear that they are going to die, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. Now, of course, everyone on this planet is going to die at some point. But, there is a big difference between this simply being a part of life and it being ...
Views: 353 - Fear Of Failure: Can Toxic Shame Cause The Fear Of Failure? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone has the desire to do something, it doesn’t mean they will take action. Instead of doing what they need to do to fulfil their desire, they might end up doing nothing. In this case, it is not going to be possible for one to move forward; they are going to stay where they ...
Views: 1986 - Fear of Loss: Can Trapped Grief Cause Someone To Have A Fear of Loss? - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that there are a number of things in life that one can’t avoid and experiencing loss is one of those things. No matter what one looks like, where they are from, or what their gender is, for instance, it is not going to be possible for them to avoid this experience. However, ...
Views: 1586 - Fear: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Fear What Has Already Happened? - by Submitted on May 03, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperNow, if someone was to take a step back and reflect on what they fear, they may find that a number of things enter their mind. They could find that they have a fear of being abandoned and rejected. Alternatively, they could see that they have a fear of being harmed and their life coming to an ...
Views: 491 - Fear: Can Someone Be Very Fearful If They Had A Traumatic Childhood? - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone can be very fearful, it doesn’t mean that this is something that they will be consciously aware of. Even so, through being this way, they won’t truly be able to embrace life. They can live somewhere that is relatively safe and be free to live their life, but this won’t ...
Views: 396 - Fear: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Experience Too Much Fear? - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that while some people in the world are controlled by fear, there are others who aren’t. Consequently, these people are likely to live lives that are radically different. Therefore, although these people will live on the same planet, it will be as though they live on two ...
Views: 936 - Fear: Do We Fear What Has Already Happened? - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what someone fears as an adult, it might not seem as though it has got anything to do with their early years. In fact, one might struggle to remember most of what took place during their early years. Consequently, when it comes to what they fear, it could seem as though these ...
Views: 581 - Fear: Is Fear All In The Mind? - by Submitted on May 03, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that human beings can allow their life to be defined by love or fear, and while one is often seen as destructive and the other is often seen as constructive, they both have a purpose. However, problems will arise when someone allows their life to be defined by fear. Another ...
Views: 1785 - Fear: What Can Someone Fear If They Had A Traumatic Childhood? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone’s early years were brutal, to say the least, it is not going to be a surprise if they are in a bad way now that they are an adult. This could mean that they find it hard to function or they might be able to keep it all together. Either way, living in this way can be what is normal, ...
Views: 589 - Feeling Good: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Feeling Good? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere is something that just about everyone wants, and that is to feel good. It plays a big part in what someone does and doesn’t do. This can relate to one feeling emotionally centred and at ease internally and/or through having a heightened sense of wellbeing because of what is taking place ...
Views: 1899 - Feeling Hopeless Can Be A Good Thing! - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone feels hopeless, it can cause them to feel down and as though they have no control. And, unless something changes, they could end up feeling even worse - sinking even further down into themselves. It can then seem as though there is no way out, and they may come to believe that the ...
Views: 1068 - Feeling Safe: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Feeling Safe In Their Body? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough each one of us has a body, it doesn’t mean that everyone feels that it is safe to be in their body. It might even sound confusing as to how this could be; especially as one’s body is a big part of who they are. Instead of one being in their body, what they can end up doing is living ...
Views: 1992 - Feeling Safe: Does Someone Need To Feel Safe In Order To Stay In Their Body? - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in touch with their body, they will be aware of how they feel and what their needs are. Through having this connection, they will be able to make use of the information that is inside them. So, if they feel tired or as though they are not at their best, they will be able to ...
Views: 927 - Feelings: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Feelings? - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAfter getting to the point where they can no longer continue to live in the same way, someone could take a step back and reflect on their life. During this time, they could come to the conclusion that their life is not in alignment with who they are. This is not to say that there won’t be ...
Views: 409 - Feelings: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Hide Their Feelings? - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to hide how they really feel. As a result of this, the people in their life are unlikely to be aware of what is truly going on for them. However, due to how good they are at hiding how they feel, there can be no reason for these people to realise this. There ...
Views: 364 - Feelings: Can Someone Believe That Their Feelings Are Not Important If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperHaving feelings is part of the human experience but that doesn’t mean that someone will have a good relationship with their own. What can be normal is for them to be out of touch with how they feel. This part of them is there to provide them with guidance. Consequently, they are typically not ...
Views: 307 - Feelings: Do Our Feelings Always Reflect Reality? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to watch a film that had no colour or sound, it is not going to be the same as a film that has colour and sound. It is unlikely to be as engaging or as entertaining, and one might soon lose interest and turn it off or walk away from what they’re watching. And the same could be ...
Views: 1889 - Feelings: Do Our Feelings Create Our Reality? - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is widely believed that the thoughts that one has create their reality. And this outlook is supported by numerous people in the self help industry. Thoughts then end up being the primary point of focus; when it comes to one attracting what they want in life and repelling what they don’t ...
Views: 1922 - Feelings: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Lose Touch With Their Feelings? - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough human beings are feeling beings who think as opposed to thinking beings who feel, this is not something that is widely recognised. In general, it’s as if human beings are primarily thinking beings that also have feelings. So, in the same way that the tip of the iceberg is the ...
Views: 878 - Feelings: Does The Fear Of Abandonment Stop You From Showing Your Feelings? - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone experiences something, there is likely to be what is going on in their mind and what is occurring in their body. And if one is unable to experience both sides, it might make it harder for them embrace what is taking place and it may cause them to come across as being out of ...
Views: 1743 - Feelings: Why Are Some People Out Of Touch With Their Feelings? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough feelings can be overlooked and seen as being unimportant, they are a vital part of who we are. They allow us to know what we need and want in each moment of our life, amongst other things. When someone is unaware of how they are feeling, they are disconnected from themselves. ...
Views: 6754 - Feelings: Why Do Some People Believe That Their Feelings Are Not Important? - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperPart of being human means that one has feelings and these are an important part of who they are. And when one is in tune with how they feel, their life is going to be radically different to how it would be if they were unaware of how they felt. Ones feelings not only connect them to ...
Views: 2472 - Female Celebrities: Are Female Celebrities Good Role Models For Women? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to ideas on how to act and in what one should or shouldn’t wear, celebrities play a pivotal role. And this applies to both men and women; neither gender is exempt from their influence. Their influence will be stronger for some people than it is for others and this can depend on ...
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