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- Celebrity Workshop: Adolescents New Addiction - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2008 from sherry gabaA frantic mother of a 15 year old daughter of a local suburban neighborhood tells her therapist that her daughter has quit the cheerleading squad, no longer dreams of college and becoming a lawyer, and her childhood friends have been replaced with friends she has never met. Her daughter has ...
Views: 3046 - Why Putting Others’ Needs Ahead of Your Own Can Lead to Domestic Abuse - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2011 from narcissism curedIn our culture it is very common to teach our children, especially girls, that putting others’ needs before our own is the key to keeping harmony. This is how a person learns Codependence. But when you are dealing with a partner who believes it is your job to make him happy, which is a ...
Views: 3046(1 vote) - Unrecognized and Unconscious Emotional Injuries of Childhood, Part I - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from Carl H. Shubs, Ph.D.In Memoriam: Alice Miller One of the great advocates of children and their struggles against unrecognized mistreatment has died. “Alice Miller, a psychoanalyst who repositioned the family as a locus of dysfunction with her theory that parental power and punishment lay at the root of nearly ...
Views: 3036(16 votes) - Abusive Behavior Part 4 - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2007 from Wayne MisnerHow an abuser can become accountable to friends and family – Most important is that both parties achieve “Emotional Maturity” in their adult life. This one giant step may be the magic pill that you have needed all your life. ...
Views: 3026 - The Process of Healing a Broken Heart - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2010 from Greg BakerLoss of sleep, an ache deep in the bit of your stomach, frequent tears, a heart seems to get heavier as the days go on, depression, and feelings of isolation and abandonment are all signs of a broken heart. How, if possible, do you heal from a broken heart? There is no quick fix. If you are ...
Views: 3017(1 vote) - “It's All My Fault for Having Provoked Him” - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2012 from Sam VakninHow often have you heard the following phrases coupled with the most horrific physical, verbal, and psychological abuse: "It's all your fault, you made me do it" or "look what you made me do!" Abusers have alloplastic defenses and an external locus of control. This means that they tend to ...
Views: 3003(1 vote) - Rape And A Snake Phobia: Can They Be Connected? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2008 from Tania PrinceRape can have a devastating effect on a person’s life. Some of that effect can be easy to identify. It is not uncommon for people to have difficulty in sexual relationships, trusting, feeling an irrational sense of guilt amongst may other things. How else can it affect a person’s life? Can a ...
Views: 2971 - Serentity Prayer - by Submitted on May 07, 2011 from Patt MannaFrom Chapter 6 of my book Spiritual Infusion:Twelve Step Recovery and Revival Inside and Outside The church, you will find my study and commentary into the depth of this marvelous prayer and what it offers us in recovery. This is the long-form of the Prayer and warrants study of the words so ...
Views: 2968(2 votes) - How Does Childhood Trauma Affect The Brain? - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2011 from Dr. Jane SimingtonHow does childhood trauma affect the brain? Originally Published on November 15, 2011 on HotMommaGossip.com Written By Jane Simington PhD, Grief & Trauma Educator and Therapist Healthy bonding and attachment are crucial to development from the first days of life. Well cared-for babies ...
Views: 2960(3 votes) - Your emotional journey in the early days following your relationship break up or separation-What to Expect! - by Submitted on May 07, 2011 from James RichardsonFollowing your divorce,relationship break up or separation,you may be surprised and alarmed to experience both the strength and range of emotions that you are currently feeling. You may notice that your emotions are different to other people who are separated. This appears, in part,to depend ...
Views: 2958(1 vote) - Want To Get Rid Of Your Character Defects? - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2008 from Keith BrayAt this juncture of creating new footprints in the journey of life, I was well aware, more so than I’d ever been, of my defects of character. Awareness is wonderful, but I wanted change that would give me a much better life. I wanted my defects gone! By this time, many things had changed ...
Views: 2942 - How To Eliminate Guilt & Practice Total Forgivness - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2004 from Kent SayreEliminating Guilt And Practicing Forgiveness Today, I’m going to show you how to eliminate guilt and practice forgiveness. So you’re getting two for one today. Guilt is normally that nagging feeling where you feel bad for something you did. Maybe you did something that you wished you ...
Views: 2938 - Siblings - The Forgotten Ones - How Siblings Get Hurt - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2010 from Judy HerzanekThe Parable of the Prodigal Son While he was still a long way off, his father saw him coming. Filled with compassion the father ran to the son, threw his arms around him and said, "Welcome home." His son had come to his senses. "Let's have a party!" His brother refused to come ...
Views: 2910(5 votes) - Explore What Triggers Your Eating Disorder - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2012 from Michelle MorandHave you ever found yourself being defensive over what others have said? Do you react to comments and take it upon yourself to prove that you are right? This tactic only ever makes us feel vulnerable, insecure and small. It is an experience that will inevitably lead us to either binge or ...
Views: 2906(1 vote) - HEALTHY OPPOSITES - Change Your Behavior, Change Your Life - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2009 from Donna TorbicoFor ACoAs- (Adult-Children of alcoholics, abusers, abandoners & other narcissists) ACoAs know how they would like their life to be: TO have a fulfilling career, loving relationships, less pressure, a little fun... and they try, struggle, obsess - but not much changes. They become more & more ...
Views: 2878(5 votes) - SYMBIOSIS & ACoAs - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2011 from Donna TorbicoAM I ME, AM I YOU & ARE YOU ME? I hate myself, but I also want you to be exactly like me! SYMBIOSIS As infants, all humans are born with a built-in biological & psychological set of tendencies, which interacts with & responds to their specific environment in their own unique way - but ...
Views: 2878 - Vibration and Binaural beats making grounds while creating new brain pathways and finidng ways to help those with addiction - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2012 from Angela FriisStress it's all around us, most people feel the effects of it but do we really understand what it does to the body? Let's take a closer look at stress. Stress is linked to a number of illnesses or conditions from which our populations suffers including insomnia, eating disorders (eg., obesity ...
Views: 2824(1 vote) - How Rihanna Can Be a Positive Role Model for Teenagers - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2009 from Phyllis GoldbergChildren today are caught in the crosshairs of modern media. Technology has become their babysitter – reality TV, nude photos on the Internet, bizarre videos on YouTube, seductive text messages. It's time for these young people to be exposed instead to role models who have the potential to ...
Views: 2811 - Become a Therapist - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2012 from Rosemary PriceBecome a therapist - The problems that you could help others with are enormous, debilitating and horrendous. Something like agoraphobia can totally stunt a person's life as it does not allow them to go out. Someone who is recovering from abuse will be needing support too. Firstly let us ...
Views: 2801(2 votes) - Alcohol Awareness Classes Help Address America's Silent Killer - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2012 from Ari NovickAlcohol has several negative effects not he human body, most of which won't harm the individual who has a drink on occasion, as long as that occasion isn't every night. Alcohol is a silent killer because it works inside with no apparent harm until it's too late. Alcohol awareness classes can ...
Views: 2790(1 vote) - Freedom from Self-Harm: Specific Types of Psychological Treatments for Self-Harm - by Submitted on May 11, 2009 from New Harbinger PublicationsSeveral different types of treatment may be helpful for self-harm, including the following: + Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) CBT helps people learn new skills for managing their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors. CBT is often a fairly structured treatment, with a clear agenda for each ...
Views: 2776 - A Definition of the Word Abuse - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2009 from Karyn Maier“A Definition of the Word Abuse” is excerpted from The Spouse Abuse Tutorial located at http://www.comcom121.org/abuse. We begin with a definition of the word abuse. If you do a Google search for “define: abuse”, you’ll get about 30 definitions, no two are the same; there is no agreement about ...
Views: 2759(2 votes) - Graceful Guidlines for Sexual Healing - by Graceful Guidelines for Sexual Healing
Michael Picucci, PhD, MAC
The article below contains extractions from The Journey Toward Complete Recovery: Reclaiming Your Emotional, Spiritual & Sexual Wholeness. It has appeared in more condensed and more expanded versions in various spiritual, ...
Views: 2754 - Bad Mother, Good Mother, Good Son/Daughter: Offspring of Narcissistic Parents - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2013 from Sam VakninChildren of narcissistic parents grow up to become either sensitized or desensitized to narcissistic behaviours, traits, and personalities. In adulthood, sensitized offspring are able to rapidly discern the presence of narcissists by reading their body language and by resonating with subtle ...
Views: 2746(2 votes) - Narcissist Loves Pain: His and Others' - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2015 from Sam VakninBy Sam Vaknin Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" Most narcissists enjoy an irrational and brief burst of relief after having suffered emotionally ("narcissistic injury") or after having sustained a loss. It is a sense of freedom, which comes with being unshackled. Having ...
Views: 2746 - Taming the Beast - Improving the Narcissist's Quality of Life (Part 2) - by In the previous part we discussed the healing prospects of a Narcissist. yet, how can a False Self be anything but false? How can anyone on a permanent diet of reflections ever see true objects? How can the Narcissist - whose essence is the devouring of meaningful others and their transformation ...
Views: 2743 - The Erotomaniac Stalker - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2008 from Sam VakninThis kind of stalker believes that he is in love with you. To show his keen interest, he keeps calling you, dropping by, writing e-mails, doing unsolicited errands "on your behalf", talking to your friends, co-workers, and family, and, in general, making himself available at all times. The ...
Views: 2719 - Sexually Speaking - Love Wins - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2012 from Dr. Erica GoodstoneAre YOU hiding your true sexual feelings, desires and interests? Are you afraid to let your partner know you as you truly are? Why is sexual self-expression and sexual disclosure often hiding in the closet? We live in a free society that seems to allow open discussions about even the most ...
Views: 2717(3 votes) - "I Fear the Holidays: It is the Worst Time of the Year!" - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2012 from Sam VakninThe holidays season should be a time of family get-togethers, love shared, and relatives and friends brought up to date. Holidays are supposed to be the reification of that contradiction in terms: mass or group intimacy. Instead, for victims of family violence and abuse, the holidays are ...
Views: 2714(2 votes) - Self Control Is An Art - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2012 from Fariborz ArbasiWhat is self control? Self control is the ability to control one's feelings, emotions, impulses, and reactions. Effects of self control are seen everywhere, you can see it in the wealth of the people, winners medals, good habits, strong relationships, a beautiful music, magnificent buildings, ...
Views: 2704(1 vote) - The Five Best Friends of the Abusive Man - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2012 from Gary DirenfeldThe Five Best Friends of the Abusive Man Truly abusive men are out for themselves. These are the narcissists and sociopaths who walk among us in plain clothes. Abusive men rely on these five strategies to gratify their needs ahead of or at the expense of their partner: 1. Denial Even with ...
Views: 2704(1 vote) - Toxic Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2012 from Michael ClearmanToxic Relationships Every person reading this piece is either in, has been in, or knows someone who has been in, a toxic relationship. The term is self-descriptive, the relationship is poisonous, and it is deadly. Remaining in this type of relationship may or may not lead to physical death ...
Views: 2703(3 votes) - Sexual Addiction: A Brief Description, Part 1 - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2009 from Peggy FergusonIf you see yourself in this brief description of sexual addiction, it can be the beginning of achieving recovery and getting your life back. The hope is that there is recovery, that it is possible. "The journey of a thousand miles begins by taking the initial step". The good news is that you ...
Views: 2702(1 vote) - Bodily Effects of Torture and Abuse - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2012 from Sam VakninThere is one place in which one's privacy, intimacy, integrity and inviolability are guaranteed – one's body, a unique temple and a familiar territory of sensa and personal history. The torturer invades, defiles and desecrates this shrine. He does so publicly, deliberately, repeatedly and, ...
Views: 2683(1 vote) - Are you Addicted to Bad Relationships? - by Do you often find that you involve yourself in relationships that disappoint you? Are you not getting what you need and desire from the people you choose to date? Does there always seem to be something missing? If you answered yes to one or all of those questions, you could very well be addicted ...
Views: 2661 - Discover the 7 Steps That Will Make The Rest Of Your Life - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2008 from Johnny MorneyNever in my wildest dreams did I ever think I would become an award winning international speaker, international businessman and bestselling author. Let me explain why I felt that none of these things were within my reach. Today I truly believe that greatness, prosperity and success are our ...
Views: 2650 - What Are You Doing In Front Of Your Children? - by Kids mimic their parents, even if they don't understand what is going on. What are you doing in front of your children?
Do you want to be spontaneous in the act of making love, and does that mean in front of the kids? Regardless of the consequences?
And what are the consequences? This, ...
Views: 2649 - Finding Clarity - Dealing With An Addicted Loved One - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2009 from Joe WhiteIt was 15 years ago and my life was different. Growing up I didn't plan on being a drug addict. I came from a good family, parents who loved each other and their kids. As a matter of fact this year they are celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary. All the love and good upbringing didn't ...
Views: 2644(2 votes) - Seeking Guidance from God in Today's A.A.? - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2010 from Richard Burns, J.D. (pen name Dick B.),Seeking Guidance from God in Today's A.A.? “Go with the Winners” and Follow the Original Akron A.A. “Christian Fellowship” Program Dick B. © 2010 Anonymous. All rights reserved The following verses from the Book of James show specifically why and how to seek the wisdom of God. As A.A. ...
Views: 2616(2 votes) - CHILDREN OF ALCOHOLICS: RISKS AND RECOVERY - by Many children of alcoholics (COAs) leave the family they grew up in vowing “I will never become an alcoholic like my father/mother” Or, I will never marry an alcoholic.” Many do become alcoholic. Many do marry alcoholics. Very many suffer in adulthood from self-defeating patterns resulting from ...
Views: 2615 - The Aftermath Of Child Molestation - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2012 from Nathan DanielsWhen I was six years old, I became a victim of child molestation. The atrocious acts continued for close to a year, before my mother discovered the horrible secret and put an end to the nightmare... or so I thought. Let me tell you how, for most of my adult life, I've continued to allow myself ...
Views: 2612(1 vote) - Is Your Child Struggling? - by Submitted on May 13, 2011 from Leslie YouraIf you have a child that seems to excel at everything he or she does in the academic realm then you are very lucky. This is not something that every parent is able to report when speaking about their children. There are times when children struggle in school. When this happens it can be very ...
Views: 2602(1 vote) - The Logic Of Binge Eating - by Submitted on May 09, 2012 from Michelle MorandHave you ever wondered why you feel compelled to do things or say things that you don’t want to? Have you ever found yourself overeating, dieting, drinking too much, spending too much money, procrastinating on things or isolating rather than socializing? If you would like to finally understand ...
Views: 2594(1 vote) - The Advent of Heroin - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2012 from Cheryl HinneburgEverything about heroin has changed full throttle during the past fifty years or so. The mid 1960’s saw a surge of illegal heroin being smuggled into the US and by 1970 there were close to a million heroin addicts in the US alone. Much of this was blamed on Vietnam, the Corsican gangsters, and ...
Views: 2585(1 vote) - How Common Is Self Harm? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2013 from Jennifer McLeodShockingly, 2% to 6% of the general public had engaged in self-harm at least once in their lifetime. Where the peak of self harm actions are among students, ages 16 - 22, see falls in 13% to 35%. For most, the problem will resolve before adulthood but sadly, 10% of the remaining still continues ...
Views: 2583(1 vote) - FACE-BLINDNESS & TRAUMA - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2012 from Niama WilliamsDr. Niama Leslie Williams March 20, 2012 It was not until I watched the 60 Minutes story this past Sunday, March 18th, 2012, that I realized I had written about a type of face-blindness in my first novel, a senior project completed for my undergraduate degree in Comparative Literature at ...
Views: 2564(1 vote) - Four Steps for Empowering Change - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2012 from Sandy Brewer, PhDFour Steps for Empowering Change By Sandy Brewer, PhD ©2012 Change is tricky. We begin with the best of intentions but even when we perceive that we are putting our proverbial best foot forward, our efforts often only meet with failure. So how can we bring purposeful change into our ...
Views: 2562(1 vote) - LIFE'S DETOURS CAN BE BLESSINGS IN DISGUISE - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2011 from Chelle ThompsonMany years ago, I was awakened in the middle of the night by the first verse of a poem — which would be called "DETOURS" — as it was blossoming in my head: Sometimes we experience slight dimensional snags ...Like catching your sleeve on an unforeseen splinter As you move through the ...
Views: 2546(2 votes) - PARENTAL BLAME - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Donna TorbicoWe hear a lot in the ‘spiritual’ community about forgiveness- ie - not blaming. That applies to the present - if you’re an adult. And that’s a discussion for another blog. BUT this entry is about what happened TO US as children. A hallmark of alcoholic (& other emotionally unhealthy) ...
Views: 2540 - Toxic Words: Verbal Abuse Can Hurt You - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2009 from Linda Pucci"Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me" Remember that old saying that we used as kids to try to cope with name-calling? It probably wasn't very successful then, and in fact, just isn't true. We now know that words can hurt. We always knew that words could ...
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