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- ***The Valentine's Day Gift of Time - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. In these tough economic times we think it is important to again remind folks that the best things in life are free. To love, to be loved, and to give the gift of time is the best gift you can give to someone. This is an especially important message ...
Views: 4447(37 votes) - ***Are You Scaring Away Your Chance At Love? - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzAre You Scaring Away Your Chance At Love? By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Several months ago we penned an article entitled, “Great Love Is Best Not Rushed.” Our principle theme was this – in the beginning of a budding love relationship, don’t get in a hurry in your quest for ...
Views: 3540(38 votes) - ***Toilet seats can come between you and your spouse! - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. As we say repeatedly, the simple things matter in love and marriage. Do the simple things and your marriage or loving relationship will prosper. Charley learned his lesson some 43 years ago! He grew up in a rural area of Missouri back when ...
Views: 4676(39 votes) - ***Marriage, Divorce, and Pre-Nuptial Agreements - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We have said it before and we now say it again – the divorce rate in the United States of America is NOT 50%! It is more likely, closer to 40%, perhaps, slightly less, according to some estimates. Here are the facts. According to Brad Wilcox in ...
Views: 5195(36 votes) - ***Building a Love that Lasts for a Lifetime - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America's #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Today is a day to remember! Our publisher officially released our multiple award-winning book in paperback! Our labor of love – our heart’s work for the past 26+ years – has come to fruition in a format that will reach even more people. Excerpts ...
Views: 4776(38 votes) - ***Make Love Your New Years Resolution - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. This is the time of the year when so many of us make promises to ourselves and to others that we rarely ever keep! These so-called “New Year’s Resolutions” sound good when we make them but, all too often, we ignore them by Valentine’s Day. You ...
Views: 3558(36 votes) - ***Parents, Love, and the Holidays - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. This Holiday Season again reminds us of the importance of being with those you love as you celebrate the joy of the season. We have heard repeatedly during our many interviews with successfully married couples around the world the importance they ...
Views: 3459(37 votes) - ***Tiger Woods in the Age of Infidelity - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. As you know, infidelity stories were at an all-time high in the media this year—from former Senator John Edwards and South Carolina Governor Terry Sanford to Late Night host David Letterman and Golfer Tiger Woods. It’s enough to make many people ...
Views: 3544(36 votes) - ***Marriage Can Last a Lifetime for Some Very Good Reasons - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Recently, we reviewed some research that addressed the issue of how to make the “romance” of a marriage last. While we think the essay generally reflects what we have found in our 26+ years of research on six of the world’s seven continents, we take ...
Views: 6275(42 votes) - ***On the Road to Love in Morocco - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. For the past five days we have been in two remarkable cities – Tangiers and Casablanca, Morocco. We came to Morocco by boat from Tarifa, Spain – a distance across the Mediterranean Sea of just nine miles. In many ways, however, the short distance in ...
Views: 4077(31 votes) - ***Love Like A Rock On Gibraltar - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Our ongoing search for the world’s best marriages took us to Gibraltar today, or as some refer to it – the Rock of Gibraltar. Doing interviews with happily married couples there seemed like a nice transitional thing to do since we are on our way to ...
Views: 3939(34 votes) - ***The Seven Most Common Mistakes Made By Marriage Counselors – Part 2 - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzContinued from The Seven Most Common Mistakes Made By Marriage Counselors – Part 1 By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. 4. Making marriage too difficult to understand when, in fact, “simple things matter.” We have been saying this for years – our 26+ years of research on ...
Views: 8164(38 votes) - ***The Seven Most Common Mistakes Made By Marriage Counselors - Part 1 of 2 - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We have studied successfully married couples for over 26 years on six of the world’s seven continents. We have traveled in more countries than we can remember. And while our focus has been on those who have made their marriages work; we are also ...
Views: 5807(38 votes) - ***The Future of Marriage - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. The fact of the matter is this -- marriage is alive and well in the United States and around the world! It is the single greatest contributor to social order on planet Earth. And the fact of the matter is this -- marriage is the most profound ...
Views: 3977(36 votes) - ***How To Talk Serious With Your Mate - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Over the many years we have been conducting research about love and marriage, we are continually reminded of the important role effective communication between couples plays in the overall health and well being of their relationship. The “heart ...
Views: 3933(40 votes) - ***How to Fall In Love Again with Your Spouse - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Let’s face it – we love our spouse more than life itself. And frankly, we cannot imagine life without them! But the truth is, from time to time, our love for each other needs renewal. While love can be forever, it often needs nurturance, ...
Views: 9322(42 votes) - ***Helping Your Mom and Your Marriage – Finding a Balance - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We owe our moms a lot. While we are lucky that we get to have them around, we have to find a balance between helping our mom and nurturing our own marriage. Over-committing time in a helping relationship at the expense of your marriage will, in the ...
Views: 3417(39 votes) - ***Lessons of Love From Your Dog - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. You can learn a lot about love from a dog. Over the years, we have learned much about the essentials of a loving relationship by observing our dog, Jake. We are proud to tell you that Jake is truly a Wonder Dog. He is loving, caring, intuitive, ...
Views: 3268(31 votes) - ***The Best Marriages on Six Continents of the World - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. The “heart of the matter” is this – successful marriages around the world are bound together by their commonalities – certainly not by their differences. Learn the lessons, emulate them, practice them, take them to heart, and engage in the simple ...
Views: 4415(28 votes) - ***The Recipe for Finding Love Again - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We know how you feel! Starting over is really difficult when it comes to love and marriage. Getting a divorce, breaking up, or losing the one you love due to their death can be overwhelmingly painful. The simple truth is this – you entered into ...
Views: 3732(35 votes) - ***When A Good Woman Marries A Bad Man - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We are eternal optimists – make no mistake about that! With us, glasses are always half full, not half empty. The sun is always shining where we live! We are eternally hopeful that tomorrow will be a brighter day – and it usually is! We love life ...
Views: 5073(31 votes) - ***Making Marriage Work in Tough Economic Times - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. There is an old saying that many attribute to a Chinese proverb that goes like this – “May you live in interesting times.” To say that is an understatement of our world today is, well . . . an understatement! We are experiencing unprecedented ...
Views: 5678(32 votes) - ***Tough Economic Times Can Strengthen Marriage - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Let’s face it – the economy of the USA is in turmoil. And the truth is, the unemployment rate is approaching 10%, and will probably exceed that rate in the coming months. The times are tough in America today. Not good news, for sure. Tough ...
Views: 4048(39 votes) - ***How Will I Know I Can Trust Him? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Here is an undeniable truth about life – actions speak louder than words! We know, you’ve heard this all before! But the truth is, you can, and must, judge a man by his actions and not by his words! Words are cheap. Actions mean everything! The ...
Views: 10783(39 votes) - ***Does Online Dating Lead To Marriage? - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Oh, the times, they are a-changing! This refrain is from a very famous Peter, Paul, and Mary song. And the truth is, people are finding love in different ways than they did is year’s past. Online dating is a reality today. According to recent ...
Views: 7990(37 votes) - ***Great Marriages Require Unencumbered Time - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Make no mistake about it – great marriages require unencumbered time! You have read our musings about the fundamental predisposition of every human being to have time alone – to have time only to their private thoughts. In our book, Golden ...
Views: 3997(37 votes) - ***The All Star Game and Summer Love - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. There is something about the summer that encourages love. Maybe it’s the bright summer sun. It could be the warm summer breeze. Maybe it’s the refreshing summer water! Perhaps, it is the summer vacation. And isn’t the All Star Game played in the ...
Views: 3414(36 votes) - ***Married With Children: Jon and Kate Have It All Wrong - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Like us, we are sure many of you have been following the on-going saga surrounding the so-called “reality” show, Jon & Kate Plus Eight. Well, it seems like Jon and Kate are going to go their separate ways – divorce seems eminent. Ah, but ...
Views: 3184(33 votes) - ***Cheating On Your Spouse Is Not Okay! - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. It appears that the Governor of South Carolina, Mark Sanford, has admitted to having an affair. His extramarital love affair with a woman from Argentina has again driven home the point that trust is at the heart of the most successful marriages, and ...
Views: 3251(43 votes) - ***What to Say to the One You Love? - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We have learned lots of interesting and important lessons from the thousands of successfully married couples we have interviewed over the years – of that you can be sure. There is no question – the wisdom of these wonderful marriages humbles us when ...
Views: 5491(39 votes) - ***Should You Try To Save Your Marriage? - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We have said for many years, “Most marriages and relationships can be saved, but not all!” And our corollary has always been – “Most marriages and relationships are worth saving, but not all!” Here’s what we mean. In the case of abuse – sexual, ...
Views: 3630(30 votes) - ***Infidelity is Not Okay and it is Not Forgivable! - by Submitted on May 23, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Frankly, if we hear yet one more person talk about infidelity in a relationship as if it were okay, not a big deal, and forgivable, we are going to get angry! We have studied the best marriages for more than 25 years and we know this – the best ...
Views: 5520(34 votes) - ***Love and Marriage Cinderella Style - by Submitted on May 15, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. The Cinderella Story is a wonderful story. It does, indeed, warm the heart. It certainly inspires. Love is always inspiring! But the truth is, it is an idealized version of falling in love that rarely ever approximates the reality or the truth of ...
Views: 2935(37 votes) - ***Is Advice About Marriage Fact Or Fiction? - by Submitted on May 08, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. As we prepared for the work of the day this morning it dawned on us while watching a television show – there is a lot of bad advice about marriage and relationships in the popular media today. We watched these so-called “experts” wax on about what ...
Views: 2494(39 votes) - ***A Symphony Of Love And Marriage - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Tonight, we heard the sounds of love! Over the years we have seen love, felt love, heard about love, observed love, and been in love. But tonight, we heard the sounds of love! We heard love tonight through the magnificent sounds of the St. Louis ...
Views: 3377(32 votes) - ***Simple Things Matter in Marriage – Even in Venice! - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Have you ever been to Venice, Italy? Wow, what a wonderfully romantic place! When you ride in a gondola together by Marco Polo’s house, stroll on St. Mark’s Square while holding hands, enjoy the grandeur of the Doges Palace, or share a bottle of ...
Views: 2561(26 votes) - ***Having Children Is Not The Purpose of Marriage - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. In the last several years a great deal has been reported about the purpose of marriage, lamenting the fact that Americans no longer consider children among the most important purposes of marriage. While most experts are concluding that this is a ...
Views: 3787(27 votes) - ***A Place Where Love Knows Your Name - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Once upon a time there was a wonderful television show called Cheers. It took place in Boston. Each day, the local patrons would gather at Cheers to discuss the events of the day, contemplate life’s burdens, explore life’s joys, and cry over a beer ...
Views: 2215(30 votes) - ***The Divorce Rate Is Not 50 Percent - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Let’s face it; the oft-quoted statistic that 50% of marriages in America end in divorce discourages a lot of couples who are contemplating marriage. Who could blame them? Who wants to get into relationships where there is the expectation of failure ...
Views: 6662(23 votes) - ***Prenuptial Agreements May Guarantee Failure - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We believe that Prenuptial Agreements are a bad idea, period! Just imagine, telling someone that you love him or her, but you don't trust them! To us, this is analogous to having two separate checking accounts in a marriage -- one for him and one ...
Views: 3898(31 votes) - ***So What Is This Thing Called Marriage? - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We live in a world of mixed messages. Our world is neither black nor white. The world we live in is full of powerful emotions. And the truth is, the world we live in is complicated – so very complicated. And for those of us who have lived in ...
Views: 2374(28 votes) - ***Caring For Aging Parents Can Challenge Your Marriage - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We are “baby-boomers.” Like some 80 million Americans, we were born during the period 1946-1964. We are that generation of Americans born to what former NBC anchor Tom Brokaw called, “The Greatest Generation.” Our parents survived the Great ...
Views: 4809(32 votes) - ***On Valentine's Day the Core Values of Love Matter - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2014 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. Commit to the seven core values of successful love and marriage and you can make your Valentine’s Day the best ever. We have learned a lot about successful love and marriage in the USA and around the ...
Views: 3847(31 votes) - ***The Valentines Day Touch - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts Give a Valentine’s Day present of touch to the one you love. What could be better or more meaningful? Here’s why it could just be the best Valentine’s Day present ever. We have been married for 42 years and simply can’t keep our hands off of each ...
Views: 2220(23 votes) - ***Love and Marriage in Retirement - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts You spent a lifetime together raising children, going to work, going to meetings, and in general, meeting everyone else’s needs. Whether one or both of you worked outside of the home, you are now retired, together in the house alone . . . just you ...
Views: 2502(30 votes) - ***Don't Fall In Love Blindly - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Here is an undeniable truth about life – actions speak louder than words! We know, you’ve heard this all before! But the truth is, you can, and must, judge a man by his actions and not by his words! Words are cheap. Actions mean everything! ...
Views: 5119(27 votes) - ***Marriage Caribbean Style - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Here we sit gazing at the beautiful turquoise blue ocean from our perch on the balcony of our room at the Marriott Casa Magna in Cancun, Quintana Roo, Mexico. We are conducting interviews of successfully married couples in Mexico as we continue ...
Views: 1902(28 votes) - ***Will Sex Save Your Marriage? - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We thought we had heard everything until this! We heard recently that the Reverend Ed Young of the Fellowship Church in Grapevine, Texas told his congregation during a Sunday worship service that he wanted married couples in his congregation to ...
Views: 4397(34 votes) - ***Marry The Right Person In The First Place! - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Did you ever wonder why some people find the perfect person to marry, do so, and enjoy a love affair that lasts a lifetime? On the other hand, some marry a person that is wrong for them now, wrong for them tomorrow, and wrong for them for a ...
Views: 5323(36 votes) - ***Parents and Holidays - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2008 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts A parent’s love is with you everywhere. Every time you are far from home you are never alone. Your parents are always with you. They think about you. They worry about you. They always love you. They love you no matter what. Truth is, most ...
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