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- The Power of Purpose - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2014 from Tina Tessina“Whatever your age, if you learn to listen, your inner voice will speak to you about your path,” writes oncologist Dr. Bernie Siegel in Peace, Love and Healing, your ‘job on earth.’ This wisdom that is directing you from within is your birthright... an inner message, an ...
Views: 1631 - Dr. Romance on shared laughter - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2014 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: A lighthearted approach to serious matters often is the most productive one. Imagine what your days would be like if you focused on having fun and making yourself and your partner laugh. Fun is also good for your health: Telling your partner the cute thing your kid said (or ...
Views: 1630(1 vote) - Relating With Love - by Submitted on May 12, 2013 from Tina TessinaWhy do relationship counselors, speakers and authors say repeatedly that your relationship depends on how well you communicate with each other? Because marriage is a partnership and to create teamwork, you need to keep each other informed, and keep yourself aware of your partner’s ideas, wants ...
Views: 1629(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm a single mother suffering in depression and stress - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a single mother suffering in depression and stress. I met my ex husband online, we fall in love and got married. He was a Middle Eastern guy. We had a daughter, the marriage didn't last long and we got a divorce. I was aggressive, i used to break things, yell at ...
Views: 1627 - Dear Dr. Romance: His moods are getting more and more unbearable to live with - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have been married for almost four years to a man twelve years younger. We have a four-year-old son. My problem is I need to find a better way of dealing with my husband's bad moods, which are getting more and more unbearable to live with. Occasionally I give ...
Views: 1626(2 votes) - Dr. Romance’s 3 tips to finding true love - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2013 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance’s 3 tips to finding true love: 1. Know the difference between fooling around and building a real relationship. You can mess around with anyone (if you’re careful and have safe sex) but before you bring someone into your life, or share money or living space, remember they’re ...
Views: 1626(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: My girlfriend has a driving phobia - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I was looking at the articles on your website and I really liked a lot of things that you have to say about dealing with life, ourselves,others, and the interaction of all three. I am contacting you in hopes that you might be able to provide me with some advice or lead me ...
Views: 1625(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am allowing my narcissistic ex to run circles around me - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I am mindful that I am allowing my soon to be controlling, narcissist ex ( civil law attorney) to run circles around me, just as we did when we were married. After attending a divorce group session at my local church, they recommend that I set up some specific boundaries ...
Views: 1623 - From Struggling to Solving - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2014 from Tina TessinaHealthy relationships are built on a foundation, or infrastructure, of clear thinking, problem solving, and mutual support. Any willing couple can learn to build a happy relationship, if they stop reacting and learn to respond thoughtfully. As an individual you have ideas and beliefs about how ...
Views: 1622 - Dear Dr. Romance: How can I make my family understand I love him? - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Ok so I am 19 and am kinda falling for a guy who is 20 years old than me. I am not asking your opinion on if it's wrong and nor do I want to hear "that's disgusting" my mother and father were 23 years apart in age. I like older guys cause I can relate to them better than guys ...
Views: 1621(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm married but I love somebody else - by Submitted on May 18, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I really admire how you advise people, please help me too. I'm married and I love my husband very much, but I love somebody else so much I don't know why although people say you can't love 2 people at the same time but I do. coz I love him very much and ...
Views: 1621 - Dear Dr. Romance: at funerals, how do you comfort families in mourning? - by Submitted on May 16, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: What suggestions can you offer for guests at funerals in regards to comforting families in morning? Thanks! Dear Reader: Your presence at the memorial or funeral, honoring their loved one who passed, is the most comfort, so go if you can. When you are greeting ...
Views: 1620 - Dear Dr. Romance: Every time I think about him it just hurts - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm hoping you can offer some advice. I recently fell in love with a guy going through a divorce. We weren't together for ages but I feel like it was. He was separated About 10 months when we started dating and he had confessed to having a crush on me for a really ...
Views: 1620(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: 5 Common Mistakes in Relationships - 5 Common Mistakes when Asking your Spouse for What You Want - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2013 from Tina TessinaThere are some common mistakes couples make when asking for what they want in a relationship. Here are some things that may be keeping you from achieving success with your spouse. They are the most common mistakes you can make when trying to ask for what you want when you're struggling to make ...
Views: 1618(3 votes) - Dr. Romance: 4 Tips for handling Post-holiday blues - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2011 from Tina TessinaDr Romance writes: Everyone is relieved when the holidays are over, and sometimes disappointed. If you're worn out, it's worth your while to take the time to recharge a little, and pamper yourself. Here are some hints: * If you are disappointed, and the holidays let you down in some way, ...
Views: 1616 - Dr. Romance: Into Each Life - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2017 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: As a parade went by, one of the horses pulling a float entry left a memento in the middle of the road right in front of where we were watching from the sidewalk. From that point on, every band or group that came marching down the road marched bravely on, right through the ...
Views: 1616(1 vote) - How Not to Fight-Myths about Fighting In Relationships, And What to Do About Them. - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2014 from Tina TessinaIn my counseling practice, couples are often surprised to learn they can communicate and solve problems effectively without fighting; but sometimes you may find it’s not so easy to give up your struggles. You may have trouble letting go of the fighting habit because of two factors: social ...
Views: 1616 - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: Alone on Valentine's Day? - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2013 from Tina TessinaDr Romance’s Happiness Tips Alone on Valentine’s Day? There's no need to mope around. Having a plan that makes you happy is the best way to fend off the blues. Gather your best friends around you and make some special plans to have a wonderful day. Send valentines or ...
Views: 1615(3 votes) - Emotional Self-Control - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2015 from Tina TessinaOne of the most powerful ways I found to stop being a doormat in relationships was to learn emotional self-control. When you’re too reactive to your partner, he or she can easily draw you into a fight that stops you both from focusing on fixing the problem. Self-control is not easy. In ...
Views: 1615(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why this compulsion to cheat? - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm looking at myself and asking the question, "Why this compulsion to cheat?" What will it take to keep my eye from wandering around? I'm divorced, technically, but trying to make amends with the ex. I love my kids, and an absentee father just doesn't fit my ...
Views: 1612(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am not sure there's any turning back - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My wife and I have been married for 5 years. We got married quickly - after only 9 months due to a couple of reasons. We have been fighting fairly regularly for several years -- and I think it comes down to us not having much in common - which I ultimately resent her ...
Views: 1611(4 votes) - Fair Fight Guidelines - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2014 from Tina TessinaThirty years of marriage counseling and twenty-five years of a second marriage have convinced me that fights are not necessary in a marriage. Married couples need to have discussions, they need to solve problems, and sometimes they need to disagree, but they don’t need to squabble, argue, ...
Views: 1605 - How To Avoid Loving a Jerk - by Submitted on May 29, 2015 from Tina TessinaAs I was swimming last week, a young couple came into the pool. Instead of doing laps or walking, like most of the gym members, they were just enjoying themselves. He started splashing her, and she said “Joey, stop it!” but she said it in a placating, whiney voice. He just kept ...
Views: 1605(2 votes) - Will Your Relationship Last? 7 Must Read Questions. - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2013 from Tina TessinaNumber 7 Might Shock You The way to know if your romance will last is to observe your partner's past and present behavior, especially in group settings, and to learn the proven skills to make marriage work. Because I see so much of the damage caused by people blindly connecting, rushing ...
Views: 1605(1 vote) - How Not To Be A Wicked Stepparent - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2013 from Tina Tessina4 Real Ways To Make It Work Are you a stepparent? Are you struggling to make the right decisions for your newly created family? If so, here are four tips to help. 1. Give your blended family a chance to bond. Don’t worry if everyone doesn’t settle in right away; bonding takes time. ...
Views: 1604(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: He would like to have sex every time he thinks about it. - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My partner says I turn him on which means, it seems to me, that he would like to have sex every time he thinks about it. It's almost too much and I don't know how to handle it. My background with sex, including the children's dad, has been: ...
Views: 1602(2 votes) - Dr. Romance: Finding your Next Spouse - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2013 from Tina TessinaYou're divorced and ready to look for a new love. Here are three tips to help you as you search for a new partner in life. 1. Know the difference between fooling around and building a real relationship. You can mess around with anyone (if you’re careful and have safe sex) but before you ...
Views: 1601(2 votes) - Friends With Benefits - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2014 from Tina TessinaIf you’re thinking about having sex with a friend, be very careful, because it is not easy to preserve a friendship once you have sex. We think we can control our feelings, but it's not so simple. • If one of you becomes romantically attached as a result of the sex, ...
Views: 1598 - Dear Dr. Romance: If I am not strong, I cannot be an example for my children - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am mid-thirties mom with 3 children looking to divorce. I read your article "Family Violence Q & A" and I decided to write to you for help to stand on my feet again. I was a homemaker since I had my first child, but had lived very unfulfilled ...
Views: 1596 - Dear Dr. Romance: It's tuff on me waiting for her to get it together. - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: How can I sign up for your Happiness Tips newsletter? I want to read "The One Who Got Away." Also which article would you recommend reading in my case? I met a wonderful lady who loves dancing like I do, and for almost 8 months she has been getting her house ...
Views: 1596 - A Good Cry - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2014 from Tina TessinaAt the end of a client-packed day, the trash can in my office is often overflowing with used tissues. Richard, seeing this, usually comments; “Good day, huh?” and we both laugh. He knows that, when clients cry, they’re usually breaking through and healing something. I’ve ...
Views: 1594(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Is she bipolar or what? - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm in need of some help. My partner has had some emotional problems and I don't know what they are. is she bipolar or what else? She gets angry about everything and is very negative, she is very incecure and thinks I dont love her even if I told her 10 mins ...
Views: 1594 - 7 Must Do's Before Moving In - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2014 from Tina TessinaNumber Seven May Be A Little Shocking Dr. Romance’s three tips to maintaining sanity during divorce. According to results from a recent GfK Roper poll, more than 80 percent of divorced Americans still believe in marriage, but we all know more than half of marriages don’t make it, for ...
Views: 1593 - Dear Dr. Romance: I caught him at the movies with her - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have been married for 15 years. At the present time we are seeing a Marriage counselor for our really rocky marriage. I know its going to take some time. We are working on trust, understanding, caring, appreciation, and a few others, all the essentials of a marriage. But a ...
Views: 1592(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I recently discovered numerous women he text messages - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have just read your article "Keys to a Happy Relationship" and would be greatful for some advice. I havn't been with my partner long. We are both in our twenties and we met a few months ago and already live together because it's the only way we could see ...
Views: 1592(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Attitude Adjustment - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: I have blogged before about emotional hygiene, and doing the necessary maintenance on feelings as well as your physical body and household. Health reminders tell us to wash our hands frequently to prevent transmittal of diseases. Did you know you can “wash” your mood, too, ...
Views: 1592(2 votes) - Dr. Romance on Attitude Adjustment - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: I have blogged before about emotional hygiene, and doing the necessary maintenance on feelings as well as your physical body and household. Health reminders tell us to wash our hands frequently to prevent transmittal of diseases. Did you know you can “wash” your mood, too, ...
Views: 1592(2 votes) - Weaving The Web - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2013 from Tina TessinaOprah Winfrey opened her school in South Africa in January, and was both praised and criticized. The criticism was that she was spending too much money on too few girls, because her school was lavish, free, and could only accommodate less than 200 girls. Aside from the fact that Oprah is ...
Views: 1590(3 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I discovered she is lesbian - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Nine months ago, I met a girl on Facebook. my words about many subject attract her , then she add me as her friends, and I discovered that she is lesbian. Before that, I didn'tknow there was lesbian world but when we chat I get to know her very ...
Views: 1588 - Your Job on Earth - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2013 from Tina TessinaIn Peace, Love and Healing, Dr. Bernie Siegel says: “Whatever your age, if you learn to listen, your inner voice will speak to you about your path... your ‘job on earth.’ This wisdom that is directing you from within is your birthright... an inner message, an inner awareness, that says, ‘This is ...
Views: 1583(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I loved her then and I love her today - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have read several of your comments in articles on the dadsdivorce.com website concerning when to introduce a new girlfriend to your children. I have a unique situation. I have been divorced for over a year two teenage boys. A few months ago a woman I met long ...
Views: 1581 - Dear Dr. Romance: What Is The Grieving Process? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: What Is The Grieving Process? What are the stages of the grieving process? How long does it take to go through each stage? Can one stage be relived over and over again? Is there a way to help someone through each stage? Dear Reader: If you've had a personal loss, I am ...
Views: 1581(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on spreading kindness - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2014 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance on spreading kindness Spreading kindness is the best way I know to be happy. If you want to spread kindness around, here are some ideas: *Kindness begins on the inside – learn to be as kind in talking to yourself as you are to others – then, keep improving. Self-talk sets the bar ...
Views: 1581 - Dr. Romance: Spouse's Child - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2013 from Tina TessinaInfidelity: 3 Tips on Finances after your Spouse's Girlfriend Has a Child It’s not the first thing everyone thinks of, but the existence of an out-of-wedlock child will have a big economic impact, and the financial responsibility will grow with the child. 1. Unless you can settle with ...
Views: 1581(1 vote) - The Fine Art of “Squirrel Hunting” - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2014 from Tina TessinaThe most frequent problem I hear from single clients is that of how and where to search for a partner. Many of them have been searching for a long time, without success; others have been afraid to go out and search at all. Most of the horror stories you have heard about dating occur when ...
Views: 1580 - Year of Peace - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2014 from Tina TessinaHappy New Year, everyone! This is the time when a lot of energy is spent on making resolutions, most of which we don’t manage to keep. So, this year, I propose a different kind of resolution. Will you join me in resolving to create a year of peace? Peace begins inside yourself. When you ...
Views: 1580 - Aspects of Love - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2014 from Tina TessinaAh, love! What rapturous, torturous words have been set down to try and capture the essence of love. Those clever Greeks, who invented the Olympics, also invented many names for love—Cupid, Eros, Venus, Aphrodite—and each name represented an aspect of love. The ancient Greeks had several words ...
Views: 1579 - How to Be Irresistible to Your Mate - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2014 from Tina TessinaOnce upon a time, In high school, I memorized a poem that has been a constant source of help and direction in my life and relationships. It’s simple and much more sentimental than today’s cynical age can handle, but the very simplicity of it made it a great navigational tool for me ...
Views: 1579 - How To Write A Love Letter - by Submitted on May 15, 2014 from Tina TessinaWriting has a powerful effect on our emotional state. The following exercise is designed to help you fully express feelings that may have lain dormant for a long time, or may be too intense and jumbled for your to process effectively. You’ll find it helpful in expressing what you feel, ...
Views: 1579 - Dear Dr. Romance: I just want to bring joy and spice in their life - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: As I am approaching middle age, my kids are graduating from high school, I am a single woman, kept a youthful image, found myself many times attractive to older married men, I have been saying no, but now I feel free to say ...
Views: 1577(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I keep telling him not to push me. - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I find your articles very interesting. I have a minor problem with my husband. he keeps telling me that I don't listen and that I am stubborn. I admit my mind goes blank sometimes because he expects a lot from me and treats me like a teenager. I keep ...
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