If you're reading this, I'm assuming that your marriage isn't going very well. As much as you're trying to fix things between you and your partner, nothing seems to work. I know how painstakingly difficult life can be for you. If you want to know how to save your marriage without your partner's help and get out of the depths despair of a loveless marriage, please keep reading.
When you and your spouse made the commitment to be with each other through thick and thin, you had no idea how tough things would get between you two. Do you feel as if you're the only one trying to fix your relationship because your spouse isn't doing their part to making the marriage work?
If this sounds anything like you, there is one thing you must keep in mind.
As much as you wish you could, there is no way you can control your partner's thoughts, feelings or desires. The more you demand something from them, the more you will cause tension and problems in your relationship. Why? Because no one likes to be told what to do or how to feel. At any point in your grown up life, has anyone ever told you how to feel? If so, I be you didn't like it one bit-- instead you rebelled against those who've tried to control you.
This is why no matter what you've done or said to try to make things between you two to work, nothing is helping. If you've already addressed the issues of your marriage to your partner but nothing has changed, it's because you can't change how your partner feels.
Chances are high that you're probably not same person your spouse married years ago. Back then you were carefree, optimistic, confident and happy (just as your spouse once was). Stress is the biggest marriage and relationship killer. Stress from life can deteriorate your relationship, especially if you don't cope with your emotions in a healthy and effective way.
Stress from life creates toxic em
otions inside of us to build up and when we release those emotions, a huge ball of negativity is thrown at the person closes to us-- our spouse. This is why relationships deteriorate.
The only thing you can do for yourself right now is focus on what you can do right now to help you feel better. Do you rely on your spouse to make you feel loved and valued? If so, you are relying on external circumstances to make you feel happy. This is the biggest cause to unhappiness.
Happiness is a mindset, not something you can hold onto.
If you want to feel loved and happy in your marriage, the first person you need to improve your relationship with is yourself.
The root behind a successful marriage is when each person in the marriage feel successful as an in individual (not as a couple). How you feel about yourself and the world around you will play a huge impact in your marriage.
My advice to give you is instead of trying to get your partner to love you, why don't you rely on yourself to feel special and cared for? By taking responsibility for your own emotions, you are taking the first step to improving your marriage, with or without your partner's help.
I know too well on how hard it is to save a marriage alone . The more effort and emotional energy you put into it, the farther away your spouse feels to you. If you really want to make your marriage work, there is something you can do TODAY to help your marriage.
If you still think there's a chance in saving your marriage and relationship, check out what this powerful yet simple Relationship Advice . Remember, do not give up hope. Your marriage still has a fighting chance to survive.