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- Dr. Romance: Spouse's Child - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2013 from Tina TessinaInfidelity: 3 Tips on Finances after your Spouse's Girlfriend Has a Child It’s not the first thing everyone thinks of, but the existence of an out-of-wedlock child will have a big economic impact, and the financial responsibility will grow with the child. 1. Unless you can settle with ...
Views: 1513(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What behavior does a control freak have? - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I recently read "Could He/She be a Control Freak?" and I suddenly found information that seemed to pertain to a failed marriage that I was still pondering about. I am wondering, if a person had a chaotic childhood ...
Views: 1512(1 vote) - Four Steps to Success - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2014 from Tina TessinaIn my private counseling practice, clients often tell me, “I want to be happy!” We then set about making it a reality. As a psychotherapist, I know that Your habits, your relationships, your environment, and especially what you think about them determine more about how happy you are ...
Views: 1511(2 votes) - Coping with Critics - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2014 from Tina TessinaNo one likes to be criticized, fairly or not. It’s always difficult to deal with, and it can hurt. Because I’m a writer of books and columns, and because I’ve lectured, appeared on radio and TV, I am sometimes recognized in public. I’m glad I’m not more ...
Views: 1508(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: How can I let go of a toxic relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I wonder if you have an article that you've written that you can point me too on how to let go of a toxic relationship. I've been involved for 7 months with a man who is continually evasive, avoidant-attachment, manipulative and I need to figure out ...
Views: 1508 - Dr. Romance on: 11 things people won't tell you about divorce - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2014 from Tina TessinaThere's a lot of misinformation about divorce, and Dr. Romance would like to clear up some of the confusion. Here are 11 things people will not tell you about divorce. 1. Divorce will not make you happier, unless you’re leaving an abusive relationship.2. Divorce sometimes seems ...
Views: 1507(3 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm a single father of a 6 year old daughter - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I hope you don't mind me writing you but I came across an article that you said: "The best interest of the child also could preclude a mom from gaining custody," says Dr. Tessina. "If a judge doesn't deem that the mother meets the ...
Views: 1506 - Dear Dr. Romance: What is the right love to last a lifetime? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am writing this letter to you because I really want to know what is the right love to last a lifetime? I am frustrated right now. How couples especially married, last love into lifetime? I am in love with someone, but I don't know if that person feels the ...
Views: 1506(1 vote) - The One Who Got Away - by Submitted on May 04, 2013 from Tina TessinaWhen I was a girl, growing up in the small township of Rockland, New York, there was a tiny post office, which was a small room with a separate entry in the house next door. Rockland’s official postmistress was Clara Weiss, who seemed very elderly even when I was a very small child. She was what ...
Views: 1506(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: she is in denial and wants to escape the pain - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My best girlfriend ever and I dated for about eight months, then had a long distance relationship when she went back to her home country. She just broke up with me over email and she is dating someone from her home city for the last month. I thought we were ...
Views: 1505(1 vote) - The Fine Art of “Squirrel Hunting” - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2014 from Tina TessinaThe most frequent problem I hear from single clients is that of how and where to search for a partner. Many of them have been searching for a long time, without success; others have been afraid to go out and search at all. Most of the horror stories you have heard about dating occur when ...
Views: 1505 - Are You CEO Of Your Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2013 from Tina TessinaIf You're Fighting About Money, Read These Five Tips In our society, money represents power, success, and often even your value as a person. We say (misquoting the Bible,) “Money is the root of all evil," or “money is power;” or “he who has the gold, makes the rules.” We consider it ...
Views: 1504(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why is my ex still calling me? - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was dating this guy for about 2 years. During the time that we were together we had some good times and bad. For one he was cheating on me with another girl then we got back together. During that time we worked hard to make the relationship work then I found out that ...
Views: 1504(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: he can't forgive me because I did it first. - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm in high school and going through a rough patch in my relationship I have been with my boyfriendFor 17 months, sort of on an off, but 5 months ago we broke up and I slept With another male an yesterday he told me he had sex with another female after I told him ...
Views: 1502 - Without Ego - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2013 from Tina TessinaIn reading philosophical teachings and writings, I often wonder why the body and the ego are seen so negatively, as if they somehow are antithetical to spirituality. Although ego, body and mind are not all we are, each is part, an expression of the whole self, included in our precious gifts from ...
Views: 1501(5 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: What Is The Grieving Process? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: What Is The Grieving Process? What are the stages of the grieving process? How long does it take to go through each stage? Can one stage be relived over and over again? Is there a way to help someone through each stage? Dear Reader: If you've had a personal loss, I am ...
Views: 1500(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why Did you recommend not asking? - by Submitted on May 28, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read Age Differences in Dating I did date for about 3 years a woman about 4 years older than me. I love her still and we separated because one thing I felt was that she never wanted to open up about herself. The following comment caught my attention: ( I underlined and ...
Views: 1498(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I have a family member with two failed marriages - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have a family member with two failed marriages, after she asked for my advice I suggested a spousal abuse counselor for therapy. She didn't receive counseling and went on to a second failed marriage. This time even worse than the first. She doesn't understand the ...
Views: 1497(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Is it appropriate for him to still have her in his life? - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am going through a break-up this week and pretty broken hearted. My boyfriend and I currently dated for the last year and nine months and it ended this week. He is my age, mid thirties but when he was in his early to mid twenties he had an affair with a much much older ...
Views: 1496(1 vote) - Into Every Life - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2014 from Tina TessinaAs a parade went by, one of the horses pulling a float entry left a memento in the middle of the road, right in front of where we were watching from the sidewalk. From that point on, every band or group that came marching down the road marched bravely on, right through the pile of horse manure. ...
Views: 1496 - Dear Dr. Romance: I feel my sister's life is in danger - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I recently stumbled upon your article "Friends in Need: Interventions for Domestic Violence." The information you provided resounded heartily with me. Last fall my brother in law discharged a weapon DIRECTLY NEXT to my sisters head. She was 8 months pregnant at the ...
Views: 1495(3 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm in my late 40s and feeling very unhopeful about my future love life. - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I am in a terrible funk over a failed relationship that lasted 2 years and I thought would lead to marriage. We met online and now I'm afraid if I go online again, he will see my profile and/or I will see his. I took this breakup so hard, the thought of that happening just ...
Views: 1495 - True Beauty: Honor the god or goddess in you. - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2014 from Tina TessinaExtreme makeovers are all the rage these days, with botox injection parties, and reality shows. Plastic surgery is on the rise. Many people are trying to match the extraordinary measures actors and actresses go through to look perfect on the screen. These are shortcuts taken to try to ...
Views: 1495 - Dear Dr. Romance: I just want to bring joy and spice in their life - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: As I am approaching middle age, my kids are graduating from high school, I am a single woman, kept a youthful image, found myself many times attractive to older married men, I have been saying no, but now I feel free to say ...
Views: 1494(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Do I Tell Him I Can't Be His Friend or Let Silence Speak for Itself? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm in need of some serious advice, and I hope you can help. I've been in an extremely long distance relationship with someone for the past year and a half off and on. I live in the US, he lives in Central America. I am 6 years older than he is. I'm studying to be a nurse ...
Views: 1493(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: She is verbally abusive to me - by Submitted on May 29, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a retired police officer who found his wife sneaking around with another man 3 years ago. We have 3 kids. I cook and clean and up all night doing laundry 3 to 4 nights a week. I work two jobs to support my kids and family. I love my wife and forgave ...
Views: 1491 - Dear Dr. Romance: I would like to get out of this anxiety - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a 70-yr old man who has been married more than forty years. I read your article "Autonomy and Dependency" I feel like I've been in a codependency relationship the last fifteen years and havedeveloped anxiety & depression. My wife is a ...
Views: 1489 - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm in my seventies and he's 25 years younger - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I'm in my seventies, and he is 25 years younger.we met on a senior dating site almost two years ago, and have been living together for over a year. He and my daughter went to the same high school, and he says he was attracted to me then and always compared his other ...
Views: 1489(1 vote) - Lovestyles - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2013 from Tina TessinaIt was one of those magical encounters with a personal truth—you know how it feels. I was fifteen, in ninth-grade English. The teacher, Mr. Rizzutto, read us a poem, and it had such a profound effect on me that even five decades later, I’m still using it as a guide. The poem, “Outwitted,” by ...
Views: 1489(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: His Clutter Drives Me Crazy! - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I found you online when i googled "How to Live with a Slob". My husband and I are opposites in the area of how to keep a house -- i am very clean and he is, well, not at all. The clutter drives me crazy! It is just one more issue that impacts our relationship. ...
Views: 1488 - Dear Dr. Romance: I am beyond confused - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I need help! I am beyond confused. My husband is having an affair for more than six months with some woman who is 15 years younger than him. He lives with this women for all practical purposes and only comes home to sleep. He shows up at 11:00 p.m. at night and leaves by ...
Views: 1488(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Should I give up on her? - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance A question for you: I have a female friend that I dated for 7 months - she dumped me - and is, I think, dating some other guy. The question is: I have tried to ask her for 5 or 6 different events - and have gotten turned down for each one - with some excuse - the excuse sounds ...
Views: 1488(2 votes) - Keys to a Happy Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2014 from Tina TessinaEveryone wants the best relationship they can have. The markers of a happy relationship are: Cooperation/partnership, mutuality, laughter and affection. Whether you’re in a relationship now or hoping to be, these keys will help you create a more loving and happier partnership. ...
Views: 1488 - The Right Way to Love - by Submitted on May 14, 2014 from Tina TessinaThere’s a pervasive myth in our society that there is a right and a wrong way to love. However, there’s not much clarity about what the right might be. We all have difficulty with relationships and difficulty with love. Therefore, we’re liable to draw the uncomfortable ...
Views: 1486 - Dear Dr. Romance: the thought of seeing him have sex with other women bothers me a lot - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a bipolar woman with emotional problems. These problems seem to manifest most lately with my boyfriend whom I tend to blame for everything. I feel super insecure when we are out and he notices other women. He taught me a lot about sexuality and commented ...
Views: 1483(1 vote) - HOW TO KEEP YOURSELF OUT OF A VIOLENT RELATIONSHIP - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2013 from Tina TessinaIt’s not always easy to tell which strangers are dangerous, and which are not. Here are some guidelines for protecting yourself and telling the difference. 1. Don’t be alone with a new person too quickly, and don’t go to the other person’s home, or allow him or her in yours, especially if you ...
Views: 1482(3 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I feel terrible about not keeping the promises I made - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My story will probably sound like a thousand others you've heard, but I am in desperate need of some answers. I am in my fifties, my wife is a few years younger. My wife had a hysterectomy about 15 years ago, so menopause is not likely part of this equation. As you are ...
Views: 1478 - Dear Dr. Romance: I realize that jealousy may be the main culprit - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance Your web-site impressed me and prompted this note, and I'd appreciate your thoughts.I am a reasonably well-educated individual which includes a couple of degrees in psychology and have been quite successful in my career. My wife who is also well-educated and our ...
Views: 1476 - Dr. Romance video: Ask Dr. Romance: Should I Start a Family? - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2013 from Tina TessinaClick here for video Many men think it's exciting to be a "serial single guy" but at a certain point, life begins to feel empty. That means it's time to grow up emotionally, and consider making a commitment and building a life with more real satisfaction. The ...
Views: 1476(1 vote) - Wanted: Older Men - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2013 from Tina TessinaSeniors today are still of a generation that doesn't want to seem to plan for sex. And there's no need for birth control, so that motivation for condom use doesn't exist. Also, senior men may not have as inevitable erections as they did when younge, so that may make them reluctant to use ...
Views: 1476(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Our sex life has been very bad - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance My husband of almost 9 years just told me about 2 months ago that he is in love with someone else. About 5 years ago I caught him cheating on me with this girl and he told me that it was over and it was just for the sex. Then 2 years later I found out that he was ...
Views: 1475 - Tapping Your “Inner Mentor” to Create New Meaning in Your Life - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2015 from Tina TessinaSooner or later all of us question the meaning of life. The sooner we get to it, the better chance we have of finding a satisfactory answer. As a therapist I watch many of my clients pass through stages of personal growth. Once they work through the issues that have held them back, they often ...
Views: 1473 - Dear Dr. Romance: I am considering being a licensed psychotherapist - by Submitted on May 10, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am considering being a licensed psychotherapist. What was your education track if I may ask? Dear Reader: Of course you may ask. I was licensed in 1978, so things were quite different then. I took an independent study curriculum at Lindenwood Colleges, and I used ...
Views: 1470 - Dear Dr. Romance: They say I am a diamond as a man - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Thanks for sharing the great article "A Good Cry" !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have a question about it: "....If you're trying to help someone cope with a loss, don't try to make the bereaved person feel better. It just ...
Views: 1467 - Dr. Romance on The Colors of You - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr Romance writes: As life develops, many of us have an urge to focus on the deeper issues -- our dreams and goals, and our emotional and spiritual development. When this happens, life gradually becomes more about meaning and satisfaction and less about obligations and ...
Views: 1466(1 vote) - Family Violence Q&A - by Submitted on May 19, 2014 from Tina TessinaQ: My spouse and I often have arguments over the “small stuff.” How do we get past this so that we are not constantly bickering? A: I’ll bet neither of you would argue with your boss or work colleagues, or your children’s teachers the way you argue with ...
Views: 1466 - How to Avoid Financial Infidelity - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2014 from Tina TessinaThe most valuable thing in a long-term stable relationship is having a partnership, and most new couples don’t realize that money is a major factor in marital happiness. Money is one of the biggest generators of problems, arguments, and resentment in long-term relationships. Couples argue ...
Views: 1466 - Dear Dr. Romance: When younger sisters say hurtful things - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance My sister is 2 years younger and not long after my Dad died, I thought we should sit down and talk about things that needed to be done. She is the executor and took offense, accusing me of getting between her and Dad. Then, when my Mom got sick, she also got angry ...
Views: 1458(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: It is your Christian duty to forgive - by Submitted on May 01, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Thank you for your article on "Apology and Forgiveness". The process of forgiving is powerful and extremely helpful. I have searched for such information many years and have truly believed that forgiveness is not something you just do. ...
Views: 1456 - Dear Dr. Romance: Why Can't I Spark the Interest of a Woman? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read your Dr Romance Blog and a small paragraph on "10 Reasons to Dump a Guy." I'm trying to find out why I can't find a woman, or better put: why I cant I spark the interest of a woman? I'm 40 years old I was never married nor do I ...
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