You can’t love without getting hurt!
There is no doubt that when a relationship comes to an end, the one who did not want the relationship to end will feel hurt. Even during a relationship when we experience disappointment we may also feel hurt. At these times we should think how we can be more trusting, caring, loving and forgiving. Here are two examples of love and how to approach love.
Khadijah, the first wife of Prophet Muhammad (PBUH)
Twice widowed, she had given up the idea of marrying again. However, she got to know Prophet Muhammad (before he was recognized as a prophet). Why did she change her mind about marriage – she observed his character and his honesty in dealing with her business. Although the age difference is disputed by some, she was significantly older than Prophet Muhammad (PBUH).
25 years of happy marriage
This marriage lasted for 25 years. The Prophet (PBUH) was monogamous (faithful, no other women). Khadijah was also loyal to the Prophet and supported him in all aspects of life. Khadijah believed in him when no one else did. She accepted Islam when others rejected. She helped and comforted him when there was no one else to prepared to help him.
COMING TO TERMS WITH LOSS
There was once a great alim (man of learning, wise). He loved his wife so much but she passed away. He was so sad at this loss that he locked himself away and refused to meet and talk with people.
A woman requested to see him on the basis that she wanted to ask him a question and that she must ask it directly. She waited and waited outside his door. The alim was informed of this and eventually permitted her to enter.
THE GREAT QUESTION
This is my question: I have a neighbour from whom I borrowed some jewellery. I have been wearing it for quite some time now. This neighbour sent a person asking for the jewellery. Should I give it back to her?
The alim replied: “Yes, you have to give it back to her.”
The woman replied: That jewellery was with me for a very long time. How can I give it?”
The alim replied: “In such a case, you should give it even more happily because it was out of her kindness that she allowed you to use it for such a long time.”
USE THIS WISE COUNSEL FOR YOUR SITUATION TOO
When the alim had said this, the woman replied: “May Allah have mercy on you. Why then are you so sad? Allah had loaned you something and when He wished, He took it back. (Because) it belongs to Him.
REALIZATION
Upon hearing this, the alim realized his mistake and benefitted tremendously from this conversation.
THE LESSON OF THESE LIVES AND STORIES
Love is a very precious thing and should you meet someone who loves you – treat that love as your precious jewellery. Be grateful for the time you have had together. Cherish it at the time and continue to love even if for some reason one of you has departed either to someone else in this life or to the next world.
LOOK UPON LOVE IN THIS WAY
Never regard love as something that hurts but something that is so wonderful when you have it. Love is just like a piece of valuable jewellery that a neighbour has lent you – be grateful for that time, cherish it at the time and cherish the memories.
Love is just like a piece of valuable jewellery that a neighbour has lent you – be grateful for that time, cherish it at the time and cherish the memories
An I CAN READ English specialist with over 20 years teaching experience, I have worked in the British Council and Linguaphone, well-known language institutions. I am a London-trained lawyer and have been the public affairs officer at the British High Commission, Singapore, as well as an editor in an international book publishing house and a national magazine. In 2006, I was appointed as an Ambassador of Peace (Universal Peace Federation and Interreligious and International Federation for World Peace). I am also co-author of two law books: English Legal System and Company Law, published by Blackstone, Oxford University Press. For enquiries about I CAN READ classes, email susanmckenzie2003@yahoo.co.uk. FOR DAILY BLESSINGS: www.abetoday.com