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- Releasing Fear - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWhether you realize it or not, a lot of our actions and reactions are based upon fear. For we believe what has happened will happen again. We let our imaginations run wild with the possibilities, whether harmful or not. We see the world through eyes connected to our past, for we can not ...
Views: 834(3 votes) - Become One With Everything - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2011 from Adam BenedettoReleasing the idea of trying to be something else, something more, and allowing yourself to become one with all that exists is a true possibility for you. It does have to do with believing enough in yourself, that who you are in this moment is enough without reaching any further. It is ...
Views: 4731(1 vote) - Being Connected To Truth - by Submitted on May 08, 2011 from Adam BenedettoContemplation of our existence is primordial; it is forever within our consciousness. It is part us to question where we come from, who we are, where we are going, and what is really important in our lives. We may think that we are living how we are meant to; holding onto the idea that what we ...
Views: 715(2 votes) - Being Happy Now - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2012 from Adam BenedettoWe think we need to be attached to things so we can be comfortable and happy. We think that by having one particular thing, we will be okay. We believe that by surrounding ourselves with our idea of happiness, then we will become happy. But this can not be further from the truth. The less we ...
Views: 1204(1 vote) - Being Present And Aware - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2011 from Adam BenedettoSeeing the moment for what it is, is important for how we relate to it. Without construing false pretenses or imagining outcomes, we let the moment be just as it is without further interpretation. To let the moment exist how it is, to be present with it, allows us to not only fully experience ...
Views: 976(1 vote) - Connect To Your True Self - by Submitted on May 17, 2011 from Adam BenedettoOpening up to your true self can be a very rewarding experience. It can shed light on not only who you are, but what you have become. Often, we do not see the real us. We get lost in our day-to-day lives, the managing of our existence, and forget to connect to the real us. Sometimes we may ...
Views: 1249(2 votes) - Find Out About Past Lives - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2011 from Adam BenedettoGaining knowledge about your past life can be very insightful. It can show you things about yourself and why they are there. It can lift you up. For seeing who you were and what you did gives you strength. Your strengths now, who you are today, often reflect the purpose of your lives back ...
Views: 968(1 vote) - Finding Friends - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2011 from Adam BenedettoHow do you create a new friendship and find someone who fits you and connects with you? It can feel hard, for if your job doesn’t provide that kind of openness or availability with others, then where do you look? Begin by finding a way to do what you like. If you are doing what you love, you ...
Views: 978(1 vote) - Healing Your Heart - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2011 from Adam BenedettoDuring certain experiences, we may find ourselves trying to protect ourselves by closing off our heart. We close off our emotions and shield ourselves from others and their behaviors so that our heart will not become hurt even more than it is. How others behave toward us affects our openness. ...
Views: 880(1 vote) - How To Be Centered and Balanced In Life - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2011 from Adam BenedettoSo you try to do all the right things in life; you try to be present and engaged, relating to the moment, seeking truth, and yet you still feel lost and drawn away from reality. How do you stay centered even when you try? There can be many things that unbalance us and keep us from staying ...
Views: 989(1 vote) - How To Believe In Yourself - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWhen you look at the very core of who you are and ask yourself why you believe you are worth less, what do you hear? What put this in your thoughts originally, and why is it there? For the doubt stems from somewhere, you didn't always believe less of yourself. At one point you created this ...
Views: 1109(1 vote) - How To Change Your Perception Of Life - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2012 from Adam BenedettoOpen up your perception of life and you will not only live life differently, but will see the world in a whole new way. Often, we can get locked into seeing the world as we think it is, instead of seeing what is real. This can come from how we feel about ourselves. We project how we feel ...
Views: 2711(1 vote) - How To Create Change In Yourself - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWhen you wish you could live your life differently, what is holding you back? If you truly want to change, what is stopping you, why can't you do it? For so many of us, we seem to be blocked by the inability to alter our own behaviors, even when we know we need to. What limits our capability ...
Views: 1195(1 vote) - Intuition and Self-Guidance - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2011 from Adam BenedettoIntuition is the part of yourself that is presented to guide and assist you. It is a call from within you to be listened to and believed. It is the truth of who you are reaching forward to be heard. Intuition plays many roles in its type of assistance, from small choices to important moments ...
Views: 1003(1 vote) - Learning To Relax And Be Present - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWe all know what it is like to be on the go, always moving and working at the next thing. Even our mind jumps ahead constantly, already beginning the next stage. What will you do tomorrow or the next day? How does it fit with what you have to do next? Whew, no wonder you are exhausted, tired, ...
Views: 1055(1 vote) - Letting Your Anger Go - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWhen we are angry, we feel like we have no control over it and that it overtakes us. Anger is such a strong emotion that once we go there, we are so riled up that the experience and how we feel tends to last a long time. Anger is an experience of not accepting life because it is when we choose ...
Views: 1100(1 vote) - Obsessive Behaviors And Their Source - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2011 from Adam BenedettoObsessive behaviors occur when one is trying to make themselves feel better; it is a mechanism created by the need to sooth, compensate, or satiate an issue. The behavior is a way of trying to balance out an internal problem. It is an unconscious way of trying to take care of an unrecognized ...
Views: 1206(1 vote) - Open Up To Your True Self And Destiny - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2011 from Adam BenedettoEach of us is meant for something in our lives. We have a purpose, a destiny, and a calling. We each have a plan laid out for us, a true purpose that is part of us. Many may never find this or feel it, never knowing their destiny or calling. It is there, everywhere around you and in every ...
Views: 784(2 votes) - Releasing What Is Old Within Us - by Submitted on May 15, 2011 from Adam BenedettoLetting go of everything that has been holding you back in life is not only beneficial, but it is also imperative for your well-being and who you really are. We are constantly changing and evolving, but often we lack the ability to free ourselves up from old ways of being and old habits. In ...
Views: 764(1 vote) - Surviving Traumatic Events - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2011 from Adam BenedettoIn the wake of traumatic events it feels like the world is closing in and nothing makes sense, not even what others tell you or how you feel. It can be very unmanageable in how you feel and think, like nothing is right and you don’t know where to turn. Yet this moment is when you need ...
Views: 1496(2 votes) - The Moment You Are In Is The Only One That Exists - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2011 from Adam BenedettoBeing in the moment is a very important tool to finding happiness in your life, for if we are forever looking elsewhere, we will never be happy now. If we are always looking back at the life we had, we are losing our presence in now. Living in the moment is about being present; it is being ...
Views: 1051(1 vote) - True Self and Your Destiny - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWe often go through life feeling like we are floating along, waiting for something real to happen and show us who we are and what we are meant for. But what happens when time keeps going by? Are you meant to be satisfied with your existence even if you still feel like you are waiting? Of ...
Views: 718(2 votes) - Waiting For Happiness To Come - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWe all seek happiness in our life; we all want to find peace, contentment, to be at ease, and feel fulfilled. And yet how often does this really happen, and what is the key to finding this? How can we live a life that provides not only this, but everything else we desire? How do we connect to ...
Views: 1716(1 vote) - Walls Or Barriers In A Relationship - by Submitted on May 22, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWhen we are in a close relationship with another person, sometimes we can feel the walls between each other. Sometimes, one of us may be trying to protect ourselves or hiding what we really are from the other person. After a while, this behavior becomes normal and thus is prolonged. If you ...
Views: 1567(1 vote) - When You Feel Overwhelmed - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2012 from Adam BenedettoWhen we feel ourselves closing off and retreating from life, when we feel ourselves holding ourselves back, we must search for the reason why. For when we see and understand this, we are all the more prepared to deal with it. Retreating is our attempt at not only hiding from reality, but ...
Views: 1293(2 votes) - Why It Is So Important To Love Yourself - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2012 from Adam BenedettoWhen we speak of love, we think of others and what they mean to us; we think of those we love. We do not, however, delve into what we think of ourselves and if we love the most important person to us, ourselves. Love, when given to ourselves, has the power to erase doubt, self-loathing, ...
Views: 7637(2 votes) - Finding True Love - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWe all desire to be with that special someone, to find the one we are meant to be with. Yet it feels hard and sometimes impossible to connect and to be found. There are so many people, so many to search through, so many choices. Yet even to meet the right one seems improbable. It is not. It ...
Views: 1105(6 votes) - Guiding Your Child - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWhen we are raising our children we are guiding them through life, giving them advice and teaching them what they need to know. Children follow by example; they watch and listen to everything we do. What habits we have in ourselves can follow them in their lives. How we look at the world can ...
Views: 1067(5 votes) - How To Achieve Prosperity - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWe are all meant to exist in a space that is effortless and transparent of need. The drive to excel for monetary gain is false for it will not fill the true need of wellness and satisfaction. Our energy desires for us to be connected to everything, it desires to be fulfilled and engaged, not ...
Views: 930(3 votes) - Struggle In Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWhen we are in a relationship we often have a hard time seeing the bigger picture, for under all the emotions and thoughts is the purpose for you being together. We are brought together with another person to find balance and love, not struggle, resentment, and confusion. Often we let the parts ...
Views: 716(2 votes) - Adjusting To Your Teenager - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWhen our children reach their teen years, they can become defiant and seem to be working against us. Why is this? Because they are trying to search out who they are, and in the process, their perception of you tends to change. This can be the hardest part; a once loving and rather obedient ...
Views: 1044(1 vote) - Approaching Someone That You Have A Crush On - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWhen we like someone, we may be afraid to approach them. We may have developed a crush and feelings toward them, but because of our fear of rejection, we haven’t spoken to them about the possibility of getting together. When we really like someone, approaching them feels even hard because they ...
Views: 3833(3 votes) - Checking In With Yourself - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2012 from Adam BenedettoWhen we wake up in the morning, what do we think about first? Is it what do I have to do next, where do I have to go today, or what needs to be done? How rarely do we think about how we are doing and what we need? So often we overlook ourselves from the very beginning. It starts when we wake up ...
Views: 1108(2 votes) - Contentment and Money - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWe often find in life that we are always seeking wealth, that we always need more, that somewhere around the corner we will find the excess we are looking for. There must be more money to be had, more wealth to be made, that we never have enough. Always looking, always seeking for more, leads ...
Views: 711(1 vote) - Dealing With The Loss Of A Loved One - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWhen we lose someone close to our heart we let go of a part of ourselves. In order to deal with heartache and loss we close ourselves off. By protecting ourselves at a time of deep grief and sadness we seek solace by not being present. How can one process something so big, so hurtful? How ...
Views: 1126(1 vote) - Finding Your Path In Life - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2011 from Adam BenedettoUnderstanding your path in life is more about finding out who you are than being who you think you should be. We often go through life living a blueprint of our lives. Following plans laid down ages ago, acting out a future to please others or even ourselves. We choose not to let go of the ...
Views: 1202(1 vote) - How and Why To Be Free Of Sadness - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Adam BenedettoSadness may feel like a part of you that is always there, never letting go, but it is only a state of being and not your true self. So how do you find your way out of it? What can bring you back up and help you to feel happy again? How do you let go of sadness? As crazy as this might seem, ...
Views: 796(1 vote) - Losing Yourself In A Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2011 from Adam BenedettoLosing yourself in a relationship is a common occurrence. It happens when we forgo our own happiness for that of another, when we give up on our self so that the relationship stays as how we think it should. We give our identity over to the combined effort of keeping the relationship in ...
Views: 3159(1 vote) - Stress and Your Past - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWe need to let go of our fears, for often the reason we are so stressed is because we fear a recurrence of our past. We fear what may be, and so our bodies are tense and ready for any outcome. We cannot relax into the moment if we fear our past coming back to us. Even if we seem at ease, are we ...
Views: 1178(1 vote) - Looking For Love - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2011 from Adam BenedettoDuring life, we all seek to know someone well enough to feel love and be loved; we seek to connect and be a part of another person's life. When we look for love, sometimes we are looking for a lot more than love itself. We are not just looking for someone to be with, but we are also looking to ...
Views: 1136(2 votes) - Letting Go Of Patterns In A Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2011 from Adam BenedettoIt is easy to get locked into patterns with another person and to find yourself expecting things to always stay the same. Patterns evolve usually because we are not allowing change to take place. We behave in set ways to either make ourselves feel comfortable or to protect ourselves. Patterns ...
Views: 901(4 votes) - How To Tame The Thoughts In Your Mind - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2012 from Adam BenedettoOur mind seems to wander on its own, seeming to escape our abilities to tame it. How do we go about harnessing our thoughts and controlling our mind so that we can be present? This is a very good question and one that many have tried to answer. But there is no one answer, for it really comes ...
Views: 1147(2 votes) - Co-Workers and Your Job - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2011 from Adam BenedettoSometimes the people we work with are not the ones we would choose to be around. We often do not click our co-workers and we find it hard to accept our place within the confines of who we must be to do so. Work alone can sometimes be stressful and hard to cope with, but adding the stress of ...
Views: 771 - Accepting and Becoming Yourself - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWhen we go through life sometimes we create an idea of ourselves, one which may not correlate to who we truly are, but only fits with what we think we are. There can be an imbalance between the two, that one outweighs the other. How do you find yourself when you have created layers of ...
Views: 665 - Become A Better Communicator - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2011 from Adam BenedettoCommunicating in a way that is easily understood can happen when you are truly present with the conversation and the person you are talking to. If we are lost in our thoughts, then what we say and how we say it could be different than what we mean. If we are emotionally distracted, our words ...
Views: 744 - Being Honest And Clear About A Relationship - by Submitted on May 23, 2011 from Adam BenedettoSometimes we don’t look that closely at our relationships because we fear that we might realize something we don’t want to see. If we keep our understanding of each other at a superficial level, then our expectations will be met. We try not to look too closely at what may be wrong within each ...
Views: 1117 - Being True To Yourself - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2011 from Adam BenedettoAwakening to your true self is like opening up to the truth. It is finding what you are meant for, where you should go, and what to do with your life. It is knowing from within all that matters and what is real. It is your truth that is most evident and that is pouring forth in your day to ...
Views: 603 - Connect And Make Friends - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWe all know what it is like to be alone in a room surrounded by others, to see faces and yet not know how to connect or belong. There are so many people in this world satisfied with only knowing a few people because it is easy and stretching further is hard. To have a base of friends is ...
Views: 1061 - Dealing With Hard Moments - by Submitted on May 08, 2011 from Adam BenedettoHow do you relate to the moment you are in when you feel like you are struggling or having a hard time? First, one must look at the reality of what is happening and where you are. It is very important not to confuse the present moment with moments from the past or worry about the future, ...
Views: 853 - Dealing With Stress - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Adam BenedettoStress is a development of how we see things; how we perceive the world around us changes how we feel. Do you take it all in or do it one step at a time? Do you look at all that is to be done and believe it has to happen now, that you must take care of it right away? Are you overwhelmed by ...
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