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- Self-Knowledge: Why Do Some People Have The Tendency To Demonise Others? - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to watch an old black and white film, they could describe it as being a bit one-dimensional. There will be two colours, black and white, and there will even be some grey, but that will be it. After this, they could end up watching a film that has recently been released, with it ...
Views: 772 - Receiving: Why Do Some People Feel Guilty When They Receive? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, there is receiving, and, on the other, there is giving. Now, although it would be easy to say that each of these elements is as important as each other, this is not the case. One of these things is more important than the other and this is because if one of them doesn’t take ...
Views: 844 - Healing Journey: What Are The Signs Of Growth On The Healing Journey? - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, their early years were a time when they received what they needed to receive in order to become a resilient, integrated and secure adult. Thanks to what took place during this stage of their life, their adult years may be pretty ‘normal’. So, they could have gone through the ...
Views: 770 - Toxic Shame: What Are The Different Levels Of Toxic Shame? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to shame, it could be said that there is normal, or healthy, shame, and then there is abnormal, or unhealthy, shame. Another way of looking at this would be to say there is shame and there is toxic shame. What this means is that shame is not bad per se; it is simply part of the ...
Views: 666 - Child Abuse: Can Someone’s Need To Protect Their Parents Stop Them From Being Able To Heal From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone had a harrowing experience as a child, the best thing will be for them to reach out for support now that they are adult. At the same time, it could seem as though what they went through as a child is all in the past, so there is no need for them to worry about what ...
Views: 737 - True-Self: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Believe That They Will Die If They Reveal Their True-Self? - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone could find, that’s if they were able to take a step back and to reflect on their life, is that they are typically out of touch with most of their needs and feelings. Thus, instead of paying attention to what is taking place within them and allowing this information to play a big ...
Views: 805 - Individuation: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Individuating? - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will be physically separate from others, it doesn’t mean that they will be emotionally separate from them. What this means is that they may find that their emotional state is typically defined by what is going on around them. Therefore, if they are in a relationship and their ...
Views: 598 - Being Seen: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Have A Fear Of Being Seen? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and to reflect on how they behave around others, they could find that they have the tendency to lose themselves and to be who other people want them to be. It could be as though a button has been pressed, causing their behaviour to completely change. As a ...
Views: 695 - Critical Thinking: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be Drawn To Conspiracy Theories? - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are those that more or less believe everything they hear from the mainstream media and the authority figures that are in the public eye, and then there are those that are the complete opposite. The former can view the latter as being ‘conspiracy theorists’, while the latter can view the ...
Views: 731 - Child Abuse: What Can Someone Believe If They Were Physically Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was physically abused as a child, there is the chance that this is not something that will ever cross their mind now that they are an adult. They may remember certain parts of their childhood, or it could be one big blur. It could seem strange as to how something so traumatic could ...
Views: 748 - Relationships: Are There Four People In Every Relationship? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people out there that are in an open relationship and then there are people out there that aren’t. When it comes to a relationship that is monogamous, it could be said that there will only be two people involved. Unlike the other type of relationship, each person will only need to ...
Views: 726 - Relationships: Does Someone Need To Emotionally Separate From Their Caregivers To Be Emotionally Available? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIt is one thing for someone to be in a relationship and it is another thing altogether for their emotional self to also be involved. The former involves one being with another person, the latter involves them opening up and actually being emotionally connected to them. Taking this into ...
Views: 664 - Word Association Can Allow You To Access Your Unconscious Mind - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, it has been well documented that human beings have both a conscious and an unconscious mind. One way to get an idea of the difference would be to see the former as the tip of the iceberg and the latter as the part of the iceberg that can’t be seen. Another way of looking at ...
Views: 758 - Inner Child: Can Someone’s Wounded Inner Child Take Away Their Desire To Be Alive? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there are those that are full of life and embrace the life that they have been given, there are that aren’t and are unable to so. However, this is not to say that the former will always be on the top of the world or the latter will always be down in the dumps. What it does mean is ...
Views: 711 - False-Self: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Create A False-Self? - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIn an ideal world perhaps, every adults early years would have been a time when they were given what they needed to develop in the right and were prepared for the real world. This would mean that their caregivers did what they were supposed to do. Their caregivers wouldn’t have seen them as ...
Views: 768 - Toxic Shame: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Ashamed Of Things That Are Part Of Being Human? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperToxic Shame: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Ashamed Of Things That Are Part Of Being Human? 19/7/20200 Comments If someone was to incarnate as a bird, there would be certain things that would be part of their experience. The only way that they would change this is by denying ...
Views: 768 - Suffering In Silence: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Stop Them From Reaching Out For Support? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperInner and outer problems could be seen as being part of the human experience; it is not possible to avoid them. This doesn’t mean that living in a certain way won’t minimize the chances that someone will have inner and outer problems. But, no matter what someone does, they are not going to ...
Views: 596 - Being Seen: Can Childhood Trauma Set Someone Up To Believe That They Need To Hide Themselves? - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, it will be hard for them to accept that someone would be able to hide themselves when they are around others. In their eyes, this will be seen as something that could only take place if they were away from others. Here, someone would be away from others and this would prevent ...
Views: 663 - Self-Worth: Can It Be Hard For Someone To Just Be If They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to self-worth, this could be seen as something that is an inherent part of someone. Unlike self-esteem, then, it is not something that is defined by how other people respond to them. Taking this into account, the former is what will allow someone to feel good about themselves ...
Views: 660 - Self-Awareness: Does the Ego-Mind Make It Hard For Someone To Face Their Inner Wounds? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that are part of the human experience, and having inner wounds is one of them. It doesn’t matter how good someone’s early years were or how good their adult years have been, they will have baggage. Nonetheless, although having inner wounds is part of the human ...
Views: 683 - Disconnected: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Body? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIt might be hard for someone to comprehend how another person could be out of touch with their body and live on the surface of themselves. As far as they are concerned, this could be seen as something that is not possible. They could think that as their body is connected to them, there is no ...
Views: 791 - Letting Go Off Self-Hate Doesn’t Happen Overnight - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone may hate themselves, it doesn’t mean that they will actually realise this. What this means is that this will be something that is just outside of their conscious awareness. However, not being aware of this won’t mean that their life won’t be affected by what is taking ...
Views: 721 - Why Do We Behave In Ways That Harm Us? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhat you may find is that you often behave in ways that don’t benefit you and even harm you. Further, you may find that you there are people in your life who behave in the same way, holding themselves back in the process. After you have behaved in a way that doesn’t benefit you, you may ...
Views: 703 - Ceremonial Grade Cacao Is Powerful - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAround ten years ago, I would add something called cacao to some of the drinks that I would make. This was a time when I would usually have an oat and milk smoothie for my breakfast and adding cacao would give me a break from the usual taste. The years went by and I stopped having this ...
Views: 872 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Set Someone Up To Believe That They Don’t Deserve To Exist? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThe very fact that someone is on this planet – has incarnated – could be put forward as evidence that they deserve to exist. But, although this is so, someone could still believe that they don’t deserve to be here. Through having this belief, it won’t be possible for them to see that they ...
Views: 609 - Developing Self-Belief Doesn't Happen Overnight - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where they lack self-belief, they may look into what they can do to develop it. Then again, they could merely put up with what is taking place and do their best to carry on as normal. The reason for this is that they may believe that there is nothing that they can ...
Views: 808 - Individuation: Is Individuation A Lifelong Process? - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is born, they will have a separate body but that will be as far as it will go. Not only will they be unable to see that they are separate from everyone and everything, they will also lack a sense of self. This is why it has been said that each human being needs to go through two ...
Views: 646 - Critical Thinking: Is It A Surprise That Those Who Are Against Hate Are Often Full Of Hate? - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of feelings that can cause someone to engage in behaviour that is destructive. Rage is one of those feelings as is hate, with these being feelings that can be completely overpowering. Therefore, due to what can take place when someone is experiencing one of these feelings, ...
Views: 574 - Nihilism: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Nihilistic? - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about what someone would be like if they are nihilistic, the main thing that could come to mind is that this person will believe that life has no meaning and nothing matters. They are then not going to be full of life and they might be happy to destroy things. Through ...
Views: 671 - Critical Thinking: Does The Establishment Want People To Have A Victim/Perpetrator Consciousness? - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are numerous ways in which someone can perceive life and while some of these ways will be empowering, others will be disempowering. Ergo, if someone believes that the world is a safe place overall and that people are generally kind, they are likely to experience life in a certain ...
Views: 675 - Toxic Shame: What Can Happen If Someone Disconnects From Their Toxic Shame? - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are feelings that can be seen as being ‘positive’ and then there are feelings that can be seen as being ‘negative’. When it comes to how a feeling is perceived, it is likely to depend on the impact that it has on someone’s mood. If a feeling causes one to feel good, it can be seen in a ...
Views: 699 - Happiness: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Guilty For Being Happy? - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone can have the need to be happy, it doesn’t mean that they will feel comfortable being happy. Consequently, they can end up doing just about everything that they can to make sure that they are never happy. Still, while they will be sabotaging their own happiness, it doesn’t ...
Views: 674 - Personal Power: Does Someone Need To Feel Safe In Order To Embrace Their Personal Power? - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in touch with and is able to express their personal power, there will be no need for them to control others. They will have control over themselves and their own life, which will take away their desire to infringe on another person’s boundaries. Through being this way, they ...
Views: 643 - Critical Thinking: Is It Easier For 'Intelligent' People To Avoid Their Own Inner Wounds? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIn addition to having a physical body, human beings also have a number of other bodies. There is what could be classed as an emotional body, mental body and at least one other body that can’t be perceived by the five senses. Now, although each person on this planet has a number of different ...
Views: 635 - Self-Sabotage: Can Someone Sabotage Their Life If They Are Carrying Self-Hate? - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperNow, even though someone can want to achieve something or to improve their life in general, it doesn’t mean that they won’t hold themselves back. But, while they can hold themselves back, this can be something that they are not even aware of. Consequently, what is going on externally will be ...
Views: 644 - “What You Resist, Persists” - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperA number of years ago, I heard the saying, ‘what you resist, persists’. When I first heard it stood out but it didn’t really mean much, but as time has gone by and my understanding of it has changed, it has gradually come to mean a lot. Anyway, a few days ago I came across this quote whilst I ...
Views: 880 - "The Reason For Evil In The World Is That People Are Not Able To Tell Their Stories" - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I heard the quote above by Carl Jung, I had a clear idea about what he was talking about. My interpretation of what he said is that unless someone is able to talk about what they have been through, they will end up harming others. This is not to say that they will end up killing millions ...
Views: 775 - “Shame Is A Soul Eating Emotion” - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhile I was looking through some of Carl Jung quotes, one that stood out was ‘“Shame Is A Soul Eating Emotion”. When I saw this, it reminded me of something that I said about toxic shame a number of years ago. In at least two articles, I said that in the same way that acid destroys things, ...
Views: 927 - “Neurosis Is Always A Substitute For Legitimate Suffering” - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to hear the term ‘legitimate suffering’, it might not make any sense to them. But, if they were to hear the word ‘neurosis’, they might have a rough idea about what it means. This could be seen as a normal part of living in a society that encourages the avoidance of pain and ...
Views: 1071 - “People Will Do Anything, No Matter How Absurd, To Avoid Facing Their Own Souls” - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperA number of weeks ago I watched “A Dangerous Method” and this was about a stage of Carl Jung’s life. Watching this film gave me the urge to find out more about him and since that time, a number of his quotes have caught my attention. One that has stood out is, “People will do anything, no ...
Views: 856 - Fight Instinct: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Lose Touch With Their Fight Instinct? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf the word ‘aggression’ is mentioned, it is usually an indication that someone has behaved in an aggressive manner. It could also show that someone is an aggressive person, with them having the tendency to behave in a destructive way. But, although it would be easy to see aggression as ...
Views: 722 - Disembodied: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Live On The Surface Of Themselves? - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFrom the outside, someone can look whole, but that doesn’t mean that they are actually whole on the inside. This is not to say that they will be missing certain organs; it means that they might not be an integrated human being. If another person was to get to know them, they may soon realise ...
Views: 604 - Critical Thinking: Is The George Floyd Situation An Example Of How The Elite Manipulate The Masses? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone doesn’t pay much attention to what is taking place in the mainstream media, they are likely to have a heard that a black man in America was killed by a white policeman and be aware of the protests that have ensued. These are protests have taken place throughout America and in ...
Views: 668 - Child Abuse: Why Do Abusive Parents Deny What Happened? - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone was as abused as a child, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this now that they are an adult. This can primarily be the result of the defences that their mind has in place. To handle what took place during their early years, so that their life didn’t come to an end, ...
Views: 1151 - Child Abuse: What Expectations Can Someone Have If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused and/or neglected as a child, it doesn’t mean that their suffering will be over now that they are an adult. The reason for this is that while what took place will be over, what took place during this period of their life may have had a massive impact on them. Many years ...
Views: 740 - Needs: Why Do Some People Believe That They Will Be Rejected If They Reveal Their Needs? - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperHaving needs is part of the human experience but that doesn’t mean that everyone on this planet feels comfortable with their needs. If someone does, their life is likely to be far more fulfilling than it would be otherwise. Through being this way, it will be possible for all of them to show ...
Views: 527 - Do You Find It Hard to Handle Setbacks? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf you were to look back on your life, you may find that it hasn’t been easy for you to handle setbacks. It might not matter if it has related to a big or a small setback, as you could have a very similar experience. At the same time, perhaps you have just experienced a setback and don’t need ...
Views: 740 - Critical Thinking: Does The Western World Have Borderline Personality Disorder? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to spend a certain amount of time in the company of people who have a borderline personality disorder, they are likely to end up with a fairly good understanding of what this disorder is all about. But, while this is likely to be a time in their life that is extremely informative, it ...
Views: 703 - Critical Thinking: Has Childhood Trauma Played A Part In The Riots That Are Taking Place? - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFor a number of weeks now, a lot of coverage has been given to what is taking place in America. This is somewhere where some people have been protesting, whilst others have been destroying property. But, although both of these things have been taking place, it doesn’t mean that every media ...
Views: 607 - Child Abuse: Does Someone Need To Forgive Themselves If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone may see that they were abused as a child, it doesn’t mean that this is something they have realised for very long. If they have been aware of this for a little while, it doesn’t mean that they were very young when this became clear. The main reason as to why it would have ...
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